Failure Is Grand. Fear Of Failure a Complete Waste Of Time

I’ve had it with fear of failure . I am weary of thoughts of failure, anticipation of failure, worries of failure and they have nothing to do with failure itself. Failure itself has been really good to me in life. In hindsight, of course – I was never that smart when it first knocked me off my feet.

Failure taught me whom to trust . Failure showed me the true colors of friends. Failure proved what I am not willing to give up in life. Failure brought my values to light . Failure opened doors which always led to better success. Failure connected me with better opportunities, brighter outcomes and greater results.

You see, failure has been so good to me and I bet it’s been really good to you too.

Fear of failure on the other hand has been nothing but a waste of precious time.

Enough already!

So you fail. Great. You tried something. You learned something. You risked something.

In fact, who are you not to fail ? Whoever achieved greatness without it?
Fail.
Fail again.
Fail often.
Fail shamelessly and proudly.
Fail until you get it out of the way so you make room for nothing but success.

Success on your terms , in your words, by your definition.

Punch Fear In The Face: 3 Steps For Turning A Dream Into A Reality

This is for the person who’s considered dropping out of school to start a company, for the working mother who wants more time with her kids, for the young philanthropist who longs for Africa, or the dreamer who hates their job and feels called to something greater. This post is for you.

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It is never easy to start something from the bottom to the top. I have faced a lot of challenges in whatever idea i try to execute. I have been poor, average, and everything in between.

But one thing has stayed consistent. Fear.

Fear is crippling and it steals our dreams from under us. It’s a heavy voice in our minds whispering why we don’t deserve better, why we will fail, and how our ideas are impossible. But fear is wrong.

Now I could write pages on this topic, but here’s the short. The core of the core that has allowed me to push through the fear. To turn my dreams into a reality. To give me the freedom to control my time and build a life of excitement, adventure, and purpose. It’s not about money. It’s not about education. It’s about smart, calculated action.

Here’s My 3 Steps for Turning Your Dreams Into a Reality.

1. Scratch Your Own Itch: This is a bit of a pre-cursor. Whatever your dream may be, you must start with familiarity. A dream must come from deep within. A fix to a problem you’ve experienced. The fulfillment of a need which is being ignored. Ultimately, a dream that’s “career worthy” provides a solution for a better way.

If your dream is to be a chef but you don’t cook, you might be on the wrong path. If you want to launch a charity but you don’t support other non-profits, you still have work to do. If you want to develop a t-shirt company but know nothing about garments or screen printing, it’s time to research before calling it a “dream”.

2. Start Small, Start Today: Procrastination kills more dreams than failure ever will. I’ve seen too many friends buy domains and create twitter handles to only watch them die in their idea graveyard. Turning a dream into a career takes consistent small advances. Start with paper. No great idea was ever created without a transfer from mind to paper. Then move to conversation. Share it with anybody who will listen. Let your mind hear the proclamation and begin to more thoroughly shape your concept.

Next, set a date. Buy your first batch of yarn. Launch your first blog post. Get your products on Etsy. Buy a plane ticket. Whatever it is, set a date and do it. You only have one life. Mistakes are proof that you’re trying and you’ll never regret chasing your dreams – even if it doesn’t work out.

3. Take a Leap, But Build a Net: a friend of mine was so afraid when launching her company, she sat down and listed every person she knew who she could turn to for a job if it failed and everything fell apart. She folded up the paper with that scribbled list and placed it in the drawer of her desk so she could move forward with boldness. Even today, with millions of naira in annual revenue, she still pull that list out after a tough afternoon and say to herself, “If this doesn’t work out, I’ve got ideas and options. So I might as well be brave today.”

Be bold, be drastic, be crazy, but be smart. Build a financial cushion and define your back-up plan. Remember, walking a tight rope without a safety net is exponentially more dangerous.

What’s your dream? What’s holding you back?

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Overcoming The Fear Of Rejection

To be a soul winner for Jesus, we must overcome all fear, including rejection. The Samaritan Woman at the Well not only carried water, she carried the burden of rejection. This is the incredible story of her turnaround from Weakness to Wellness to Witness.

Jacob’s well was there, and Jesus, tired as he was from the journey, sat down by the well. It was about noon. (John 4:6 NIV)

She was alone drawing from Jacob’s well at about the sixth hour. This was a famous well that provided water to the community. But it was the sixth hour, in the hot afternoon. This Samaritan woman was alone because the well was half of a mile away from the community. The women usually carried water either in the morning or the evening. Why did she come under the hot sun? Maybe it was an emergency. Or maybe she wanted to be alone, away from the eyes of other women, to avoid listening to disparaging remarks from other women. Or was it out of fear?

Rejected by Society

He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.” “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.”(John 4:16-18 NIV)

She had had 5 husbands and the man whom she was living with – was not a husband. In those days, women don’t divorce husbands. Either she was divorced 5 times, or had had 5 husbands who died, or a combination of both. In any case, she would have most likely been disregarded by men and a taboo to the women of that society in general.

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Furthermore, she was not married to the man she was living with. After 5 marriages, she wasn’t young anymore. Young women carried waters from the well because they were stronger. Because of the fact she had to carry water herself meant that she didn’t have a servant. We can infer that she was living with that man because she was depending on him financially. Since she was willing to live with him without being married to him, it showed her desperation.

Jesus Crossed Barriers to Reach Out to Her

As a rule of thumb, Jews don’t speak to Samaritans. Men couldn’t speak to women without the husband’s there. Rabbis were not supposed to be near her. Sounds like fear, right? Jesus confronted her past. She didn’t lie to hide her shame.

To be a soul winner, we need to be transparent so that others can see the real Jesus in us. For the light to shine into us, and then, through us to others, we need to be transparent.

Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony, “He told me everything I ever did.” (John 4:39 NIV)

Her transparency was clear when she brought many souls to Jesus. She told many about Jesus: “He told me all that I ever did.” This means she laid bare about her past life to many people. She didn’t care if they already knew about her past or not.

Through her divine supernatural encounter with Jesus, she knew without a shadow of doubt that God loved and accepted her. Now she was no longer living in fear. She was no longer dependent on others for love and acceptance. She now knew that God Himself loved and accepted her.

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False Evidence Appearing Real


False Evidence Appearing Real, or Fear is running rampant through our world today. We have a fear of attacks from extreme religious groups, economic down fall, the ongoing presidential election, and not to mention the fears in our own little worlds. Do we have enough money to pay rent? Am I going to lose my job? Is my kid going to get bullied today in school?
In my opinion, fear is the ultimate weapon of the enemy. He uses fear to keep us from tithing, speaking out in the name of Jesus, and it even keeps us from fully worshiping in church. To me that’s a sign that fear has snuck too far into our everyday lives if we are afraid what people will think of us if we raise a hand during a worship song in church.

Fear by itself isn’t conducive to our spiritual walk with the Lord. But when fear is mixed with other godly virtues we create a healthy dose of fear that motivates us to draw closer to him. Let’s start by looking at what Solomon, the wisest man to ever live, said about fear;

Proverbs 9:10 – “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.”

Here we have fear mixed with humility and faith. We have faith that there is a higher being than us (God) and humility to understand that he is in control and all knowing. It’s just like in school; when we realized or understood that the teacher in class knew more about a subject than we did we were more likely to come to them for help. God works in the same way. He not only created everything in and around us, but he also lived with us. God fully understands everything we go through and yearns for us to turn to him for understanding and wisdom.

Philippians 2:12 – “…continue to work out your salvation with fear and trembling”

Fear mixed with the reverence of God can be a great motivator. Never cease seeking the Lord and his word for we do not know the day or hour which God will come back. What a glorious day that will be which I don’t want to miss, and I don’t want you to either!
When we have a healthy balance of faith, humility, reverence, etc.… with fear we are able to see the change God wants to make in us. Whether that’s asking for forgiveness for a sin(s), changing an attitude or lifestyle, or becoming more consistent in our spiritual disciplines. The fear of the Lord should motivate us as Christians and not paralyze us or cause us to stay as we are. If the fear in your life is not motiving you to draw closer to him, then it is not from God. Rebuke that fear in the name and blood of Jesus Christ and break the hold fear has on you.

Dear Father, please show me the areas of my life that need changed. Use a healthy dose of fear to motivate me to change. I want to give you everything I have and I can’t do that without you. You have my heart and I am yours forever. You are my strength, my rock, and the one I hold onto. You hold everything in the palm of your hand but yet you still make time for me. How beautiful is your unfailing love and how blessed I am to call you mine. Thank you father. Amen!

The Vital Mindset Shift to Progress Your Life

What would you pursue if it was somehow guaranteed that you would be successful?

What’s stopping you from going after your dreams?

If you’re like most other people, the answer is probably fear: fear that you won’t be good enough, you’ll never have enough money, fear that your efforts won’t be rewarded, and the list goes on.

Succumbing to fear is like living with a bad mental cold: it will clog you up and stop you from living your best life. Nothing blocks creativity and potential more than fear.

As human beings, it’s in our nature to avoid anything that causes us to feel fear or discomfort. We take mental and physical “detours” all the time, re-routing ourselves so we don’t have to face fear, and we do this so automatically that it often happens on a subconscious level.

In our fast-paced culture, we are very used to getting what we want quickly and conveniently. This has conditioned us to be a little wimpy—sometimes a lot wimpy.

The truth is, we usually give up way too quickly.

No one is immune to this fear. Let me use myself as an example: I love art, but I haven’t picked up a paintbrush in months. Why? Because I’m scared of failing! It seems like everywhere I look, I see incredible speed drawers, amazingly detailed paintings, and “how to” art videos that make the artist look like they’re not struggling with the creative process whatsoever.
Now, when I sit down to paint a picture, spend 3 hours on it, and still don’t feel like it’s all that great, I get frustrated, ashamed, and fearful. So, I stop…and the fear of “what if I never get better” sets in, paralyzing me and causing me to reach for the TV remote instead of picking up a paintbrush, because that way I won’t be reminded of the fact that I’m not as good of an artist as I want to be.

The Vital Mindset Shift to Progress Your Life

However, I have learned something that I know from experience helps a great deal when pushing myself to grow, and that is having a growth mindset.

If you’ve never heard of it, a growth mindset is basically the opposite of a “fixed” mindset.

Growth Mindset: Believing that greater effort yields greater results. You get good at something because you work hard. Or, in the words of Einstein…

It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer – Albert Einstein.

Fixed Mindset: Believing that if someone is better than you at something, it must mean they were “born that way,” and there’s really nothing you can do about it. A fixed mindset would have you believe that your success and skills are “capped,” and you have all the talents now that you ever will.

Note: this is ALWAYS false—don’t fall for it!

2 Reasons to Choose a Growth Mindset & Push Through Your Discomfort

When you have a growth mindset and push through your discomfort, a couple of things will happen:

  1. You will realize that it’s not as hard as you thought. We over-dramatize things that we’re afraid of. Pushing through fear will help you realize that the fear of something is not nearly as bad as the thing itself. Of course, it still may be hard—maybe even very hard—but you’ll realize that you can take baby steps into progress, and baby steps aren’t so scary.
  2. You will get more ideas. It’s good to work creatively under a broad range of emotions. Each emotion “flavors” your work. For instance, what would happen if you only cooked with one spice? It might still taste good, but it would only ever reflect that one flavor. If you cooked with a broad range of spices, however, you’d get a broad range of flavors. Even tough emotions, like fear, can help you achieve something new and interesting. You just have to work despite the fear!

The truth is, fear will always be a part of life. There are famous performers who still get nervous before going on stage every single time. But they keep doing it anyway, because it’s worth it, and even though the fear might not entirely go away, they get used to feeling it and pushing through despite it.

Think about what happens when you lift heavy weights. It’s tough, and it makes your arms sore. It’s not comfortable. But, if you do it everyday, you will get stronger, and it won’t be as uncomfortable. Does the weight get lighter? Nope. It remains just as heavy as it ever was. The changing factor is you getting stronger!

So, even though fear will always be a part of life, the more we deal with it, the stronger we will become.

The happiness you will get from pursuing your passion and charging through the fear will outweigh any discomfort by a landslide.

Plus, fear doesn’t last forever. It’s usually the initial feeling you get before launching yourself out of your comfort zone, but as you get stronger, you will see for yourself that you can do hard things.

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Two Major Obstacles To Success

We are familiar with the two agents to success. Which are fear and doubt. It is first of all the fear of failure, poverty, loss, embarrassment, or rejection that holds most people back from trying in the first place.

I remember back in 2013, I was blogging for an entertainment blogger. That period was my first experience in the blogging path. I was learning at the same time trying to venture into mine. After a year blogging for someone else, I decided to start my own and create my own path. First of all I was really motivated in starting my own entertainment blog which I did. But at some point I was scared and decided to fall back a bit. Fear of the unknown came knocking at my door, dropping some doubt about me starting my blog. How I was going to make it famous, how will I get my readers from, there are too many entertainment blogs out there, how are you sure you gonna make it. Different thoughts came to my mind. At some point I decided to go back and work for the person I was blogging for. In all I overcame and my path to blogging from then till now started.

You know because of fear of failure and rejection, an average number of times that people try to achieve a new goal is less than one. As soon as they think of the goal, these fears overwhelm them and, like a bucket of water on a small fire, extinguish their desire completely.

The second mental obstacle, closely aligned to fear, is self doubt. We doubt our own abilities. We compare ourselves unfavourably to others and think that others are some how better, smarter, and more competent than we are. We think, “I’m not good enough.” We feel inadequate and inferior to the challenges of achieving the great goals that we so much want to accomplish.

Fortunately, if there is anything good about doubt and fear it’s that they are both learned emotions. Have you ever seen a nagative baby before? Children come into the world with no doubts or fears at all. And whatever has been learned can be unlearned through practice and repetition.

The primary antidotes to doubt and fear are courage and confidence. The higher your level of courage and confidence, the lower will be your levels of fear and doubt and the less effect these negative emotions will have on your perfomance and behaviour.

I leave you with this:

Isaiah 43:1 “Don’t fear, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name; you are Mine.” God actually commands us not to fear, or worry. The phrase “fear not” is used at least 80 times in the Bible, most likely because He knows the enemy uses fear to decrease our hope and limit our victories.

The Incredible Power of Taking Risks in Life

There are many ways to change your life for the better. And one simple, yet seemingly scary choice we can make is to be taking more risks in life.

The problem with this path to positive change is that most of us fear taking risks!

may fear rejection, failure and change. We may fear uncertainty.

We think about taking a risk and our innate fight/flight response kicks in.

On top of that, many of us have a warped relationship with fear, where we think fear is bad, and that we should stay away form it.

But actually fear isn’t bad, and neither is risk!

In fact, risk is the very thing that can make us feel alive, and the fear we get with taking risks is just a feeling message to tell us that we’re going outside of our familiar comfort zone.

What’s the worst that could happen?

For many of us, it’s all too easy to get stuck into a routine that provides comfort and safety. But, we have to ask ourselves, are we truly living?

Yes, some risks shouldn’t be taken because the consequences could be disastrous. Howeveyourself. a little bit of discernment, we can take calculated risks that will benefit us regardless of the outcome.

Say for instance, you see an attractive person in a coffee shop, and you want to say hi. What’s the worst that could happen? They’re not interested, but you took that risk which ultimately didn’t hurt you in the end. And doing so likely boosted your courage. So no regrets! It’s all about the attitude you take.

Or there are more serious risks that you could be taking, such as leaving the job you aren’t so thrilled about, or moving to a new country. Again, what is the worse that could happen? If things didn’t work out the way you wanted them to, at least you learnt a lot more about yourself and the world in the process. Plus, you can always go home and go back to the same type of job if you want to!

Risks help to build confidence & open up possibilities

By taking risks, you give yourself permission to try things out, to learn, to fail, to grow and to explore. You get to test your limits and go beyond what you believed was possible. You can to go after the things in life you really want!

By doing this, you naturally build up your self-confidence, growing as a person and opening up a whole new world for yourself.

By taking risks you get better at knowing what you want

Risks helps you to get clear on what you want out of life.

They make you more consciously aware of what is important to you, what you want and don’t want, as part of your planning and decision making process.

Just the level of clarity you get from planning to take a risk helps you to feel more empowered and in control, as the leader of your life and the master of your own destiny.

Risk taking builds self-trust

When you take a risk, you generally do so with awareness after balancing your logic and intuition, to decide what is best for you. By taking action aligned to your own inner compass in this way, you build a level of trust in yourself.

And trusting yourself and knowing when to take action on something you really want only serves to further elevate your self-confidence.

Risks make life exciting and colorful

What would happen if we never took risks?

Life would become monotonous and boring. Nobody wants a boring life, yet it’s such an easy option to resort to, in order to stay safe and in our comfort zones.

It boils down to making a decision.

Although your heart may be racing, and your palms many be sweating, think about what would happen if you didn’t take the chance?

Would you regret the missed opportunity?

We only have this one life, why not stretch yourself to new heights! You never know what could happen… and isn’t that exciting?

Take action starting from today

You don’t need to jump head first into a tonne of risks, but you can practise the art of taking one small risk each day.

It can be as simple as saying hello to someone new, learning a new skill or applying for a new job. Whatever your comfort threshold is, start testing it out each and every day.

Because this is where real growth happens. Ultimately, this risk-taking habit alone will transform your life!

Be Confident And Overcome The Fear Of Moving Forward

It was like a dream, when I felt my mind left the reality world into an imaginary scene.

One evening, I was heading for a meeting that will transform my life and family to become a partner in a law firm. As I was driving I noticed I was the only one on the road. The environment was like “silent hill” quiet and horrifying. Out of the blues, I saw a very big image of a man standing some distance in front of me. I stopped and tried to glimpse at the image, I couldn’t see anything. Fear came drumming on me, my mind became a battlefield. The first voice told me to go back, do I want to die. The other said move forward, you have to complete your mission, remember you were deprived for long to get this position, you have worked hard, this is your time. I was confused and stood beside my car for like 10 minutes. I began to seek God’s presence in prayer to reveal who is the giant blocking my way. Then a word came to me to look at king David as an example. I opened my Bible and began to read.

The war between the Israelites and the Philistines in 1 Samuel 17, the outcome of which is determined by David’s confidence in meeting the challenge of Goliath. The Israelites were full of fear when the Philistines had a giant who was there number one fighter. They tried to retreat back to there camps. But with faith David came forth and said he will challenge the giant. After reading, I gained confidence and my faith grew stronger. It’s like the giant image was reading my confidence, it came out of the shadow to reveal itself. It was a giant, a scary big man with a sword just like Goliath. I wore my armour of faith and confidence, got into my car, ready to destroy anything blocking my goals, future, and greatness. The giant spoke saying “where do I think am going to, do I want to die today. There is no way for you to pass, go back.” When he saw I wasn’t responding to his threats, the giant started running, approaching me very fast. I at the other hand started my engine, and moved with a full speed. As I was moving, I didn’t feel myself in a car anymore, it was like the the car transformed to a very powerful weapon. As we collided, the giant in my front was no more. I came out of the car giving praise and worship to God my protector.

Lessons:

Don’t let fear steal your hardwork, don’t give up on life when things becomes hard. Keep moving forward and you will see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me—practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you” (Philippians 4:8-9, ESV)

Be blessed!

The Warfare of Peace When Feeling Depressed And Scared

Punchline: The devil cannot handle believers who know how to “hold their peace”.

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When trouble comes, our first temptation is to get upset, speak out of our emotions, and start trying first one thing and then the other in the hopes of finding something that will work and turn the situation around. All of these are unacceptable behaviour for the believer who is walking in faith. Nine of them will bring victory. Jesus gave us peace. It is our inheritance. The devil regularly attempts to steal it, but peace is ours, and we must hold on to it. (See: Exodus 14:14).

As believers, we are seated in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus. (Ephesians 2:6). The word seated refers to rest, and the words rest and leave are equivalent to one another.

The book of Hebrews teaches us to enter the rest of God and cease from the weariness and pain of human labour. (See Hebrews 4:3, 10-11) This peace is available to us and as been since Jesus Christ came, died for us, was resurrected from the dead, and ascended on high.

Once upon a time in my life, the devil played his mind game, throwing different negative thoughts in my mind, like: Will I be good enough married, how will I foot the bills for my wedding, how will I get a bigger space to raise a family, will I still have a job since am a contract staff, fear of the unknown now kicked in, everything became Bla bla bla!!! At some point I got knocked down and fell to his mind games. One day I tuned in to Daystar television, Joyce Meyer was ministering ,and the topic was peace. It’s like God took me to that channel deliberately. From there on, I regained my strength and thank God am in a process. I kept on saying “Greater Is He that’s in me, than he that is in the world” I went all scriptural in my declaring. I don’t have to feel condemned, I don’t have to be afraid because Christ lives in me. I will not worry over what tomorrow brings, because I trust the Lord for securing my future and whatever plans I make, He’s always there to see me through. Fear of the unknown is very dangerous to our health. It can make one sick, or commit suicide if not careful. The peace of God is very essential and needed in our life to put our trust in Him, and be joyful.

Peace is available, but we are encouraged to enter it. We enter the peace of God by believing His word and by trusting in Him instead of in ourselves or someone else.

We benefit when we defeat the devil, but Jesus also benefits. It gives Him glory when we operate according to His word. He is able to bless us with our inheritance in Him. Talking about the promises of God is encouraging, but possessing them is much better.

God’s plan is to work in our lives to bring us to the place where we can keep ourselves at rest during times of adversity. The prophet Isaiah wrote, “Fear not, for I am with you, do not look around you in terror and be dismayed, for I am you God. I will strengthen and harden you to difficulties, yes, I will help you; yes, I will hold you up and retain you with My right hand of rightness and justice.

All those in strife against you, those who come at you with a spirit of contention and war, shall end up as nothing. So hold your peace. As you hold your peace, I can work because it shows that you are trusting Me.

The next time something or someone threatens to steal your peace, don’t give in. Instead, release God’s power by holding on to your inheritance and trusting that He will take care of the situation for you.