Today’s Nugget: Stop Complaining And Start Living

Complaining often starts when we take our eyes off the Lord, and instead focus on our circumstances. Resist the temptation to be a complainer. Keep your eyes and your focus on God. God is always there. God is in control. When we keep complaining, we display a lack of faith in God. Remember that God’s plans and purposes are always greater than our problems – ALL things work together for the good of those that love God.

Don’t Quit

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will.

When the road you’re trudging seems all up hill.

When the funds are low and the debts are high.

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh.

When care is pressing you down a bit.

Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with it’s twists and turns.

As every one of us sometimes learns.

And many a failure turns about when he might have won had he stuck it out:

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow

You may succeed with another blow.

Success is failure turned inside out.

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt.

And you never can tell how close you are.

It may be near when it seems so far:

So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit.

It’s when things seem worst that you must not QUIT…

Repost: You Grow From Your Challenges

Another Reminder!

So I learnt something about Happiness today. Happiness is a decision.

And sometimes happiness is not really a ‘thing’ at all, but a decision. Deciding to live with a spirit of gratitude. Choosing to be thankful, to see the bright side, to love and smile and have hope, regardless of what’s in the way. Accepting that you cannot change everything, but you can adapt your attitude. And letting yourself heal.

Happiness comes for no reason at all, other than because you decide you want it there.

When we Release what is not meant for us. Release what has abandoned us. Release what has attempted to destroy us, hold us captive, bring us down. Release the pain we’ve been holding in our chest. Release the anxiety, the anger, and the fear.

So choose to be thankful in the challenges. Choose to see the bright side, the healing, the places you will go and people you will meet next.

Have a wonderful day!

At The End Of The Day, God Will Always Be The Sour

At the end of the day, God will always be the source of my strength. He’ll always be the source of hope that gets me through the toughest times. He’ll always be the source of courage that makes me want to get up in the morning and try again or try harder. He’ll always be the source of light when the road is dark and unclear.

At the end of the day, God will always be the source of my optimism because I have faith in him. I have faith in his plans and his justice. I have faith in his lessons and his timing. I have faith in his losses and his blessings. I have faith in his guidance and in the path he chose for me. I have faith in his mercy and in his miracles. I have faith in him because every time I lost hope, he blessed me with something to be grateful for and every time I thought he was punishing me, he was actually releasing me from a poisonous cycle. And every time I felt dead inside, he brought me back to life.

At the end of the day, God will always be the source of my comfort. I find comfort in my work and with the people I love but I know that everything can change in the blink of an eye. I know that no matter how solid everything seems, it can easily dissolve except for him. He’s the only constant in my life. He’s the only one I can lean on without the fear that he’d change or let me down. At the end of the day, God will always be the reason behind every success and every achievement and every obstacle I overcome.

At the end of the day, God will always be the source of my happiness. When he listens to my prayers and answers them. When he redirects me to an even better destination than the one I had in mind. When he pushes me to bring out my talent or my strength or my resilience every time I’m close to giving up. When he nudges me to wake up and walk away from toxic people. When he helps me detach from the things that are not meant for me.

At the end of the day, God will always be the source of my strength because he’s the only one who hears my most terrifying thoughts and calms me down and he’s the only one who reads my mind and knows what’s in my heart and somehow eases them.

At the end of the day, God is always with me through the darkest and most painful times, I know he won’t abandon me and that gives me all the strength I need to power through and it makes me unafraid of falling down because he will always be right there to pick me up.

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There’s Beauty In Your Scars And Stories

Every scar tells a story. Every scar changes you. Every scar makes you even more beautiful.

The scars in your heart tell a story of bravery and vulnerability. They remind you of all the times you fell in love and the times your heart was fluttering with happiness. The times you put someone else’s happiness above your own and the times you believed against all odds. They remind you of the times you truly loved even though you swore you would never fall for anyone again. They remind you that even when your heart breaks, it still believes, it still hopes, it still finds the courage to try again even if it means adding one more scar.

The scars in your head take you back to all the battles you had to fight with yourself, how you learned to silence the toxic thoughts, how you managed to stop fear or self-doubt from getting to you when you wanted something that you didn’t know you could get. They take you back to all the times people let you down or told you false stories about who you are. They take you back to all the childhood messages you had to erase so you can start over, so you can begin again, so you can heal.

The scars on your body also tell a beautiful story of how you overcame pain or the bruises that came with crazy adventures and bold attempts. They remind you of your reckless days and your sleepless nights. They remind you that eventually the wounds heal and the pain slowly fades away. They remind you that things have a way of coming back together even if they’re sealed a little differently. They remind you that you can survive and that you’re a fighter. They remind you of all the times you got back up after life knocked you down and they remind you that life is full of bumps and bruises but it’s still worth living. It’s still beautiful and it’s worth fighting for.

There’s beauty in your scars and the stories they tell because they remind you of your strength and your healing. They remind you that at one point you showed up and you weren’t scared and instead of being ashamed of your scars, you wore them with pride. And for that, I’m proud of you. I’m proud of the way you wear your scars because they are deep and powerful and they hold a thousand beautiful untold stories.

Weekly Nuggets: The Righteous Age of No Sinners

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When we cling to Jesus, we can believe He will change our broken hearts. When we view ourselves as independently righteous, we believe we don’t need change – Eric Nelson.

In Christ, we are free to acknowledge our sins. That is one way we differ from the ways of the world. We have the freedom to rest in the perfect righteousness of Christ and admit our sins. We don’t live in the world holding on to our burden of sin. Rather we express our sins and admit we are no longer self-relying beings.

We show the world that we are vulnerable because we are loved and freed by Christ. Freedom doesn’t rest in the approval of the world; it rests in God has already approved of us. By faith, we are redeemed by the grace and the peace of Christ. A grace that covers us and a peace that grants us freedom in our weakness.

God commands us to live in the world but not to be of the world (John 17:14-15). We can be vulnerable in our admittance of sins to God and others. It will express your reliance on God and may bring encouragement and healing to someone who’s living in the false righteousness of our world.

The broken-hearted whore clinging to Jesus? Society says they are despicable and far from God.

The upright citizen doing so much good? Society says they are doing good for themselves.

When we cling to Jesus, we can believe He will change our hearts. When we cling to our self-righteousness, we can believe we don’t need a change of heart.

Prayer: Lord, may I cling to you in the midst of my sin. Reveal to me in your Word and my conscience all sin and whatever is not honoring to you. Lead me to the way of your Son. When I commit sin against You, may I confess it, repent of it and rest in your grace and peace as you work to change my heart. Amen.

Stuck? Why We May Not Always Understand God’s Decisions But They’re Always In Our Favour

We may not always understand the way God shapes our lives, we may not always understand why he sometimes chooses to teach us the hard way and we may not always understand why he simply delays our wishes, our prayers or our desires knowing how much we need them, how much our heart aches for them and how patient we’ve been waiting for certain things to happen.

We may not always understand what he’s trying to teach us but somehow all the pain we went through, all the things we’ve been tested on and all the setbacks and the delayed prayers make us better people, they make us more resilient, more grateful and they make us wiser and stronger. They teach us how to adapt to unfamiliar situations, how to roam new roads calmly, and how to fight harder for the things we truly want.

We may not always understand heartbreak, why God made us fall for people who broke us or betrayed us. Why he moved our hearts for people who took us for granted or were too selfish to give us the love we were looking for and we may not always understand why he didn’t change our feelings before we fell too hard and why it was hard to forget the people who hurt us most but eventually we learn how to live again without them, we learn what we deserve and we learn how to love ourselves a little bit more so we don’t allow others to diminish our value or decide our worth. Eventually, we learn how to be alone because more often than not, we will have to fight the toughest battles alone, and more often than not, we will climb the steepest mountains alone.

We may not always understand loss or grief, why we lose our loved ones too soon, or why life separates us from the people we need the most. We may not always understand how our worst nightmares are good for us or essential for our growth but we end up learning that sometimes those tragedies are the turning point in our lives, the incidents that shook us also changed the way we live, changed our character and changed our perspective; how we look at life and how we look at people. We end up learning that when some things die inside of us, we become fearless and somehow pursue everything that used to scare us and we start going after the things that we kept postponing.

We may not always understand God’s decisions even if they cause us pain, confusion, or heartbreak but they’re always in our favor even if we can’t see it yet. Time will always reveal the truth and connect the dots so we can see that everything we questioned was exactly what needed to happen so we can get to a much better place and get a much greater reward than what we had originally planned for.

Source: Rania Naim

Make Lemonade

Hey guys!

Most of us are familiar with this quote: If life hands you a lemon – make lemonade.

It is inevitable that not everything you do, all the time, will go according to plan or make you happy. In other words, try to turn your setbacks into a positive, and never simply accept that something g went wrong making you uncomfortable/unhappy, and that there is nothing that can be done about it.

Take for instance, you try starting your car but it didn’t respond. Everyone knows how frustrating that is, especially when you have an important meeting or engagement. Well the fact is that you have to accept the frustration, but at the same time recognize that you have been presented with some unexpected opportunities to make yourself happier. You can now take a walk and enjoy the fresh air and use that as an exercise, instead of sitting in traffic, or been stopped by VIO or road safety in the case of my country Nigeria.

Setbacks can free you to do something you will enjoy. Never allow setbacks to push you back always, find a way to turn it to your advantage.

How do you react in times of setbacks, troubles, or challenges?

The Happiness You Seek May Not Present Itself The Way You Had Anticipated

Who can relate?

Since happiness can come in many forms, such as joy, fulfillment, contentment, euphoria, etc. It can sometimes be difficult to see when you have accomplished your goal of being happy.

If this sounds strange, then look at it this way.

If you had imagined that to be really happy you would need to be retired, with an excellent pension, so that you have both the time and money to do things you enjoy, then it can come as a surprise to find that if you simply reorganise your working week, go part-time and prioritize your hobbies, you are already nearly there!

The reason for this is that you had anticipated needing time and wealth in order to be happy, when what you actually needed was time and the ability to reallocate your resources. Furthermore, you may have expected that you would need to retire in order to free up your time when in fact cutting down on your working hours, or working from home part of the week can also accomplish the same thing.

Necessarily, if you are willing to encompass happiness in whatever form it may present itself, and even to enjoy it in different forms according to the occasion., then you are likely to lie low in far more places than you imagined, just waiting to be unearthed and enjoyed. Don’t forget that the journey can provide happiness along the way too, so try to get into the habit of enjoying what you have, at each point along the way.

NB: Happiness can both be subjective and elusive, but it can also be found in the most unlikely places, and on a daily basis.

Have a wonderful weekend.

Today’s Nugget: Get Real

Hey guys!

Everything I post on this platform is a true life experience and story I share. Even in the midst of the storm, I still try to keep myself positive and also share with others how we can all overcome anger, disappointment, and challenges.

Being in control of your life and having realistic expectations about your day-to-day challenges are the keys to stress management, which is perhaps the most important ingredient to living a happy, healthy and rewarding life.

We must accept that you might fail when you try your best and still don’t win, at least you can be satisfied that you’ve tried. If you don’t accept failure as a possibility, you don’t set high goals, you don’t branch out, you don’t try- you don’t take the risk.

Be realistic about what you can do and what you can’t do. So whatever you do must really worth it.

Credit to: Queen Latifah, Rosalynn Carter, and Marilu Henner.

True Story: Battling Addiction is a Life-Long and Difficult Struggle- Ben Affleck

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We all have that one thing we are addicted to. No addiction is small nor big. So far, it affects us one way or the other, it is bad. Addiction can take a lot from us but it’s best we find a solution and try to quit the habit. It is not an easy ride but eventually, it is worth the battle.

Ben Affleck is a Hollywood superstar. Ben Affleck’s life story is a motivational one for all the people fighting their addiction. He understands the difficult struggle, a dedicated person goes through to get rid of their addiction. Ben Affleck’s life story with his wife Jennifer garner can be an inspiration for you and might light a spark in you to change and improve your life for the better.

It is hard for one to put up with an addicted person. But it takes courage and support to help them mentally and physically. Ben Affleck’s ex-wife Jennifer watched him suffer for 13 years. She reportedly seemed visibly shaken after meeting with Affleck.

His drinking problem had become life or death. They have really worked on their marriage and they just couldn’t do it anymore. These words spread all around.

I never thought I was going to get divorced. I didn’t want to get divorced. I really did not want to be a split family. It was quite upsetting because it meant I wasn’t who I thought I was, and that was so disappointing and so painful, and people’s reaction about am I serious about my recovery? was absolute not. They advised Jenn to set her boundaries.  I really don’t want my children to pay for what I did. You’re trying to do right by your kids and you’re trying to protect them. You could tell you still love her when you just talked about her- Ben

Jennifer supported me in every step. “You know It’s bad enough absolutely. It’s hard enough.” Jennifer to the paparazzi.

Jennifer always wanted to raise a happy family like her parents. How could she give their kids that feeling and freedom and joy? but after her first marriage fell apart, Jennifer thought she’d missed her chance.

So, when Jennifer fell for Ben Affleck, she finally got her second chance at true love and when they got married a year later, Jennifer vowed she would make it work no matter what. How things are going mommyhood is going. It’s like the most, it just gets better and better for the next decade, Jennifer and Ben were Hollywood’s IT couple. Jennifer helped Ben clean up his playboy image and focus on his work. Ben Affleck, Argo.

I, always and still thank my wife for being the reason I’m standing here, I adore her, I love her so much. She is my everything. I thank her for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases. It’s work, but it is the best kind of work and there’s no one other than Jennifer, I’d rather work with. They looked like the picture-perfect family on the outside but ben’s long battle with sobriety had taken a dark turn.

Jennifer tried desperately to cling to the broken marriage, but it was too late.

In 2015, the couple announced their separation.

She realized, “I can’t go down this rabbit hole.” She just shut it all out. I was like “you don’t care about me, how could you not care for us?” she’s like, “no, actually it’s the opposite. I care too much, it’s too painful.”

But little did we know, it was about to get much worse. what was the hardest thing for you to be honest with yourself about? That I was going to get divorced. I never thought I was going to get divorced, and I didn’t want to get divorced. I didn’t want to be the worst person,  I really didn’t want to be a split family.

The collapse of his marriage sent Ben down a dangerous path he was spotted receiving what looked like delivery of beer and whiskey at his home. It quite upsetting for me because it meant I wasn’t who I thought I was, and that was so painful and so disappointing.

Still feeling responsible, Jennifer rushed to Ben’s side Jennifer refused to give up on Ben because she knew her children needed their father.

You can’t buy parenting, you have to get down on the floor and play. Even if you’re a super busy mom or dad, you have to find time for your kids. She lost the dream of dancing with me at our daughter’s wedding, and if you see your kids love someone so purely and wholly then you’re going to be friends with that person.

But no matter how hard she tried, Jennifer couldn’t fix it. I was totally manipulating the rehab. 8:30 this morning I left the treatment center to play a 3 hour game of basketball. Garner reportedly seemed visibly shaken after meeting with me.

After sticking by me for 13 years, Jennifer finally had to let go and that turned out to be exactly what I needed to stand on my own. I really don’t want my children to pay for what I had done. Or to be afraid for me.

I don’t really have a choice. I have to be the man I want to be at this point. I don’t have any more room for failure of that kind.

Without Jennifer to lean on, I was forced to take responsibility. There are things that I would love to go back and change. I have regrets. I’ve made plenty of mistakes, some big, some small.

Once I had finally accepted my past, I could focus on my future:

Becoming the man Jennifer always believed I could be. I took the last half of the year off and I just got to be a dad. Drive them to school, pick them up, go to the swim meet, that’s where the parenting happens. It’s in the cracks, it’s in the moments where you’re just taking them back from soccer and they say something profound or they talk about how they’re really feeling about something. That’s the joy of it and that’s what I don’t want to miss.

Today, I continue to work on myself while putting my children before anything else and Jennifer may not have the marriage she always dreamed of but her children have the parents they need.

Addiction has its consequences that affect people around us.

The story ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner shows us that everyone makes mistakes but when you’re a parent, nothing comes before the safety and happiness of your children.

If you can just have faith in who you are and who they are as people, it’s so beautiful when you see it starting to come out.  you could tell you still love her when you just talked about her. Of course, she’s wonderful. you know, somebody who’s the mother of your kids, they’re going to be the most important central person in your life. That’s really admirable how you and Ben Affleck have both, it’s all about children first and being a team.

It has to be.

NB: Don’t get addicted to things. If you see a sign at an early stage, please try to prevent it. If not, it becomes a struggle. Everyone has one.

Don’t judge, be the solution.

Today’s Nugget: Learn To Accept The Imperfect

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Needing everything to be perfect in order to make you happy is a quick route to being unhappy most of the time. If you are only ever happy with perfection, then you will severely limit your chances of being happy since perfection, in anything, is difficult to achieve; expecting everything in your life to be perfect, is near impossible. So does this mean that you will have to lower your standards in order to be happy? Happily, it doesn’t. Your standards can be set as high as you wish, but what you will need to learn to adjust is where you set your sights. Having high standards is all well and good, but needing everything to be 100 percent correct can quickly provide a tangible barrier to happiness. Accepting that very little is, in fact, perfect, and setting your sights just a little lower, means that you will achieve your aims much more of the time.

Why We Love To Choose To Be Thankful In The Challenges—That’s Where You Grow And You Should, Too!

I remembered when I was young, my aunty and teacher in school asked us a question on what we wanted to be when we grew up. At the time, I was bursting with dreams—a pilot, a soldier, a police officer, an Aeronotic Engineer and so on. Of all the items on the list, though, there was one theme. When I grew up, most of all, I wanted to be happy.

And so I put it on the back of mind to work towards what I want to become. The options waa many, but in all what makes me happy matters — a promise to my future self. That scribbled word was a goal, a mindset I would work towards, regardless of the obstacles along the way.

Years later, and more or less ‘grown up,’ I think about what I said I will become often. I think about how it has followed me through the turbulence of my teenage years, the chaos of the university, and into adulthood, where honestly, being happy seems like the most important conscious choice I can make.

Being happy, I’ve realized is not something you can pinpoint, grab between your fingertips, or keep. It’s more abstract than we give it credit for. We search as if we’re able to discover it, obtain it, hold it in our palms—but sometimes it’s so beautifully transient.

And sometimes happiness is not really a ‘thing’ at all, but a decision. Deciding to live with a spirit of gratitude. Choosing to be thankful, to see the bright side, to love and smile and have hope, regardless of what’s in the way. Accepting that you cannot change everything, but you can adapt your attitude. And letting yourself heal.

Happiness comes from finding peace with where you are. Not because it’s exactly where you wanted to be. Not because you have everything you could ever need. Not because you are wealthy, or in love, or doing better than the person next to you.

Happiness comes for no reason at all, other than because you decide you want it there.

You decide to create it, to make it, to build it out of the circumstances around you. You decide to open the door to it, to let it in, and then to foster its growth in your life, no matter what good or bad moments you face.

You decide that you want to live positively—bringing in good energy and people and moments and exhaling all that is out of your control. You decide that when terrible things happen to you, when you’re broken, when you lose people you love, when you’re left, when you’re exhausted or defeated or angry, that instead of letting the circumstances of this life control you, you want to react with a smile on your face. You choose to say, ‘I can’t change what has happened, but I can change my reaction, my next breath, next step, and where I go next.’

And you walk forward, focusing not on what you’ve lost or has been taken from you, but the knowledge you’ve gained, the love you’ve created, the strength you’ve found, the hope you’ve given yourself, and the wealth of things, people, memories, and moments you have to be thankful for.

So choose to be thankful in the challenges. Choose to see the bright side, the healing, the places you will go and people you will meet next.

Choose to let go of what you cannot fix or control, what you are not in charge of, what is out of your reach. Choose to accept the circumstances of this life, even when they’re imperfect or awful, and instead of wrapping yourself up in negativity, exhale and release.

Release what is not meant for you. Release what has abandoned you. Release what has attempted to destroy you, hold you captive, bring you down. Release the pain you’ve been holding in your chest. Release the anxiety, the anger, the fear.

Release and make a conscious choice—today and every day—to seek happiness and live with a grateful heart. Because there you will heal, you will begin again, you will grow.

It won’t be nice if I take all the credit for this piece. Thanks to the brilliant Marisa.

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Who Are You, and Who Do You Want to be?

Hi guys!

Typically, when you look for role models, you want someone who has your interests and came from the same background. Well, look how restricting that is. What people should do is take role models à la carte. If there’s someone whose character you appreciated, you respect that trait – Neil deGrasse Tyson

Know Yourself

The inspiration provided by role models can be useful short cut to a quick fix of feeling good. But in order for this to work, you first need to know yourself. At first glance this may sound obvious – indeed, you might well assume that you already know yourself rather well! The truth, however is that usually we don’t know ourselves as well as we think we do. This can be for some reasons listed below.

  • A lack of self awareness
  • Not wanting to look at ourselves too closely, either consciously or subconsciously
  • Assuming that we already know ourselves and therefore don’t need to look
  • Not wanting to face weaknesses

It is only by knowing yourself on every level and in every way that you can fully benefit from the example set by role models.

Inspiring Role Models

Once you have identified your strengths and weaknesses, your character traits, how you think and how you behave, so on… you will have a good understanding of the gaps you need to be able to fill in order to make the best of every situation. You are now in the best position to choose a role model/models, by identifying people who are strong in the areas in which you are weak.

You need to select role models who will inspire you When faced with a difficult problem, by being able to think through what they might do, and how they might overcome the challenges with which you are faced.

Who Do You Want To Be?

Following your role models can be a fun way to share in their successes, but in order to enjoy such achievements yourself, you will need to decide not only what you want to do with your life, but who you want to be. Trying thinking of yourself as the blank canvas actors assume before creating a character. You could be anything, do anything and achieve anything you want to. So what is it that you really want to do? Who would you want to be this time next year, in five or ten years time? Think of your role models in terms of life and career, but more successful.

A persistent and lasting happiness is difficult to achieve if you are not happy with who you are, but by improving yourself a little everyday you will ensure that you move consistently closer to becoming a ‘you’ who you want to be, and to achieving the happiness you desire.