This topic is not new to most of you but dropping this year as a reminder.
Walk with God and you’ll never be alone.
This topic is not new to most of you but dropping this year as a reminder.
Walk with God and you’ll never be alone.
Setbacks, while never enjoyable experiences in their own right, can nevertheless offer some important opportunities, and if appropriately managed can lead to improved happiness. They can, for instance, provide opportunities to revise your plans for happiness and fulfillment in your life, to take stock and to see if you are heading in the right direction, or whether things need to change; and if they do, a setback might provide the impetus to making things happen.
At the very least, a setback should create a hiatus sufficient to get things underway. If you’re having problems in any area of your life, a setback can be seen as an opportunity to take a new and inspiring approach to finding a solution and, used correctly, it can create new routes to happiness. Setbavks can also offer new ways to grow, providing the opportunity to try new things, creating the space for new exploration and discovery, as well as building character. It is also in such times that you will find out who your real friends are. This can be harsh to discover, but it does atleast give you the opportunity to rid yourself of anyone who is not a positive influence in your life, and to create new relationships and friends with people who are. Whatever the setback, a positive attitude and a robust response will give you an opportunity to come back even stronger than before, and to prove to yourself that you can do so.
NB: Nobody prays for a setback in life, life just take its course.
Inspired by Matt Avery.
This is a guest post and a reminder that your testimony is here.
We all face difficult times in our lives. I’ve learned that there is one way to respond that is supreme and will help you, preserver, in life.
Some time ago, I was in a season of life that I was ready to be out of as soon as I entered it. If you’re reading this (and you’re human), you know exactly what I’m talking about. Thankfully, I made it through these difficult times, which we always do. But this time was different because I found an alternative way to respond.
I am wired in a way that I always immediately try to fix everything that isn’t right. (Sound familiar?) And during this difficult time I’m referring to in this blog post, that’s exactly what I started doing.
I couldn’t fix or change what I was going through. As a result, I quickly became exhausted. I put a lot of time into trying to fix everything. Then one morning, I broke. You see, I had been pleading with God for weeks on this matter. But I would continuously ask God for the same thing over-and-over. But this morning, I decided to do something different.
Instead of asking God to fix my problems because I couldn’t, I instead decided to sit quietly and listen for His voice. Sounds simple, but when I just wanted everything “back to normal” or to be fixed in my life, it took a lot to sit quietly and not ask for God to intervene on my behalf to improve my situation.
I’ll never forget it. I heard God speak clearly, and I wasn’t sitting quietly for hours; no, it happened pretty quick! Do you want to know what God said to me that morning?
“Be still, and know that I am God.”
That is all He said—nothing more, nothing less. I remember sitting there for a moment in shock. Then I was left with those words echoing in my head.
It was a strange moment of revelation and peace. I realized at that moment that my job wasn’t to fix or even change the difficult times I was facing. In fact, there was probably a purpose for what I was going through. What God wanted for me to do was to be still, which means to be at peace with Him, knowing in the end, He would take care of me.
“Be still and know that I am God.” – Psalm 46:10
I had no idea that the very words God spoke to me were also in the Bible! But, it was a similar moment of revelation and internal peace. A moment that I, to this day, am eternally grateful for.
During these few tough weeks of my life, I ended up learning that there are times that we need to take a step back, exalt God for who He is, and be faithful in trusting God through our difficulties. We need to remember that He knows everything we are going through, good or bad. No matter what season of life you may be in, good or bad, I encourage you to don’t be in a rush for the next thing. Take a step back, and refocus on God and His goodness. Thank Him for where you are!
I typically like to give context in my blog posts, but I am intentionally leaving it out today. Not to seem private or secretive, but instead to further prove a point. It doesn’t matter what we’re going through or what we’re struggling with. It could be big, and it could be small, no matter what, though, God is in control. If we can learn to be still and know that He is God, then, in the end, we will make it through what we’re facing in life.
Ultimately, here is the point I want to get across to you today:
In conclusion of this blog post, I wanted to end it with a scripture speaking to me ever since I was a child; I believe it relates heavily to what I’m sharing today.
The Lord is my shepherd, I lack nothing. He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, he refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name’s sake. Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever. – Psalm 26:1-6
I don’t know what you’re going through in life right now or what you may be struggling with. But I know that no matter how good or bad things are right now, the best thing you can do is slow down, be still, and know that God is still God and He is still in full control of your situation.
This piece relates to what am going through in my life. I decided to share with everyone facing a storm in their life.
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Special credit to Alex Sanfilippo
Sometimes you are obsessed with what you think your life would be like if you had all the things you wished you had. Instead of enjoying your life as it is, even if it is not comfortable. But surely things will change because the situation is not permanent.
NB: Even though you do not know if achieving them would in fact make you any happier than you are now. Rather than living in the present, and enjoying it to the full, you are using your vision of how much better you think your life would be, as a form of defence, so that you don’t have to face the reality of life.
I am guilty of this most times and sure you can relate also.
You are keeping the real world at a distance, by pretending that is only temporary for you, that at any time your life will change and your prayers will be answered. But if you stop chasing your impossible dreams, and focus on your life as it really is, you will find that you already have everything you need to be completely happy.
In essence, stop chasing your tail.
Bettering yourself doesn’t mean you’re broken. It doesn’t mean there is something wrong with you that needs fixing. It doesn’t mean you should be embarrassed or ashamed of yourself.
Bettering yourself simply means you’re going to put in the work to take care of yourself. It means, instead of pouring all of your effort into impressing other people, you’re pouring effort into making yourself happy.
Bettering yourself is going to raise your confidence. It’s going to encourage you to love yourself. It’s going to make you realize that whether or not you’re part of a couple has no correlation to your value. You’re worth the same amount as a single woman as you are as an engaged woman or a married woman. Your value doesn’t ebb and flow based on your relationship status.
Bettering yourself is going to encourage your growth. It’s going to inspire change. It’s going to push you to break your worst habits and develop healthier ones. It’s going to shape you into the type of person you can say you’re proud of, the type of person you can say you love.
Bettering yourself is going to help you heal, help you move forward, help you forget about the bad things that happened in the past and look forward to the good things that are bound to happen in the future. It will make you more excited for what’s to come, about what you could accomplish, about what the world has in store for you.
Bettering yourself is never done. It’s going to be a lifelong experience, so you’re going to have to stay dedicated, stay inspired, stay hopeful in yourself.
You can never go wrong with bettering yourself. In the process, you might even find the love you’ve been hoping to find. But if not, if you stay single for a while longer, then you’re not going to sweat it. You’re still going to be happy because you know a relationship doesn’t define you. You know a relationship isn’t the beginning or the end of the world. You know the one person who matters more than the future love of your life is yourself.
We were all born and celebrated as cute little bundles of joy. Then we blossom and the cuteness somewhat fades away. Then comes the bosses, colleagues, mates, boys, men, and friends. This is when the seed of self-love you’ve sowed is put to test. If you have learnt the art of self-love, then you will easily get through life.
Loving yourself more is not being greedy, selfish or unfair. We are taught to be considerate and put others first but never how to love and prepare ourselves for the journey ahead. While you can be generous and kind, it shouldn’t be with a low self-esteem.
Self-esteem, self-care, self-acceptance, self-awareness, self-empowerment, self-respect, self-compassion, self-expression and self-worth are characteristics everyone should have. Notice that these words all begin with “self”?
We need to get over the fear of the unknown and understand our worth by simply practicing self-love. Self-love is not a one-time event but an endless, ongoing process.
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
– Oscar Wilde
This New month of March, let us practice self-love and enjoy the joy and happiness we give ourselves.
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Every morning, you probably stare in the mirror longer than you should, worried something about your makeup isn’t right, worried a hair is out of place, worried you’re going to make a fool of yourself if you step out of the house looking like you do.
You probably do the same thing with social media. Before you post a picture, you probably examine every inch of your body, on the search for flaws. But no one else is going to sit there and stare at your photo for as long as you have (unless they like you and are thinking about how adorable you look).
Either way, no one else is judging you as much as you’re judging yourself. No one is thinking the same harsh things you think about yourself. The rest of the world sees you differently than you see yourself. You’re not wearing the same set of lenses.
Even though you might feel like the rest of the world is looking down on you, your insecurities are the loudest in your own mind. The worst possible thing anyone could say about you has already been said by the voice in the back of your head. In a way, that’s a good thing, because it means no one else is judging you as harshly as you think they are.
However, in some ways, it’s also a horrible thing. You don’t want to play the role of your own worst enemy. You don’t want to hate yourself over a few tiny flaws when there are a million different things to love about yourself.
Even though it’s much harder to be kind to the person in the mirror than it is to be kind to others, you want to start learning how to treat yourself with love and compassion, with admiration and respect. You want to start treating yourself the way you treat your loved ones.
No, you’re not perfect — but no one is perfect. Everyone, even the person you consider the most beautiful woman in the world, has things they’re insecure about. You’re perfectly normal for feeling self-conscious. You’re allowed to be uncomfortable with certain aspects of yourself. But you shouldn’t let that discomfort turn into self-hatred. You shouldn’t punish yourself for being yourself.
You’re more beautiful than you believe, on the inside and the outside. It might take you a while to see that, but you’re going to get there as long as you put in the effort.
Stop assuming everyone is judging you. Stop assuming everyone is thinking the absolute worst about you. Even more importantly, stop thinking the worst about yourself. Stop treating yourself like a punching bag. Stop acting like you have nothing to offer this world. Stop doubting yourself. Stop selling yourself short. Stop practicing self-hatred when you should be practicing self-love.
Your insecurities aren’t as noticeable as you think. Even if someone else sees the same ‘flaw’ you see, they aren’t going to dwell on it. It’s not going to make a difference in their life. They aren’t going to give a hoot.
Much credit to Holly Riordan
You are not supposed to know everything right now.
You are not supposed to have every goal achieved and every decision made as quickly as you can.
You are not meant to race to the finish line of your life.
There is a pace to life that we have to honor. We cannot cut to the end of the story, we cannot demand it all at once, and we should not stress that we have not hit every milestone as early as possible.
There is a pace to life, and when we begin to see that there is a unique timing for everything, we begin to trust it more than we doubt it.
Sometimes, things don’t happen the moment we want them to because we are just not ready yet.
Sometimes, we have to learn how to handle little bits of success, so we are ready when they become massive. Sometimes, we have to learn to be okay by ourselves first, so we don’t ruin a relationship with unhealthy attachment. Sometimes, we have to learn to handle little criticisms here and there, so we’re ready when life takes off and people are really watching.
Sometimes, we just have more growing to do than we realize, and life always honors that — even if it lets you down in the moment. Just because you aren’t going as quickly as you thought does not mean you aren’t on your way.
There is no virtue to peaking too young. There is no real ambition that should culminate immediately after you’ve conceived of it. The real work is a lifelong commitment to excellence and the pursuit of a strong foundation, and a thriving soul.
You do not need to know everything that is in front of you yet.
When you set out on a road trip at night, you don’t expect your headlights to shine all the way through the darkness, miles and miles ahead of you, straight to your destination. All you can see is what is directly ahead of you, and that’s all you need to see. If you keep taking the next right step, you will arrive.
This is true even if you run into a roadblock along the way. You wouldn’t turn your car around because you couldn’t pass. You’d find another road. The same is true of your life journey.
Right now, you don’t feel lost because you actually have no idea where your life is going. You feel lost because you’re in transition. You have planted, or maybe sprouted, but not yet bloomed.
But you do not expect a bud to bloom on command. You bury its seed deeply, water it and give it light — and then you let it do what it was created to do, in its own time.
You are the exact same way.
Keep stepping forward. Take one right step, and then the next one. You do not have to have all the answers, you do not need to be your most perfect self right at this exact moment in time.
Sometimes, the growth process brings us somewhere unexpected, better than we conceived of originally. Sometimes, it delivers us right where we always wanted to be, as the people who are ready to step into the life we’ve been getting ready for.
The path is the process.
Credit: Brianna Weist
“How soon ‘not now’ becomes ‘never’.” – Martin Luther
When I was younger, in my early twenties, I was often lazy.
Too often actually.
And so I didn’t:
Years later I still love lazying around and not doing much at all.
But I’ve also learned how to keep that lazy time to a moderate and healthy amount instead of letting it hold me back and stuck in the same place of excuses for years like it used to.
This week I’d like to share 10 simple habits that have helped me to make that change.
To stop being so lazy and get what really matters done by working smarter. While still having room for guilt-free lazy time to spend as I like.
When you feel that you’ve perhaps been too lazy lately it’s common and tempting to beat yourself up about it and to hope that will lead you to start taking action.
Sometimes it does. But I have found that beating yourself up most often just leads to feeling guiltier and like a failure.
And so you feel less motivated to get going and you procrastinate because there seems to be little point in even trying.
Instead of getting stuck in that self-esteem sucking place I recommend to gently nudge yourself towards the next tip in this article whenever you feel like you want to beat yourself up.
The hardest thing is often to simply get started.
So make that as easy as you can to reduce the inner resistance and to actually take action. Start with just taking a small step forward:
I use this habit almost every day in some way.
To feel like you can enjoy your lazy/rest time fully and without guilt it’s important to actually get what truly matters in the long run done each week.
So start your day with that. But make it easy on yourself by breaking down that task into smaller steps and then focus on just the first one.
Get on it right away to get into an effective and focused mindset.
By doing so you set a good tone for your day. You get that quick 5-10 minute win in first thing and you’ll be a lot more motivated to keep going on that path during the rest of your day.
Instead of starting with busy work like checking emails – this may be vital to do first thing for some but for many it’s probably not – or checking Facebook etc. and then 30 minutes later getting started with today’s work.
To lighten up your daily work inject small breaks between doing short but focused burst of work.
Say to yourself: I’ll do 20 minutes of work on this task now and then I can take 5 or 10 minutes of lazy time.
By breaking down your hours like this the work seems less daunting.
And you’ll feel energetic and motivated longer and do work of better quality if you allow yourself these pauses of rest and time to lazy around on Facebook, with a game or with just relaxing in the grass or with short walk in the park.
Then, after some time, you may want to work for 40 minutes before you take a 10 minute break. But go easy on yourself at first.
Just sitting down at for example your computer and trying to do fully focused work for 5 or 20 minutes may not result in any work of importance getting done.
Not if you don’t remove those things that you usually use to procrastinate.
So ask yourself: where do I usually escape to instead of doing my work?
For me it’s for example often my smart phone and checking my social media handles, or random internet browsing.
So I put my phone in silent mode and I put it at the other end of our home when I work. By setting up that small physical obstacle I avoid the phone trap maybe 95% of the time.
The fear of failure can hold you back in a state of doing easier things and in what you may see as being lazy.
But everyone that go for what they truly want and outside of their comfort zone stumbles and fails from time to time. That’s just a part of a life well lived (even if we don’t hear about people’s setbacks as often as their successes).
See a setback as a learning experience and as a way to be more constructive and kinder to yourself.
You can do that by asking yourself these two questions after you’ve stumbled:
Whatever you let into your mind and life will influence you.
If the people you hang out the most with are generally a bit lazy about work or school then it’s easy to just adapt to that mood and way of thinking and go with it.
But if you spend more time with motivated people in real life and via books, the internet, podcasts and audio books then that will start to influence your thinking and mood too.
So think about what you let into your mind on a daily and weekly basis and if you want make a few changes to that.
Time spent on just lazying around helps me to relax and recharge and it makes me happy.
But if I do it too much then it does become less healthy for me. It:
Still, at a moderate amount spending some time on being lazy is truly beneficial for me.
And I’ve found that when you think a little about how you want to spend your lazy time – no matter if it’s a 10 minute break or a lazy Sunday – and use that time on something you really enjoy like reading a book you love rather than aimlessly watching TV-shows you’re just OK with then that time does not only brings more happiness and fulfillment.
I’ve also learned that when I spend my lazy time in this more conscious way I’m more motivated and energized to go back to work again later on.
So I make sure to appreciate and fully enjoy the lazy time I have and create for myself because I know that it will benefit me in several important ways.
Special appreciation to Henrik Edberg for this contributing piece.
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A 24 year old boy seeing out from the train’s window shouted…
“Dad, look the trees are going behind!”
Dad smiled and a young couple sitting nearby, looked at the 24 year old’s childish behavior with pity, suddenly he again exclaimed…
“Dad, look the clouds are running with us!”
The couple couldn’t resist and said to the old man…
“Why don’t you take your son to a good doctor?” The old man smiled and said…“I did and we are just coming from the hospital, my son was blind from birth, he just got his eyes today.”
Every single person on the planet has a story. Don’t judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you.
Guest post from Crystal Castillo.
“Dream Big!” That’s the message we grow up listening to. We’re encouraged to make big plans for our future. Unfortunately, though, our lives rarely unfold the way we dreamed them to.
Now don’t get me wrong, having big dreams for our lives is good! Envisioning ourselves with successful and prosperous lives is ok! Yet God desires for us to trust the process He has us in, even if our lives look different than we expected.
God’s desire for us is to trust not in our circumstances but in the creator of the dreams we long for. When we trust harder rather than dream bigger, we acknowledge that God is in charge of our dreams, not us. However, if we dream big rather than trust hard, we assume our dreams and desires are up to us to fulfill.
God did not create us to depend on our own strength and ability. He intended for us to derive our strength and ability from Him alone.
I’m under 30. Some people believe that to be very young. Others think it’s the age to have your whole life figured out. I tend to believe the latter Yet I’m learning that life is a journey with each new day.
We should live life one day at a time and not rushed. Embrace one day at a time, depend on God’s daily bread, and don’t worry about tomorrow.
Although my life did not unfold the way I envisioned it, it has taught me a lot about God. It has taught me about His perfect plans for my life and future and for the lives of others.
I can easily blame myself for my life not unfolding the way I planned it. Sure, I could have done things differently. But at the end of the day, God is sovereign over everything. He is sovereign over the lives of His children.
Through this journey of unexpected detours and redirection, God has helped me see my circumstances from His perspective. I have learned to thank God for not allowing my plans for the future to happen the way I hoped they did. Blaming God for our situation never resolves anything.
Sweet friend, life was never meant to be easy. If life were easy, we wouldn’t have a reason to pursue God or seek His guidance for our lives. Furthermore, life was not meant to unfold the way we wish it did. Life was designed for us to depend on God. Even Jesus had to depend on God for the way His life would unfold.
The Bible tells us that Jesus did not want to experience the suffering of dying on the cross. In fact, He prayed to God to spare Him from having to endure the pain of being nailed on the cross. Jesus knew what was to come for Him, which is why He prayed and asked God for another way if possible. He believed that anything and everything is possible for God. Jesus was not afraid to express His fears to God.
Though Jesus prayed for an alternative route, He still prayed for God’s will to be done instead of His. God’s will was ultimately the best for all of us. And the same holds true in our own lives.
Without Jesus’s crucifixion, you and I wouldn’t have the privilege of a relationship with God the way we do. His selfless sacrifice paved the way. Jesus trusted God, and His obedience saved us from the consequences of eternal death.
Jesus is the perfect example for us to follow when we feel anxious or scared about our future. As humans, we want our life to unfold a certain way, we want a specific career, we want a certain spouse, and we want what our flesh craves – the opposite of what God wants for us.
Friend, we can trust that no matter what we go through or what our life looks like right now, God will make all things work out for us (Romans 8:28). He used Jesus’s pain and suffering to bring salvation to the world. He too will use our pain and suffering to bring glory to His name and freedom to our realm of influence.
We can rest in knowing that God’s ways are far better than what we believe is good for us.
For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8-9
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Staying positive is not about denying the frustration but rather acknowledging the hurt and moving on. It’s important not to let the bitter set in. Facing rejection even for the hundredth time does not make you numb to emotion; it’s normal to still feel upset.
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Hope you start taking action this year, starting with the little you have.
1. ON EARNING:
Never depend on single income. Make investment to create a second chance.
2. ON SPENDING:
If you buy things you do not need, soon you will have to sell things you need.
3. ON SAVINGS:
Do not save what is left after spending, but spend what is left after saving.
4. ON TAKING RISK:
Your future is at the mercy of the risk you are willing to take today.
5. ON INVESTMENT:
Do not put all eggs in one basket.
6. ON EXPECTATIONS:
Honesty is a very expensive gift. Do not expect it from cheap people.
7. Past is a waste paper, present is a newspaper, and future is a question paper. Come out of your past, control the present, and secure the future.
8. When bad things happen in your life, you have three choices. You can either let it define you, let it destroy you or you can let it strengthen you.
9. Our eyes are in the front because it is more important to look ahead than to look backwards.
10. We use pencil when we were young, but now we use pens. Do you know why? Because mistakes in childhood can easily be erased, unlike now.
In the beginning of trying new things or hoping for a better journey, that is when storm comes by surprise.
It feels good to be back.
Last year took everyone by storm with the surprise visit of Covid-19. Starting 2020 never seem to have ended the way it did. But eventually the storm struck and almost one quarter of the world’s population died, while some are still fighting for their lives.
Why am I writing this?
I have come to understand that you can plan for the new year, but also plan for the challenges. We all pray this new year will be different and will benefit many of us. But also watch out!
A lot of people are out of jobs including myself. The weirdest thing about mine was that they terminated my contract long before I knew something was fishing. A lot of businesses shut down, food prices increased, fuel and electricity bill increased, and so much more.. But most especially loosing a loved one. 😢😥
In all, some individuals still made billions.
Now what I propose is to start finding new ideas to solving problems. A lot of people might be broke, but a lot also made some cool cash.
So I have taken it upon myself to start meditating in prayers for direction. This year will definitely be different from last year. Let’s take it upon ourselves to help one another, communicate more, and spread positivity.
NB: Don’t look at the challenges affecting the world now, instead find a path where you can make it a better place once again. #quote by me.
I believe that we can win. 💪🙏