Please Remember Your Instagram Isn’t Going To Flash Before Your Eyes When You Die

When you get to the end of your life, you aren’t going to be scrolling back through your posts, reminiscing.

You aren’t going to think back to the years that made you who you were and feel thankful that you were able to document them so well on a coordinating grid.

You aren’t going to replay the most important moments of your life and remember yourself pausing to make sure that you shared that dinner, that date, that trip, that achievement.

It’s not that social media isn’t important — it is. It connects us, it mobilizes us, it educates us, and it brings us together.

But it also eclipses our vision in some ways.

Specifically this one: the purpose of your life is not to have a gorgeous Instagram account. I’m sorry, but it’s not. It could be a very fortune and enjoyable perk of living the life of your dreams, but it is not, in itself, the reason why you are alive.

Don’t believe me?

Imagine if you died tomorrow, and had a few last moments to reflect on your life.

You usually don’t recall the big moments, the graduations or wedding days. In fact, what comes to mind is the ordinary things, the day to day joys of being alive. Playing with your toys when you were a kid, moving through your routine in high school, the work you were passionate about in college, sharing nameless hours together with the person you love most.

None of this is to devalue your presence online. It’s important, it’s a business for some people, and it’s really validating for others.

This is only to help you relax a bit, to let go of feeling anxious that you weren’t quite able to portray yourself as well as others. Sometimes, we can confuse this for actually not living a good life.

I am sorry to tell you this but most people who are extremely successful are not posting about every nice dinner, trip or shopping outing. Jay Z is not telling you every time he acquires a new investment; your favorite authors aren’t showing you their royalty checks; the celebrities you think you know are probably going out of their way to avoid sharing anything too personal on their own feeds.

Instagram is not real life, it is just a series of updates about life, that are often turned into art and commodity.

This is not a bad thing, but rather, a reminder that you should not waste another moment of your life trying to make your greatest ambition how well you can appear to other people.

Nobody is looking, because they’re too busy evaluating their own images.

Live your life first, and capture it second.

When you get to the end of your life, you are not going to wish you had posted to Instagram more.

In fact, in 15 years, when we’re all onto the next platform, you’ll probably look back and laugh at all the staged photos and hashtags.

Enjoy it while it’s here, but enjoy what matters most, which is your life. That has an expiration date, too.

This is a guest post and much credit to Brianna Weist.

Video Game Addiction: Can an Addiction Have a Positive Side?

Hey guys!

Been a while I posted on this platform. Am happy to be back and consistent. A quick question for you guys today..

What do you think about the topic today?

Video games are dangerous to your mental health and will make you become an addict. Do you believe that? Of course, we hear this repeated time and time again about videogame addiction, and it’s even gotten into a manual of psychiatric disorders, but should it be there?

Repeatedly saying video gaming is an addiction, doesn’t make it so. There are several contradictions that we must consider about video games and addictions.

If video gaming is an addiction, there is a huge number of people with it because “The…number of video gamers worldwide in 2018, broken down by region, (indicates)…there were over 1.23 billion gamers in Asia Pacific in 2018, with the region generating $71.4 billion of revenue in the same year.”

There were over 1.23 billion gamers Asia Pacific in 2018 raised the estimate. “There are approximately 2.2 billion gamers in the world. Out of the estimated 7.6 billion people living on earth, as of July 2018, that means almost a third of people on this planet are gamers.” Video gaming is a big business and enjoyed worldwide.

Addictions and playing video games, according to a significant review of the research, are not the same. Yes, there are certain things which they both share.

One thing they both share is that they stimulate a person to want to engage in the activity because it is pleasurable. Regarding the games, who doesn’t want to win and show that they can compete effectively with people all over the world?

Millions of gamers are playing each other throughout the day and the night. The internet is abuzz with their efforts to win points, raise to higher levels, or open secret doors. Wouldn’t you want that?

It doesn’t matter what your age is, because video games can be very pleasurable activities, especially in a profoundly troubling world. The escape aspect is part of the notion that the games are addictive.

Video gaming’s positive effects

Not all video games are based on violence and destruction, and it is here that we must make a distinction. Games can be exciting and require skills in anticipating goals and planning how to reach those goals. They can also include design elements when there are pieces that must fit into geometric patterns.

Games can also encourage cooperative behavior toward other players. Altruism has been found in some of the research that has been reviewed over the years. When playing games that promote positive response with others, there is a halo effect that carries on after the game.

Games can also engage children and adults in developing finer hand-eye coordination and the use of a controller. Vision also benefits because many of the games require a high degree of visual alertness. Surveying the landscape in the game leads to more acute visual perception, as studies have shown.

Gameplaying also involves repeated actions that will strengthen brain cell connections. What does this mean in plain English? Memory and learning are enhanced as a result of these actions.

Reaction time is enhanced. Gameplaying requires real-time action that activates areas of the brain controlling sensory movement. In other words, you learn to react physically in a faster manner to make a response to the game.

Video games effect on the brain

There is an actual physical change in the brain after game playing. If we could weigh the brains of gamers, we would be able to quantify how the games added some additional brain weight. And brain weight can equal added abilities, increased memory and warding off late-life cognitive decline.

A study of frequent game players showed that certain part of the brain involved in decision-making are most affected, and that makes sense. You are making rapid decisions during the game, and that’s what you may have to do in your daily life, so game playing is preparation.

Games require logical thinking and help in decision-making not only while playing the game but afterward. This is called “sticky ” learning that will last and be utilized in other actions in the future. Gameplaying, including any game that involves firing a weapon, can enhance cognitive control and planning.

Gameplaying involves the brain releasing the “happiness hormone,” dopamine, which is involved in receiving a reward. It is this reward that is involved in gamers’ wanting to continue gameplaying, and that’s where some have indicated it is an addiction.

Rewards are not necessarily addictions, however. Do students become addicted to attending school if they’re getting good grades? Some might, but the majority don’t skip off to school each morning.

The educational component

Not all video games are based on violence and destruction. And it is here that we must make a distinction. Games can be exciting and educational and require skills in anticipating goals and planning how to reach those goals.

Memory skills can be improved if the game is developed in that direction.

The game can be whatever the coder wants it to be. Herein lies the educational challenge. If kids love video games, there’s the educator’s entre to helping them learn and develop that stickiness that is so important.

Are video games dangerous? Some might be for a select group of gamers. Are they addictive? Yes, but it can be a positive form of “addiction” that will encourage mental development.

A wise man once told me that we learn a lot from different things. Things that society or our parents see as distractions.

Yes!

You can get motivated by playing video games or even watching movies. It depends on how you analyse what you visualise and make good use of the result.

Source: Dr. Patricia Farrell

Treat Experience As Learning a Lesson: Wisdom In Making Decisions

This is a wise lesson to us all.

As a small child , I was very selfish, always grabbing the best for myself.

Slowly, everyone left me and I had no friends. I didn’t think it was my fault and I criticized others.

But my father gave me 3 sentences to help me in life.

One day, my father cooked 2 bowls of noodles and put them on the table. One had an egg on top while the other bowl had none on top.

Then he asked me to choose a bowl of noodles.

Because eggs were hard to come by those days, I chose the bowl with egg!

I was congratulating myself on my wise choice/decision and decided to wallop the egg. To my surprise, I saw that my father’s bowl of noodles had two eggs at the bottom beneath the noodles!

With much regret, I scolded myself for being too hasty in my decision.

My father smiled and taught me to remember that what your eyes see may not be true.

He added that, If you make a habit of taking advantage of people, you will end up losing.

The next day, my father again cooked 2 bowls of noodles: one bowl with an egg on top and the other bowl with no egg on top.

Again, he asked to choose the bowl I wanted.

This time, I felt smarter so I chose the bowl without any egg on top.

Hmmmmmm to my surprise, there was not even a single egg at the bottom of the bowl!

Again, my father smiled and said to me, My child, you must not always rely on experiences because sometimes, life can cheat you or play tricks on you.

Never be too annoyed or sad, with situations, just treat experience as learning a lesson that cannot be gotten from any textbooks.

The third day, my father again cooked 2 bowls of noodles, one bowl with an egg on top and the other with no egg on top.

He asked me to choose the bowl I wanted.

But this time, I told my father, Dad, you choose first. You are the head of the family and you contribute the most to the family.

My father was very happy and he chose for me.

He chose the bowl with one egg on top. But as I ate my bowl of noodles, to my surprise, there were two eggs at the bottom of the bowl.

My father smiled at me with love in his eyes. He said, my child, you must remember that when you think for the good of others, good things will always naturally happen to you.

I always remember these 3 sentences of my father.

As we continue on the remaining journey of 2019, think for the good of others. Don’t be selfish, Put others first and your joy will be completed. Don’t run after post, position, wealth, fame etc and bruise others to get it.

Enjoy your weekend!

How to be Full of Joy Even if You’re Suffering Right Now

We can be full of joy in the midst of our suffering if only we can see the flip side to it and not just the side that invokes pain. (It’s about perspective)- Sho

Suffering implies experiencing discomfort. No one likes discomfort. But, how you embrace it depends on your perspective. In this post, I’m going to explain how to be full of joy even if you’re suffering.

ou may view suffering as a consequence of actions that led you out of God’s protection or covering. Such a view perceives hardship as a sign that sin is lurking somewhere in your life. You may also view it as an attack from the enemy. In either case, you are naturally inclined to do whatever it takes for the pain to stop or difficulty to end. Could you, however, be missing God’s work in the midst of all this?

In Romans 5 NIV, as Paul makes a case for the basis of our salvation through faith in Christ, he throws in an interesting comment on suffering in verse 3 and 4

“… but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope …”

This is interesting because what we see here is that if we endure suffering, the end state is that it produces character and hope. And this is a reason to rejoice. We see a similar assertion in James 1: 2-4 NIV.

“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”

In essence, suffering, trials and hardship can be a tool in God’s hands to makes us more like Christ.

Joy

God can use suffering, trials, and hardship as tools when we endure, rather than try to escape or avoid it. Just like the soreness and pain from working out, we can endure the discomfort because God is using it to make us more like Jesus, even if we may not completely get it at the moment.

When that crazy driver next to you is testing your patience on the road, or that rude co-worker or you experience a series of unfortunate events, think on these things. As crazy as it may sound or seem to those around you, you may just have a reason to rejoice. As you ask God for wisdom, ask for grace to endure. If you keep your eyes on the fact that once you have endured this specific challenge, you are one step closer to being like Him, you can find some joy in suffering.


Seyi Awolowo: A Leaders Race To Winning Big Brother Naija 2019 “Pepperdem”

This is a sponsored post.

Seyi Awolowo is more than the next winner of Big Brother Naija 2019. He’s a model of leadership who demonstrates traits and characteristics that are essential for present day leaders and professionals.

Before and after the signing of the Emancipation Proclamation, Abraham Lincoln confronted a variety of trials and obstacles, but remained committed to his vision to create a free nation. Just like Lincoln, Seyi Awolowo embodies many admirable qualities, two are especially relevant:

Seyi Awolowo is a master listener.

Like most leaders, Seyi dealt with conflicting views and personalities in the big brother house, yet he’s known as a man who listened. People were free to oppose his point of view without fear of retaliation. Of course, listening wasn’t always an indication of Seyi’s agreement. He would simply listen to competing ideas, process what he’d heard, and then respectfully make his final decision.

Seyi Awolowo is a master communicator.

Seyi is a communicator who artfully wove his vision for a new Nigeria for the youths with the priorities of his team. This is no small feat, as one housemate wrestle with daily. Often, it’s difficult to make decisions especially now that he has the veto power to save himself. Seyi is a speaker of the people. In other words, he simplified his vision and presented it in a way that conveyed his understanding of the people.

Having a vision is one thing, but believing that it is possible and will happen is what separates a successful leader and others.

That leader is Seyi Awolowo.

Please show your support and love to this born leader with incredible leadership skills and brilliance in the Big Brother House this year.

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The Truth: Hurts But Heals

They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen” (Romans 1:25).

There is definitely some truth in the old saying, “The truth hurts.” We can all empathize with those moments when a truth becomes so obvious that it makes our stomach drop as if we were plummeting down a hill on a roller coaster. There are those moments when someone points out a character flaw that you were blind to, or those times when it becomes glaringly obvious that you made a mistake and you owe someone an apology. Personally, my least favorite “truth moments” are those times when I have been holding firmly to an argument only to realize that I was completely wrong.

Yes the truth hurts, but, more importantly, the truth heals. In all of the situations I just mentioned above, is the truth not the ideal answer? Even though it means that someone might be wrong or someone needs to apologize, isn’t it better than the alternative of living out the pain and destruction of a lie? I for one do not always react favorably when someone points out a truth in my life, but I always end up being grateful for it. The permanent pain of living a lie is far worse than the temporary pain of facing a truth. The truth heals, and pain almost always accompanies healing.

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My dad is one of the most loved and respected people I ever know, but he is not shy about pointing out the truth. I would often go to him for advice when I have a problem about life or understanding some events in the bible. Every time I speak to my dad I will be hoping he tells me how right I am even when am wrong. I have no recall one time where he did that. In fact, it will be the opposite. He will often provide no response to my attempts to vilify the other person, and he will spend most of his time trying to open my eyes to where I have been wrong.

I remember often getting frustrated with my dad during these conversations. On the outside, I would respectfully nod my head and try to listen. On the inside, I remember thinking, “How does she not see that I am right and the other party is wrong!?” I would often leave the house disappointed that I did not get what I wanted, but the truth of his words would always sink in eventually. Whether it was an hour or a week after I walked out the door, I would heed his words. I would go apologize to everyone i offended or whatever wronged i did, which often led to reconciliation and a greater peace in my life.

I would call my dad for an affirmation of MY TRUTH, not seeking out THE TRUTH. Luckily for me, my dad will be willing to risk a little pain and discomfort by telling me the truth, because he knows that the truth would heal me. It is so easy to take the same approach with God. We can read the bible and skip over the parts we don’t like, or go to church on Sundays and only receive the words from the preacher that we are comfortable with. We may not say it, but we think things like, “God’s favour and blessings sound great, but that whole thing about picking up my cross to follow Him sounds painful.” We can try to affirm OUR TRUTH rather than seeking out THE TRUTH, and the word says that “THE TRUTH shall set you free” (John 8:32).

Jesus is the way, THE TRUTH, and the life. Only He can convict us of our sin, while at the same time offering us love, forgiveness and grace to cover it. One encounter with Him can bring us to our knees in shame and also leave us completely full of joy. Jesus loved us too much not to convict us our sin, but He also loved us too much to let us suffer in our sin.  What truth are you exchanging for a lie, because the truth seems too painful to face? What is the Holy Spirit convicting you of that you’re pretending not to hear? Be courageous! Step into that truth, and let the healing take place!

I Can’t Do It Alone

I have a couple of quotes in my notes that I put up to remind me of things in my life that I sometimes forget. One of the quotes that comes up each day is “I can’t do it alone”. This didn’t come from some famous author, its just a simple statement that anyone can say that holds a lot of truth.

One of my favorite songs as a kid in church and youth group was “Lean on Me.” It came along with lots of hand motions and fun ways to sing it, so as a kid its perfect. But I thought back this morning to the words of the song and again…they carry a lot of truth.

“Lean on me, when you’re not strong, and Ill be your friend, Ill help you carry on. For, it won’t be long till I’m going to need somebody to lean on.”

So I can talk about these “truths” in these quotes and songs all day, but lets turn to the real TRUTH and see what God has to say about it. God put a few stories on my heart this morning reminding me of the importance of not being able to do it alone. Here are a few examples…

Adam & Eve (Genesis 2)
Genesis 2:18 – “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Think about it, this is God’s first attempt and creating a human being. The very first thing God realized about humans was that they shouldn’t be alone. If God thinks that, well I know He’s a lot smarter than I am, so I’ll believe Him!

Noah and the Ark (Genesis 6 & 7)
Genesis 6:19 – “You are to bring into the ark two of all living creatures, male and female, to keep them alive with you.”
Genesis 7:1 – “The Lord then said to Noah, ‘Go into the ark, you and your whole family, because I have found you righteous in this generation.’”
God doesn’t forget about how Adam needed a helper. God’s heart is such that in all His creation he tends to create things in pairs. Its a testament to how His heart is, and how He is giving us the ability to show love to others and demonstrate His love for us through other people on this earth. God could have very easily just started over after the flood or just brought one animal a piece to save room on the ark and then just made more after the flood. But he didn’t. He didn’t just have two of every animal come, he had Noah’s entire family. God knows that the way He created this earth that we can’t do it alone.

Moses in Battle (Exodus 17)
Exodus 17:11-13 – “As long as Moses held up his hands, the Israelites were winning, but whenever he lowered his hands, the Amalekites were winning. 12 When Moses’ hands grew tired, they took a stone and put it under him and he sat on it. Aaron and Hur held his hands up—one on one side, one on the other—so that his hands remained steady till sunset. 13 So Joshua overcame the Amalekite army with the sword.”
This may be my favorite model of friendship in all of the bible. Moses hears from God and understands His power by simply holding his hands up. His friends (Aaron and Hur) notice Moses’s faith and when he grows tired they immediately come to his aid and raise his hands for him. The Israelites would have been defeated had it not been for Moses’s friends who were beside him throughout the entire battle.

Jesus and the Disciples (Luke 6)
Luke 6:12-13 – “One of those days Jesus went out to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God. When morning came, he called his disciples to him and chose twelve of them, whom he also designated apostles”
So lets get this straight…Jesus (who is God) was praying and after he was finished praying it was made clear to him to call out these 12 guys to walk alongside Him to fulfill His ministry. This is the perfect example of how Jesus is proving to us how to live our lives. If its good enough for Jesus its good enough for me. He didn’t do it alone either!

I could go on and on with the bible showing groups of people that did it together (David and Jonathan is another great story you should read in 1 Samuel 18). But in short, regardless of how much power we have, ultimately we need someone else to lean on, someone else to lift our hands up, someone else to encourage us throughout our lives. This is the entire concept of “spotting” when you are at the gym. While you can do the first reps no problem, its those last few that you may need help with, and the spotter should be encouraging you the entire time.

So my question is this. Who is your spotter in your life? Do you have someone like Moses did in Aaron and Hur that will lift you up when you are down and tired? If not, even Jesus saw that this was important, so what are you waiting for? Find that person (or people) in your life that can do it. If you don’t have any, make it a point to go meet new people and find someone you can count on. Thats what church family is all about, so that would be a great place to start!

Just remember, and keep telling yourself…”I can’t do it alone”

Ecclesiastes 4:12 – “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

Do You Bring God Glory With Your Words- Communication

Sticks and stones may break my bones…‏ But words always affect me emotionally.

Complex verbal communication is one of the many ways humans are unique to all other creatures on earth. In one instant we can be telling a joke causing great laughter and hysteria with anyone within ear shot. The next minute we can say something to someone and have them so mad steam is rolling out from our ears. Words allow us to love and hate all within the same sentence. Which in turns mean they can build up and tear down.

Words are an extremely powerful tool at our disposal. In today’s technologically advanced society it has never been truer. Every word we post on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram is instantly scrutinized, criticized, and judged to no end.

Words and emotions have always had a love/hate relationship. Saying the right words at the right time can save someone’s life or if not used properly can cut extremely deep. The simple phrase, “You are highly respected,” or “You are such a blessing to us” can turn a crummy day into the best day ever. Not only can it help the person receiving the words of encouragement but the person giving them is blessed as well. When’s the last time you deliberately said something to encourage your pastor, husband, kids, wife, parents, homeless guy on the street, etc…?

However, the sad truth is that some of us have a problem holding our tongues and don’t think before we speak. Others don’t have such a hard time with that concept. It’s a matter of personality and how God created you. Those of you that are reading this thinking you are off the hook because you are an introvert and never talk to anyone are wrong. Generally introverts have a problem with being bold. There are times when not saying anything is more damaging than speaking without thinking.

I understand that I am painting with a broad brush today but the point remains the same. Extroverts tend to speak without thinking, which is never a good idea when they are upset. And on the other hand you have introverts who don’t speak up at all because they are scared of offending someone or having people think they are stupid, rude, etc… This fear leads them to missing an opportunity given to them by God to change someone’s life with a simple “Hello, how are you?”

Words are so powerful that God used words to create everything we see and feel around us.

Genesis 1:3 – Then God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light.”

Genesis 1:6 – Then God said, “Let there be a space between the waters,”

Genesis 1:9 – Then God said, “Let the waters beneath the sky flow together into one place, so dry ground may appear.”

Genesis 1:14 – Then God said, “Let lights appear in the sky to separate the day from the night.”

Genesis 1:20 – Then God said, “Let the waters swarm with fish and other life. Let the skies be filled with birds of every kind.”

Genesis 1:24 – Then God said, “Let the earth produce every sort of animal,”

Genesis 1:26 – Then God said, “Let us make human beings in our image, to be like us.”

Take time this week to pray to God and ask if there are areas in your communication skills that need adjusted to bring him glory. Don’t let emotions or lack thereof keep you from saying what God needs you to say (or not say). After all, God’s opinion of you is the only one that matters!

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We Are All Thirsty

I don’t know who sings that song or who came up with that word or term or whatever you want to call it. It is often used to label people who are desperately seeking someone else. The truth is, we are all thirsty. We all have a longing desire in our heart for something greater. Before coming to know Christ in a personal way, I always tried to satisfy myself with the next greatest thing; the next trip to the bar, the next joint, the next personal achievement, etc. When faced with countless worldly options, it is pretty easy to satisfy that longing in the heart for a moment. It is all about getting caught up in the next moment until one day, it just runs out.

Just like the woman at the well, who was coming to the well to draw water to fulfill her physical need, and Jesus was waiting to satisfy her every need. This woman had five husbands. She was seemingly trying to satisfy her needs with different men. And the unexpected arrival of Jesus (who was a Jew encountering a Samaritan woman) was waiting to share Himself and the gift of eternal life with her. He is waiting on us to make a move. He is jealously for us all and wants to establish personal relationship with us.

Everyone has a thirsting desire and longing in their hearts. The people we see everyday that don’t know Jesus have a longing in their hearts. When I stray from seeking Jesus there is still a desire in my heart. I think back to when I didn’t have a personal relationship with Christ. Back to when I said I knew Christ but only because it was the appropriate thing to say. It was a front only to put out a certain image to the people closest to me. However, I got sick of chasing something that never existed. Ultimately with all that mindless chasing, I finally paused long enough to hear God speaking to me and calling me to follow Him. The day came where I was thirsty and nothing could fulfill me anymore. I was dehydrated; both from the over indulgent of alcohol the next morning and the need for Jesus.

Challenge: For those that have accepted Jesus, God wants to shine His light through you to help a thirsty generation. Share the love with someone. We can share our past hurts because we know the love of Christ and how He has resurrected our once dead life.

Psalm 20:4 – May He give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed.

John 4:13-14 – Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”

Which Are You: Vulture Or Hummingbird?

Guest post from Readers Digest.

Both the hummingbird and the vulture fly over our nation’s deserts. All vultures see is rotting meat, because that is what they look for. They thrive on that diet. But hummingbirds ignore the smelly flesh of dead animals. Instead, they look for the colorful blossoms of desert plants. The vultures live on what was. They live on the past. They fill themselves with what is dead and gone. But hummingbirds live on what is. They seek new life. They fill themselves with freshness and life. Each bird finds what it is looking for. We all do.

The difference between the vulture and the hummingbird is a lot like that difference between worry and hope. Like the vulture, worry feeds on things that have no life: negativity, pessimism, fear, anxiety. It’s an ugly way to live, savaging for sustenance among dead and dying things. But hope is different. Like the hummingbird, hope is beautiful. Hope seeks new life, feeding on what is fresh and new.

As a child of God, it is your right to enjoy your life, but in order to do that, you will need to choose to be positive, looking for what is fresh and new. Being positive means you are actively looking for good things. You’re constantly believing and searching for the good things God has for you, not looking for or anticipating the next disaster.

It’s not enough to just get rid of negativity- that’s just the beginning. You have the opportunity to get rid of negativity and then embrace a positive outlook of life!

NB: The difference between the vulture and the hummingbird is a lot like the difference between worry and hope. Remember that..

15 Things That I Let Go to Get Massive Success and Happiness in Life

If you met me 10 years ago, you’d think me ambitious, singled-minded, opinionated, self-righteous and very adamant about living life my way because that was the one and only path to success , quite obviously!

If we became really good friends though, you would see that I am forever searching for something else, an answer, a discovery, a shortcut to the end to make sure this is indeed the way. You would see that I am not half as confident despite my great level of success, which I so proudly defended.

You may even surmise that I am not happy and on many levels, you would not be far from the truth.

It took me a long time and a lot of courage to swallow my pride and shove my ego over the edge of a cliff so I could admit the truth to myself that I was not happy because that meant one thing: I am also not successful.

How can one exist without the other? Success has got to include the happiness element or what good is it and happiness in and of itself is pure success, no matter what your “accomplishments in life”.

The turning point in life happens when pain and misery become too heavy a burden to carry. That is when you begin your journey home. Sure, it would be nice if we were all proactively planning our careers five years in advance of ever becoming miserable, but we are human beings, not perfectly programmed little robots.

We falter, we err, we fall short, we hurt (ourselves and others), we make mistakes, we take the wrong path, we say the stupid thing, we choose the wrong partner, we miss out on love, we pick the unsuitable career, and we even lose the will to keep going at times. We also learn and turn it around and bring miracles to life.

But do not ever identify WHO you are entirely with WHAT you accomplish. That keeps your ego in check on both fronts, massive success and massive failure.

Failure is an event, not a person. ~Zig Ziglar

Here are 15 things that I let go to get massive success and happiness in life and business:

1. I let go of the obsession to be right all the time:

I don’t want to be right all the time Iwant to be wrong so I can learn. I want to not know the answers so I can grow, and I am okay with saying, “I don’t know but I can find out!”

2. I let go of the reluctance to apologize with sincerity:

It is no fun to apologize for being wrong but it’s pure hell to apologize when the other person is wrong. Sometimes it needs to be done and you even need to continue the relationship onward nonetheless. What did Nike say? Just Do It!

3. I let go of the obligation to read stuff that doesn’t light me up:

I couldn’t stand reading presentations, engineering magazines, and corporate-lingo-filled business books. Enough! Now I read whatever my heart desires. My lust is with the classics, memoirs and epic fantasy fiction ( A Song of Ice & Fire is my chosen obsession now). Ironic side-effect: Fiction fuels my creativity and helps my business.

4. I let go of the pursuit of friendship for the sake of friendship:

The idea that I did not have a lot of friends bothered me ever since the first day I stepped into an American high school and it only left just a few years ago. Friendship needs to fill your heart with love and joy. If you are not getting that, ditch your friends and get new ones.
5. I let go of the permission to pursue my radical crazy dream:
It’s not that crazy and you are not that radical. Stop the drama and get on with the dream. Over-analysis kills even more dreams than the need for permission.

6. I let go of the guilty feeling for living well and doing what I love:

Ah the guilty! Stop feeling guilty for living well , for being happy, for doing what you love, for making a lot of money, or travel the world every year. Feel joy instead.

7. I let go of the expectation of family and friends to “understand” me:

Do you understand them? Do you have empathy for their situations and viewpoints? Do you know their dreams? Stop putting this enormous and outrageous expectation on others if you ever want to be happy.

8.I let go of the expectation that my spouse needed be perfect:

Perfection is the disease that rots an otherwise happy relationship. Instead, cultivate the desire to improve yourself first and become a role model, not a nag, to your spouse or life partner in return.

9. I let go of the delusion that someone or something will show me the way:

Help is not on the way because you are the help you need in your life, and once you come to terms with that beautiful truth, you shock yourself with your own resourcefulness. It gets that good!

10. I let go of the need to control or fix my family, friends, partner:

Want to teach your brother how to argue better? Dying to show your sister-in-law how to treat you better? Well, stop. it’s their problem and their choice to be as they are. Focus on you and let go of control.

11. I let go of the idea that my first career has to be right for a lifetime:

How can you make such a perfect call at 16 or 18 years of age? Let the first one – or the first five – be giant mistakes. Just keep pushing until you find the right career.

12. I let go of the lie that it’s too late to re-invent myself:

It is never too late to start over or toreinvent who you are and to become the person you have always wanted to be. Never.

13. I let go of the excuses that get in the way of my goals:

Stop lathering yourself with excuses. You are not fooling anyone especially yourself. The weight of excuses is heavy. Drop them. Just do what needs to be done!

14. I let go of the envy and jealousy of successful people:

The comparison game has a sad ending and you lose that game every time. Be inspired by the success of others and then mold it into your own path.

15. I let go of the victim mindset that says “pity me!”:

Sure, people will pity and feel bad for you but what does that get you? Let it go. Take on the abundance mindset that promises you the world’s riches starting with your thoughts. Adopt the right thoughts.

How To Stop Procrastinating: Getting In The Flow of Getting It Done. (Part 3)

Hey guys!!! Happy weekend to you all.

Today I give you the third part of my series on procrastination.

Tell me if this is not true for you.When you actually commit to doing something, you get it done fast and without any fuss. You are focused. Your decision drives you, and you know what needs to happen and you just do it.

Plus the satisfaction that comes from your results generates even more creativity and productivity.

Those are the times you are in the zone. You are on top of it. You are untouchable by delays and excuses. You are doing your best and moving towards your goals and desires.

You love this feeling of completion. You secretly prefer this feeling to stress of procrastinating and yet you manage to procrastinate on a whole lot of things. Why is that?

Because you have a habit of procrastinating. But the good news about habits is that you can break them by interrupting them and replacing them with better, more fruitful habits.

The final part will be poster on Monday. Stay glued to this post.

How To Stop Procrastinating: Let’s Find Out Why We Procrastinate First (Part 2)

Hey guys!

I guess you all read through my last post for yesterday. If you did, this is the continuee series (part 2). I hope this changes your mindset of procrastinating when we done.

Getting things done is hard work, definitely harder than getting nothing done. Or getting easy things done.

Right?

We are creatures of comfort so we resist the notion of hard work, because it translates to discomfort and maybe even pain.

We might have to move our bodies and put in effort and concentrate and focus and even break a sweat. So we resist.

These walls of resistance manifest in the simplest and costliest form in our lives: Procrastination.
But here’s the irony. Procrastinating is
actually harder on you over time than overcoming resistance and doing the work.

Why?

Because procrastination can cause fatigue and stress and anxiety. It can leave you feeling empty and dissatisfied with yourself. It makes you feel guilty and nags you like an annoying fly in your bedroom in the middle of the night.
On the other hand, completing a task elevates you to high levels of true happiness, gives you a sense of accomplishment, and makes you more productive for the next task.

Nothing is so fatiguing as the eternal hanging on of an uncompleted task. ~William James
So the question is, which feeling do you want more?

Stay tuned for the next part..

Who Is Seyi Awolowo|Seyi Awolowo Biography: Meet Multi- Talented And Entrepreneur Seyi Awolowo

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Seyi Awolowo Is A Nigerian entrepreneur and multi- talented Actor, MC/ TV Host, Talent Recruiter and model. He has starred in several TV commercials, modelled for different organisations, also acted in TV series and many more…

Seyi Awolowo was born 28 December, Seyi has been on several auditions and has worked alongside with some popular organization commercials, model agencies like; Etisalat, MTN, Herbal toothpaste, Broken casts and crew, and many others..

Seyi Awolowo is a psychology graduate from Houdegbe North American University Benin. He takes his mum as an excellent example of an ideal mentor for youths, and her son definitely inherited her humble nature, very understanding, adventurous, trustworthy, loyal, fun-loving, and the ability to evoke the sympathy of people and work on serious projects.
The talented act is at the top of his career at the moment, has he juggles from one movie set to the other and commercials as he has a lot of positive auditions on the table.

The young entrepreneur is in vogue, seeing practically in some commercials and movie set; gladly doing same to the satisfaction of his fans, which swell by the day.

Seyi Awolowo is a an ambitious young man, his delivery of assigned tasks, make him to be the most sought out at the moment.

Seyi Awolowo is a wonderful, talented dude, guys keep watching and see how this dude take over territories.

Seyi Awolowo Credits

  • Etisalat commercial
  • MTN commercial
  • Herbal toothpaste commercial
  • Governor Ambode Campaign commercial
  • Dettol soap model
  • Fiesta condom commercial
  • Broken (a series programme)
  • Master of Ceremony of major gigs in the city of Lagos.

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Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often merely the will to try it and the faith to believe that it is possible.

Richard M. Devos

You do not believe what you don’t see; you see what you already believe. You actually view your world through a lens of beliefs, attitudes, prejudices, and pre- conceived notions. You are not what you think you are, but what you think, you are.

Proverbs 23:7 says that as a man “thinketh in his heart, so is he.” This means that you always act on the outside based on your innermost beliefs and convictions about yourself.

In Mathew 9:29, Jesus says ” According to your faith, {it will be done} unto you.” This is another way of saying that your intense beliefs become your realities. They determine what happens to you.

All improvement in your life comes from changing your beliefs about yourself and your possibilities. Personal growth comes from changing your beliefs about what you can do and about what is possible for you. Would you like to double your income? Of course you would! Here is the question: Do you believe that is possible? How would you like to triple your income? Do you believe that is possible as well?

Whatever your level of skepticism, let me ask you a question. Since you started your first job, haven’t you already doubled or tripled your income? Aren’t you earning vastly more than you earned when you started? Haven’t you already proven to yourself that it is possible to double and triple your income? And what you have done before, you can do again probably over and over if you just learn how. You simply have to believe that it is possible.

According to Napoleon Hill, he said “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

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