Easter is a time of miracles
and a chance for man’s redemption.
It started many years ago
And was a plan of God’s invention.
He sent to us his only Son
Whose love for us was great.
He died on the cross and rose again
To save us all from our sin
such as blasphemy and hate.
Trying to be positive when you’re grieving or experiencing other serious distress can seem impossible. During these times, it’s important to take the pressure off of yourself to find the silver lining.
Positive thinking isn’t about burying every negative thought or emotion you’ve got or avoiding difficult feelings. The lowest points, where we once thought, we are done. Actually, those are the ones that motivate us to move on and make positive changes.
When going through such a time, try to see yourself as if you were a good friend in need of comfort and sound advice. What would you say to them? You’d likely acknowledge their feelings and remind them that they have every right to feel sad or angry in their situation, and then offer support with a gentle reminder that things will get better.
Here are some real-life examples of Positive thinking. See, How people achieved something when even society loses hope on them.
We all know the persona behind the multinational Fast Food Joint KFC Colonel Sanders.
One of the foremost amazing aspects of his life is that the incontrovertible fact that when he reached the age of sixty-five, after running a restaurant for several years, Harland Sanders found himself penniless. He retired and received his first Social Security check which was for 100 and five dollars. which was just the start of his international fame and financial success story…
Colonel Sanders, a fellow who loved sharing his fried chicken recipe. He had tons of positive influence from those that tasted the chicken. Now, he was retired, and up in age, he chose to sell his cool new chicken recipe to the planet. With little means at his disposal, he traveled door to door to houses to restaurants everywhere in his local area. He wanted to partner
with someone so he could promote his fried chicken recipe. Needless to mention, he was met with little enthusiasm.
Colonel Sanders started traveling by car to different restaurants and cooked his fried chicken recipe on the spot for the restaurant owners. If the owner liked the chicken, they might enter into a handshake agreement to sell the Colonel’s chicken. Legend has it that before having his first “yes” he heard 1009 “no”s.
Colonel ahead of his first KFC store. The deal was that for every piece of chicken the restaurant sold, Sanders would receive a nickel. The restaurant would receive packets of Colonel’s secret herbs and spices so as to avoid them knowing the recipe. In the year 1964, He had 600 franchises. At this point, he sold his company for $2 million dollars but remained as a spokesperson. In 1976, the Colonel was ranked because of the world’s second most recognizable celebrity.
It’s amazing how the person started at the age of 65, when most retire, and built a worldwide empire out of fried chicken. No time is lost. Keep going!
Practicing positive thinking every day
If you tend to possess a negative outlook, don’t expect to become an optimist overnight. But with practicing positive thinking, one day, all your self-talk will contain less self-criticism and more self-acceptance. you’ll also subside critical of the planet around you.
When your state of mind is usually optimistic, you’re better ready to handle everyday stress in a more constructive way.
You won’t be able to undo years of pessimism and negative thoughts overnight, but with some practice, you can learn how to approach things with a more positive outlook.
Have a productive week!
Hope tip 2 was of help to you or someone you know who needs this. Let’s go straight ro tip 3.
How to be a good listener: Showing you care builds trust to open up.
- Make eye contact and put away your phone.
- Focus completely on the other person.
- Pauses are fine, try not to jump in to fill a silence.
- Say back what you think it is they are wanting you to hear.
- Resist putting your own interpretation on it.
- Don’t give up. Sometimes it can take a few tries..
Please share and help a friend today.
Trust you having a great day. This is a continuation of my previous post. Hope Tip 1 was helpful? Here is Tip 2.
How To Open Up A Conversation
Don’t be shy to ask how someone’s feeling:
- Choose a good time, and somewhere without distractions.
- Use open questions that need more than a yes/no answer.
- How are things? I’ve noticed you don’t seem quite yourself.
- Listen well. How’s that making you feel?
- Avoid giving your view of what’s wrong, or what they should do.
Help someone today by sharing.
What is a healthy mindset?
A healthy mindset is being okay with trying, even if you aren’t the best. It is accepting that you don’t have to like everyone you meet and that they don’t have to take up any space in your mind or life if you don’t want them to. It means honoring when you aren’t feeling productive, and giving yourself the rest you need. It means pushing yourself when you know that you can stand to go a little farther. It means getting very good at discerning the difference.
The mistake most people are aiming for isn’t a healthy mindset, it’s the kind of perfectionistic nonsense that’s breaking them in the first place.
It does not mean that you do everything correctly on the first try. It does not mean you are able to intuit exactly what’s “right” for you without trying and failing sometimes. It does not mean that you will be seamlessly, unendingly productive, or that you’ll immediately like everyone you meet, and never have an ounce of self-doubt again.
A healthy mindset is not believing that everything is perfect, it is knowing that you will be okay even if it isn’t.
Most people live their lives thinking that just because they aren’t doing everything perfectly, that there’s something wrong with them. That they just need to be unblocked, healed, purged and awakened into some greater understanding that will make them the super beings they think they want to be.
That is not what healing is. That is not what awakening is.
Developing a healthy mindset is no longer avoiding, denying or rejecting discomfort, and it is knowing when discomfort is worth it. It is understanding that life is not perfect and never will be, and it is the willingness to live anyway. It is the knowledge that people are not always trustworthy, and it is the willingness to try anyway. It is realizing that you might not always get things right the first time, and it is the willingness to do them anyway. It is the acceptance that you are not a perfect being, and it is the recognition that you never needed to be anyway.
A healthy mindset means knowing that you have the power to build the life you want, and it is the wisdom to know when you’re wasting that energy on the things you don’t. It is not believing you are the best person in the room, it is being okay even though you aren’t. It is not competing with people until you arise victoriously and on top, it is remembering that everyone has their own path, and you cannot beat someone on their journey of self-development.
Be active. At the same time, focus on yourself.
Hope you start taking action this year, starting with the little you have.
1. ON EARNING:
Never depend on single income. Make investment to create a second chance.
2. ON SPENDING:
If you buy things you do not need, soon you will have to sell things you need.
3. ON SAVINGS:
Do not save what is left after spending, but spend what is left after saving.
4. ON TAKING RISK:
Your future is at the mercy of the risk you are willing to take today.
5. ON INVESTMENT:
Do not put all eggs in one basket.
6. ON EXPECTATIONS:
Honesty is a very expensive gift. Do not expect it from cheap people.
7. Past is a waste paper, present is a newspaper, and future is a question paper. Come out of your past, control the present, and secure the future.
8. When bad things happen in your life, you have three choices. You can either let it define you, let it destroy you or you can let it strengthen you.
9. Our eyes are in the front because it is more important to look ahead than to look backwards.
10. We use pencil when we were young, but now we use pens. Do you know why? Because mistakes in childhood can easily be erased, unlike now.
You’re not okay if you’re spending every single day in bed, barely moving from your room, rarely answering texts or engaging in any type of human interaction.
You’re not okay if you’re crying your eyes out every single night before you go to sleep, if you’re skipping showers almost every single morning, if you’re losing energy early in the afternoon when you’ve hardly even started your day yet.
You’re not okay if you’re always telling lies about why you’ve been acting so distant from your friends, why you’ve been locked inside your house lately, why you haven’t been in the mood to go out, why your eyes are always so red and puffy.
You’re not okay if you’ve lost interest in things you used to love, if you’ve lost energy, if you’ve lost passion, if you’ve lost the desire to roll out of bed when your alarm rings.
You’re not okay if you’ve been feeling off, like you’re not exactly yourself, like something needs to change. You’re not okay if you’re worried you’re going to feel this way forever. You’re not okay if you’re hoping thing are going to change soon.
You need to understand that not okay doesn’t mean not normal. There are so many people in this world feeling similar to how you’re feeling. You’re not alone. You’re not weird. You’re not crazy. You’re just a human going through a hard time right now.
If you’re not okay, you shouldn’t be embarrassed about it, but you should do something about it. You should reach out to get the help you deserve. You should make the choice to make a lifestyle change. You should see if you can find a therapist to talk to about your situation. You should pour your energy into finding a way to cultivate happiness moving forward.
You don’t want your life to be about existing until the next day, the next hour, the next minute. You want it to be about looking forward to the next day, the next hour, the next minute. In order for that to happen, you need to find things you enjoy. You need to get excited about waking up in the morning again. You need to ask yourself what you want and how you’re going to get it.
The time to play pretend is over. It’s time to start taking care of yourself. It’s time to decide you deserve happiness. You deserve to feel proud of yourself. You deserve to wake up in the morning with energy.
When you pretend you’re okay, you’re pretending you don’t need to fix your situation. You’re pretending your mental health isn’t a priority. You’re pretending talking to someone isn’t going to help. You’re pretending you’re perfectly fine living like this day after day after day.
But you’re not okay — and it’s okay to admit that. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to start taking better care of yourself. It’s okay to decide you matter. Your happiness matters. Your well-being matters. Your life matters.
Guest post by Holly Riordan.
The beginning of a self-transformation requires action, but the end of it requires something deeper, something harder, something you’ve probably never realized before.
While doing more will almost always generate results, there’s an untapped, life-changing magic in doing less.
Sometimes, your problems don’t come from what you’re not doing, they come from what you can’t stop doing.
To really change your life, you probably need to consume less. You probably need to learn to use what you have, to take a breath and stop yourself every time you think you need that one new perfect thing that will magically transform you into a new person.
You probably need to spend less. You probably need to reevaluate your patterns and behaviors and refocus on your long-term goals, prioritizing your future comfort over your immediate gratification.
You probably need to engage less, both with people who are not mentally mature and people whom do not have any intention of having a civil discourse with you. This is not because you can’t speak freely, but because having an exchange with someone whose intent is to fight you rather than connect with you will always be a losing situation.
You probably need to change less. When we start out on our healing journey, it’s about uprooting, replanting, and sprouting. But if you’re unhealed beneath the surface, you won’t be able to lay roots without wanting to rip them out again. Healing, you will find, is not about how many times you can start over, it is whether to not you can bloom.
You probably need to care less. When your mind is consumed with trying to master and perfect every single little thing in your life, you get overwhelmed and give up. Instead, you have to focus on the few things that are actually requiring your attention, and then build from there.
You probably need to do less. Not because you shouldn’t be productive, but because you only have so much energy in a day, and when you spend it on things you don’t really care much about, you find yourself constantly exhausted, drained and at your wit’s end.
You probably need to have fewer expectations. Often, we conflate that with having high standards, but they aren’t the same thing. Unrealistic expectations will slowly wreck you, because they require that you achieve perfection immediately. When your expectation is that you should be a natural-born master of whatever you try to do, it becomes really hard to show up and do the work consistently, which is what you actually have to do to achieve mastery.
You probably need to not try so hard. When you try to force people to like you, it usually has the opposite effect. When you try to convince yourself you’re attractive, you usually seem less so. When you are trying to force every outcome in your life, there’s usually a reason they aren’t coming together on their own.
You probably need to give fewer excuses. Not because you’re going to be unkind to yourself, but because the kindest thing you can possibly do is stop avoiding the honest truth about what’s wrong. You cannot keep trying to positive-self-talk your way into thinking you love your life when you do not. When we’re ready to make fewer justifications, it means we’re also ready to make greater change.
The truth about doing less is that it’s going to bring you into stillness. It is going to require you to face that discomfort you’ve been running from head-on.
The truth is that when we first realize we need to change our lives, it is easy to get swept away in the escape fantasy of it all. Everything has to go, and nothing can stay. There’s an addictive quality to starting over, and if you’re not careful, you can confuse it for actually healing.
Truly getting better is learning to be okay where you are, wherever you are. It is actually metabolizing that discomfort for once, listening to it, letting it show you where you are deeply misaligned.
It is to become grounded, to make positive decisions for the long-term, to start breaking those destructive habits that have been fueled by the pain you haven’t quite had a name for all these years.
It is to no longer be controlled by your feelings, but by your ambitions, by your dreams for the future.
When you go about changing your life, sometimes, the most radical shift of all is to do absolutely nothing — and wait for the sun to rise.
As I was surfing the internet as always for inspiration, I stumbled on this piece that will blow your minds out. At first when I was reading through, it was as if everything was all about me. Am sure reading through also can relate to you too.
Conventional wisdom tells us that your character should matter more than your reputation. After all, one is who you really are, while the other is just what other people perceive you to be.
While there’s certainly virtue in knowing that no misperception of you can really impact the truth of who you are, it is a false notion to think that we don’t have to care what other people think about us.
However, we hear the opposite as a rally-cry all the time.
It doesn’t matter what other people think!
Except it does, because everything you want in life involves other people.
Now, small-minded people who are intent on disliking you for their own prejudiced reasons are not what we’re talking about. No, we’re not even talking about the people who dislike you for legitimate reasons.
Your reputation does matter as much as your character because the way people perceive you is who they imagine you to be, and who they imagine you to be determines how they will interact with you, what they offer you, whether or not they want to work with you, and whether or not they show up for you.
You cannot behave like a social pariah and then just fall back on the idea that it “doesn’t matter what other people think” because you’re a good person at heart.
All that goodness will be for nothing if you aren’t actively considering the opinions of others. No, not so they can weigh you down and stop you from pursuing your goals, but because when other people have a consensus about you, you’re typically the common denominator.
It matters what the people in your close circle think.
It matters what your partner thinks.
It matters what the people you love think.
If everyone in your life thinks you’re making a mistake, you might really need to take a moment to consider whether or not you might be. If everyone in your life is warning you about your new partner, you might need to take a moment to consider if perhaps they have a point. If everyone in your life seems to have the same problems with you, for the same reasons, in the same patterns, at the same frequencies, you might really need to take a moment and determine whether or not the world is just crazy and out to get you or if, perhaps, there’s also a pattern in your behaviour.
It’s easy to not care what other people think.
It’s convenient, actually.
It totally lets us off the hook, it allows us to validate our own motives and desires without any real consideration for those around us.
The work is not that we completely neglect our own needs and opinions in favour of other people’s.
The work is that we both advocate for and tend to our own needs, honour our own opinions, and still remain cognizant of how people are responding to us.
If you want to get anywhere in life, you have to be a reasonably likable person, or at the bare minimum, not impossible to work with, difficult to connect with, or challenging to love.
And to do that, we have to think about what other people are thinking. Not so their opinions of us can become our own, but so that their opinions of us can inform our own.
In all, I appreciate one of my mentors and excellent writer Brianna Weist for always coming through whenever I need a push in my life. Her piece of work is very deep and encouraging. Also it’s a privilege to always acknowledge your work on my page.
Hey guys!I was amazed when I set my eyes on this write up. I have no other choice but to share it with you. It is a guest post from one of my role model and beautiful writer Holly Riordan 🙌🔥Please be patient when reading.
The first step to self-care is deciding you matter. You deserve to feel confident. You deserve to feel loved. You deserve to feel whole.
You have to stop telling yourself that it doesn’t matter what you do with your time because no one cares anyway. At the very least, you have to care. After all, you’re the only one who matters.
If other people aren’t paying attention to you, aren’t supporting you, aren’t loving you, that’s outside of your control. The only thing you can control is our own actions, your own thoughts, your own choices.
The first step to self-care is actually giving a shit. It’s deciding that you care about where your career is headed. You care about whether your friendships are stable. You care about what happens to your heart. You care about whether you get enough exercise that day, whether you eat enough that day, whether you take care of your hygiene that day. You care about yourself.
If you don’t care about yourself, if you continue to believe that you are worthless and aren’t going to make it so there’s no point in even trying, then you’re going to get caught in a self-destructive cycle. You’re never going to take a chance on yourself. You’re going to keep coming up with excuses to stay hidden inside your comfort zone. You’re never going to change.
It’s a pretty simple concept. If you don’t care about yourself, you’re not going to take good care of yourself. You’re going to stop trying. You’re going to let yourself waste away. And you cannot let that happen. You cannot forget your worth. You cannot treat yourself so unkindly.
Maybe you’re unable to love yourself right now because you’re distracted by your flaws. Or maybe you made a mistake you consider unforgivable and can’t stop thinking about the past. Or maybe you’re just in a toxic mindset right now.
If learning to love yourself sounds like too big of a leap from where you are right now, you can start by learning to give a shit about yourself.
You don’t have to love your body yet, but you should give a shit about keeping it clean and healthy. You don’t have to love your job yet, but you should give a shit about whether you’re doing the right thing at work. You don’t have to love your life yet, but you should give a shit about continuing it, strengthening it, bettering it.
It’s not going to be easy to change the way you think. It’s not going to be easy to suddenly start giving a shit about yourself after years of not caring at all — but it might be a little bit easier than suddenly loving yourself unconditionally.
Give a shit about whether you make healthy decisions that day.
Give a shit about whether you compliment yourself that day.
This is a guest post.
So currently some countries have ease the ongoing lockdown that compulsorily made everyone stay at home for a long period of time. During this lockdown, a lot have been going down. Most of us discovered a talent or two, some new skills, and ideas.
Working from home
I for one have definitely found a new skill and idea on a project.
As we all know this pandemic will change a lot of things especially one that has to do with our daily bread or businesses.
The use of technology is on a top notch level at the moment. Because that is what is used to communicate with everyone: staffs, colleagues, fellow students, etc… Well I can speak for myself that working from home can be related to working smarter and faster. It will save a lot of time and money spent on transportation and feeding. But this is not for everyone, especially those who are not used to working from home. It can be exhausting, boring, and can make one lazy that results to sleeping.
Working from the office
Now the question is thrown to you guys. Which do you prefer, and also will you continue with your choice if you were given the chance?
In all, please be safe and mask up when you go out.
Have a wonderful day!
Please, let me advise all my friends and family to think twice before joining the multitudes that would jump into the street by 4th of May, we can’t come this far to go back fast.
4th of May is not the expiration date for the virus, you can still contract it, so think twice before you make the decision of going out and if you finally decide to go out please, be more careful than you have been doing.
Spanish flu of 1918 killed over 50million persons reason been that when the isolation was relaxed then, people rushed into the street to begin their normal life without been mindful of the fact that the flu was still around and within the first three weeks of the relaxation, over 35million persons lost their life’s.
Let’s not give room for history to repeat itself… Extend your own lockdown beyond 4th of May if you can.
While countries like America, Italy and China were in lockdown, their government were busy disinfecting the streets of their nation. While Nigerians were on lockdown, our government were busy stealing and looting funds made for disinfecting and putting measures to checkmate the spread of the virus.
America, Italy, China are relaxing their lock down, our copy and paste government are also relaxing ours. The citizens of the above nations will go into a disinfected street while we will carelessly rush into a highly infected street….think twice.
America, China and other nations began to think of relaxing their lockdown when they started experiencing low record of Coronavirus case but our myopic government chose to relax our lockdown even when we are still experiencing massive increase of the virus.
If wisdom has eluded our leaders in aspect of decision making, let wisdom not also elude us in making our own personal decision.
Be guided, think twice, stay home and stay safe.
Those who will tell the story of this Coronavirus are those that took painstaking measures to stay indoors, you can choose to be one of us.
Trust the part of yourself that tells you when something needs to be over. The part that tells you that you need to end a certain chapter and start a new one. The part that tells you when something has served its purpose. Trust the part of yourself that keeps waking you up at night nudging you to grow out of your comfort zone and try something new. Something bold. Something exciting. Something that will bring you back to life.
Trust the part of yourself that knows there’s so much more to you. There’s more to life. There’s more than what you’re settling for. There’s more to your life than boredom, discomfort and anxiety.
Trust the part of yourself that’s hungry for abundance, growth, inspiration and meaning. Trust the part of yourself that begs you for change. Whether getting a new job, moving to a new city, losing certain people to make room for new ones or just working on yourself and exploring new habits. Trust the part of yourself that begs you to leave certain things. The part that knows that staying any longer will do more harm than good.
Trust the part of yourself that believes against all odds that things will work out in your favor when you take a leap of faith. The part that propels you to break the rules and take the road less traveled and give up your security for a little bit to start a new adventure that could change your life. Trust the part of yourself that sounds crazy because a little bit of madness is sometimes all you need to pursue your biggest dreams.
Trust the part of yourself that just knows when something isn’t right or when something is no longer good for you even if it’s hard to admit. Trust the part of yourself that is pushing you to end things you’re not ready to end because this part just knows that something better is right around the corner but you have to make some space for it. You have to be empty first before you can be full again.
Trust the part of yourself that knows when it’s time to move on because that part also knows what moving on will teach you. The new doors that will open. The new opportunities that will come up when you take a risk. The things that will come find you when you declare that you are searching and that you’re free.
Trust the part of yourself that tells you when to let go because that means a new beginning awaits you and deep inside you know it’s been too long since something came along that made you look forward to tomorrow. Deep inside you know that you are in desperate need of change. Deep inside you know that you can’t live a new life if you are still clinging to the old one that no longer fulfills you.
Trust the part of you that knows when it’s time to say goodbye. The part that may not have a perfect plan for the future but it has faith that something big is coming along once start stepping out so you can reach it. Once you start driving on a different road to find it.
Guest post from Rania Naim about self Improvement and growth.