Video Game Addiction: Can an Addiction Have a Positive Side?

Hey guys!

Been a while I posted on this platform. Am happy to be back and consistent. A quick question for you guys today..

What do you think about the topic today?

Video games are dangerous to your mental health and will make you become an addict. Do you believe that? Of course, we hear this repeated time and time again about videogame addiction, and it’s even gotten into a manual of psychiatric disorders, but should it be there?

Repeatedly saying video gaming is an addiction, doesn’t make it so. There are several contradictions that we must consider about video games and addictions.

If video gaming is an addiction, there is a huge number of people with it because “The…number of video gamers worldwide in 2018, broken down by region, (indicates)…there were over 1.23 billion gamers in Asia Pacific in 2018, with the region generating $71.4 billion of revenue in the same year.”

There were over 1.23 billion gamers Asia Pacific in 2018 raised the estimate. “There are approximately 2.2 billion gamers in the world. Out of the estimated 7.6 billion people living on earth, as of July 2018, that means almost a third of people on this planet are gamers.” Video gaming is a big business and enjoyed worldwide.

Addictions and playing video games, according to a significant review of the research, are not the same. Yes, there are certain things which they both share.

One thing they both share is that they stimulate a person to want to engage in the activity because it is pleasurable. Regarding the games, who doesn’t want to win and show that they can compete effectively with people all over the world?

Millions of gamers are playing each other throughout the day and the night. The internet is abuzz with their efforts to win points, raise to higher levels, or open secret doors. Wouldn’t you want that?

It doesn’t matter what your age is, because video games can be very pleasurable activities, especially in a profoundly troubling world. The escape aspect is part of the notion that the games are addictive.

Video gaming’s positive effects

Not all video games are based on violence and destruction, and it is here that we must make a distinction. Games can be exciting and require skills in anticipating goals and planning how to reach those goals. They can also include design elements when there are pieces that must fit into geometric patterns.

Games can also encourage cooperative behavior toward other players. Altruism has been found in some of the research that has been reviewed over the years. When playing games that promote positive response with others, there is a halo effect that carries on after the game.

Games can also engage children and adults in developing finer hand-eye coordination and the use of a controller. Vision also benefits because many of the games require a high degree of visual alertness. Surveying the landscape in the game leads to more acute visual perception, as studies have shown.

Gameplaying also involves repeated actions that will strengthen brain cell connections. What does this mean in plain English? Memory and learning are enhanced as a result of these actions.

Reaction time is enhanced. Gameplaying requires real-time action that activates areas of the brain controlling sensory movement. In other words, you learn to react physically in a faster manner to make a response to the game.

Video games effect on the brain

There is an actual physical change in the brain after game playing. If we could weigh the brains of gamers, we would be able to quantify how the games added some additional brain weight. And brain weight can equal added abilities, increased memory and warding off late-life cognitive decline.

A study of frequent game players showed that certain part of the brain involved in decision-making are most affected, and that makes sense. You are making rapid decisions during the game, and that’s what you may have to do in your daily life, so game playing is preparation.

Games require logical thinking and help in decision-making not only while playing the game but afterward. This is called “sticky ” learning that will last and be utilized in other actions in the future. Gameplaying, including any game that involves firing a weapon, can enhance cognitive control and planning.

Gameplaying involves the brain releasing the “happiness hormone,” dopamine, which is involved in receiving a reward. It is this reward that is involved in gamers’ wanting to continue gameplaying, and that’s where some have indicated it is an addiction.

Rewards are not necessarily addictions, however. Do students become addicted to attending school if they’re getting good grades? Some might, but the majority don’t skip off to school each morning.

The educational component

Not all video games are based on violence and destruction. And it is here that we must make a distinction. Games can be exciting and educational and require skills in anticipating goals and planning how to reach those goals.

Memory skills can be improved if the game is developed in that direction.

The game can be whatever the coder wants it to be. Herein lies the educational challenge. If kids love video games, there’s the educator’s entre to helping them learn and develop that stickiness that is so important.

Are video games dangerous? Some might be for a select group of gamers. Are they addictive? Yes, but it can be a positive form of “addiction” that will encourage mental development.

A wise man once told me that we learn a lot from different things. Things that society or our parents see as distractions.

Yes!

You can get motivated by playing video games or even watching movies. It depends on how you analyse what you visualise and make good use of the result.

Source: Dr. Patricia Farrell

Your Life Becomes The Sum Of What You Tolerate

In an ideal world, life would amount to the sum of our intentions.

Good things would happen to good people; we’d be measured by our heart and depth and character.

While this is true to some degree — life is undoubtedly kinder toward those who are kind to it — the truth is that your intentions don’t amount to your outcomes. Just wanting something badly enough does not qualify you to have it, simply believing that you’re capable of more does not mean you will actually achieve more.

In the end, your life amounts to the sum of what you tolerate.

It is defined by what you allow.

You are treated as well as you allow other people to treat you. When you set boundaries or cut off contact with those who do not meet those expectations, you are setting the standard for relationships in your life.

You achieve as much as you allow yourself to pursue. You create as often as you are willing to show up, and to begin.

You grow as much as you allow yourself to feel uncomfortable. We often think that it is discomfort that holds us back from becoming who we want to be, when in fact, that feeling, once truly acknowledged, will point us in the direction that we need to create change.

If you are willing to tolerate mistreatment, you will be mistreated.

If you are willing to tolerate unhappiness, you will remain unhappy.

If you are willing to tolerate dissatisfaction, you will remain dissatisfied.

Your life only truly becomes your own on the day that you decide you will not — for another second of your existence — tolerate less than you know you are capable of having, doing less than you are capable of doing, and being less than you are capable of being.

The truth is that nobody else is going to give this to you.

Nobody is going to wake you up to this fact.

Nobody is going to sit you down and give you a power point presentation about your worth and potential, and nobody is going to strategize a way to make it a reality.

The only way it is going to happen is if you decide you are no longer going to be okay with excuses, empty words or broken dreams. It is only going to happen if you decide that you will no longer tolerate anything less than the outcomes you want, and the life you dream of.

Your life becomes the sum of what you tolerate, so stop tolerating less than you desire.

Guest post from Brianna Weist

7 Basics For Getting Your Life in Shape: Bruce Lee

If you haven’t been living under a rock for the last 30 years I’m pretty sure you know who Bruce Lee was. 😊

If you have, then you may be interested to know that Lee was a very famous martial artist and actor who sparked the first big interest of Chinese martial arts in the West in the 60’s and 70’s.

But besides being an awesome fighter and iconic figure Lee also had some very useful things to say about life.

Here are 7 of my favourite fundamentals from Bruce Lee.

1. What are you really thinking about today?

“As you think, so shall you become.”

Perhaps the most basic statement of how we work. Think about what you are thinking today. What do those thoughts say about you? About your life? And how well do they really match your plans for your life and your image of yourself?

It’s easy to forget about this simple statement in everyday life. It’s easy to be quite incongruent with what you think on an ordinary day compared to how you view yourself and your goals.

A simple external reminder such as a post-it with this quote can be helpful to keep you and your thoughts on the right track.

An brilliant and beautiful expansion on this thought can be found in James Allen’s “As a man thinketh”.

2. Simplify.

“It’s not the daily increase but daily decrease. Hack away at the unessential.”

“If you spend too much time thinking about a thing, you’ll never get it done.”

If you want to improve your life then it’s tempting to want to add more. One problem with this may be that you don’t really have the time or energy to do more though. And so your efforts to improve become short-lived.

Adding more and more just creates more stress, worries and anxiety. Removing clutter and activities, tasks and thoughts that are not so important frees up time and energy for you to do more of what you really want to do. And as the clutter in your outer world decreases the clutter in your inner world also has a tendency to decrease.

This has the added benefit of making it easier to actually enjoy whatever you are doing even more while you are doing it.

Adding more thoughts and thinking things over for the 111th time may create a sense of security. It’s also a good way to procrastinate and to avoid taking that leap you know you should take. And the more you think, the harder it gets to act. Perhaps because you want to keep that comforting sense of security and avoid the risk of wrecking that feeling.

Thinking has its place. It can help you plan a somewhat realistic route to your goal and help you avoid future pitfalls. Overthinking is however just a habit that will help you waste a lot of time. It’s more useful to replace that habit with the habit of just doing it.

3. Learn about yourself in interactions.

“To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person.”

The one person that is the hardest to get to really know may be yourself. Studying yourself while you are alone may result in some insights. But it’s also likely to produce a lot of made up thought loops and doubts in your mind.

A good way to really learn more about yourself is study yourself in interactions with other people. How people react and act in these interaction can over time teach you a lot. And what you think and how you react can perhaps teach you even more.

What you see, feel and hear in other people may be a reflection of you. The things you learn by thinking this way may not always be pleasant, but they can be enlightening. They help you to see yourself and also how you may be fooling yourself.

And these powerful insights can be very valuable for your personal growth. So, in interactions with others, try asking yourself: what is reflected?

4. Do not divide.

“Take no thought of who is right or wrong or who is better than. Be not for or against.”

This is a very useful and powerful thought. It is also one that obviously is hard to live by. Why? I believe it’s because the ego loves to divide and find ways to “add more”� to itself. It want’s to feel better than someone else. Or more clever. Or prettier. Or cooler. Or wiser.

How can you overcome this way of thinking and feeling?

To me it seems to boil down to not identifying so much with your thoughts or feelings. That doesn’t mean that you stop thinking or feeling. It just means that you realize – and remember in your everyday life – that the thoughts and emotions are just things flowing through you.

You are not them though.

You are the consciousness observing them.

When you realize and remember this it enables you to control the thoughts and feelings instead of the other way around. It also enables you to not take your thoughts too seriously and actually laugh at them or ignore them when you feel that your ego is acting out. When you are not being so identified these things you become more inclined to include things, thoughts and people instead of excluding them.

This creates a lot of inner and outer freedom and stillness. Instead of fear, a need to divide your world and a search for conflicts.

To learn more about this I would recommend Eckhart Tolle’s books like “The Power of Now” and “A New Earth”.

5. Avoid a dependency on validation from others.

“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”

“Showing off is the fool’s idea of glory.”

The ego wants to add because it thinks it’s not enough. One way of doing that is by craving validation from others. We want to feel smart, pretty, successful and so on. And the validation makes you feel good for a while. But soon you need a new fix.

And the problem with being dependent on validation from other people is that you let other people control how you feel. This creates a rollercoaster of emotion in your life.

To find more emotional stability and to take control of how you feel you need to get your validation from to a more consistent source. Yourself. You can replace the expectations and validation of others by setting your own expectations and by validating yourself.

And so you validate yourself by thinking about how awesome you are. You don’t sell yourself short. You appreciate how far you have come and the positive things you have done. You appreciate your own value in the world. You set goals and you achieve those goals. This builds confidence in yourself and in your abilities. These things will help you to build a habit of inner validation.

Now, showing off. Why do we do that? To get validation from others. However, this need for validation often shines through and that is why a thing like bragging seldom works. Instead of seeing the cool and successful person you are trying to project people just see the insecure and needy person looking for validation. And your bragging falls flat.

6. Be proactive.

“To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities.”

It’s easy to get locked into a reactive mindset. You just follow along with whatever is happening. You do what the people around you do. You react to whatever is going on.

And so you get lost in your circumstances. This way of thinking doesn’t feel too good. You tend to feel powerless and like you are just drifting along.

A more useful and pleasurable way of living is to be proactive. As Bruce says: to create opportunities despite the circumstances around you. This feels better and provides better results (no matter if that with your blog or business, while dating or when it comes to your health). But on the other hand it’s also more difficult. It’s easier to just drift along in the reactive stream of life.

And if you want to be proactive then you may have to take the lead quite often. And that can be scary.

Still, living proactively is so much more rewarding and exciting.

7. Be you.

“Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it.”

Just being yourself is a hard thing to do. You may do it sometimes. And other times you may forget or fall back into old thought patterns. Or you may imitate someone else.

And that comes through too. And it may work.

But I believe that being the real you will work better. Because there the genuine you is shining through. Without incongruency, mixed messages or perhaps a sort of phoniness. It’s you to 100%. It’s you with not only your words but you with your voice tonality and body language – which some say is over 90% of communication – on the same wavelength as your words. It’s you coming through on all channels of communication.

So I’m not saying: “yeah man, you should just be yourself because it’s the right thing to do etc”.

I’m saying that I think being your authentic self – the one where you do little dividing, the one that needs little validation from others, the one where your ego is not running the show and trying to get something from someone – will give you better results and more satisfaction in your day to day life because you are in alignment with yourself.

And because people really like genuine and people really like authenticity.

Image credit: Pinterest

Source: Positivity Blog.

You Can’t Please Everyone: Live Your Life

I used to be stubborn to change. Back then, if it’s “not like me” to do something, then I just wouldn’t do it. However this mindset held me back from growing and evolving like we should be.


People will say shit like “you’ve changed,” but isn’t that something we should all be doing (for the better)? Obviously the 21 year old you will have to approach life differently than the 12 year old you did.

I feel like if you want change to happen in your life, you’re going to HAVE to do something out of your comfort zone — or something that will eventually break you out of your normal routine and tendencies. Eventually your new habits and perspective will make you seem like a different person, but I just like to view it as someone who grew and learned. Some moments in life may require you to be that 12 year old you. Other moments will need you to be the 21 year old you. Either way, you can’t expect to please everyone with your personality. You’re the one living your life, not them, so ya do what ya need to do to succeed.

Your Life Is Not Defined By What You Have

Never make the mistake of defining your life by what you have in accomplishments, wealth, or others.

Check out these points to always reflect on.

  • Possessions only provide temporary happiness.
  • You can have many possessions and still lose your life.
  • Things do not give value to life, it is life that gives value to things.
  • Your value in life is not determined by your valuables.
  • Getting more money will not make you happier. “True fact”
  • Getting more things will not make you more important.
  • Never think of taking your life because of things. Having life is by far better than having things.

What can we learn from these points. How many incidents have we watched on the television, or read online about suicides. How about family fighting each other because of wealth and properties. How about people killing people for money and wealth. How many rich and wealthy men are in the hospital fighting for their lives.

We should always define life giving value to our daily lives and not the other way around.

I Hope You Know That You Always Have A Choice

I hope you know that you always have a choice.

I hope you understand that you are capable of changing your life even if the odds are against you. I hope you know that there are people out there who are willing to help you and guide you until you make it on your own. I hope you know that the kind of happiness you’re looking for is not out of reach.

I hope you still remember what happiness looks like, what it feels like and what it means to you because life has a way of making you forget and life has a way of making you believe that you don’t deserve it. I hope you still have the courage to fight for that happiness and fight for that life. I hope you don’t make settling a habit just because it’s easier. I hope you don’t make pain a permanent friend just because it’s been with you for a while. I hope you understand that pain is there to make you grow instead of making you suffer.

I hope you know that you always have a choice.

I hope you don’t give up on your love story just because all your previous stories ended in heartbreak. I hope you still believe in the kind of love that softens your heart and makes you trust again. The kind of love that brings out the depths of your emotions, the beauty of your soul and the kindness of your heart. The kind of love that doesn’t remind you of everything that’s wrong with the world. I hope you find the kind of love that restores your faith in romance.

The kind of love that stands by you and makes you feel at home.
And I hope you have the courage to leave the kind of love that poisons your heart. The kind of love that forces you to hide who you are or play games or question yourself. I hope you can still take your heart back from those who destroyed it.
I hope you know that you always have a choice.

But more than anything, I hope you never give up on yourself. Your dreams. Your happiness. Your ideas. Your feelings. Your voice. And I hope you know that they matter. Please don’t discount them. Please don’t forget them. Please don’t let your mistakes define you.

I hope you can forgive yourself. I hope you don’t forget your worth because of a few mistakes or a few people who couldn’t love you. I hope you read this and remember that you’re here to evolve. You’re here to learn. You’re not here to be perfect. You’re not here to do everything right.
I hope you know that you always have a choice.

And I hope that in the coldest of moments, you choose to show the world your warmth. And in the midst of all tragedies, you choose to show the world your faith.

And through it all, I hope you always choose yourself.

My Interview With Online Professional Psychiatrist- Dr. Tomi

She is one of Nigerian’s foremost Psychiatrist, a mentor and an influencer. Her engagement on Instagram has helped a lot of people mentally and physically. She is intelligent and very smart. Ladies and Gentlemen I give you Dr. Tomi.

Dr. Tomi

You are welcome.

First things first, we appreciate your time and availability to conduct this interview. Please we will like to know you more by asking some questions.

1. Tell us a bit about your background, school,  and Where were you from?
I’m from Ilesha in Osun State. I am married with two children. I studied Medicine and Surgery at Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife, Osun State. I did my residency training in Psychiatry at Federal Neuropsychiatric Hospital, Yaba, Lagos. I had my postgraduate studies in Psychology (MSc) at Walden University, Minnesota, USA.

Me: Wow this is huge…


2. How was life growing up?
Life was simple when I was young. I grew up in a university quarters and saw first hand how to live a simple life without the pressure of impressing anyone. In fact, there was no one around to impress! The houses were the same, the ranks and positions were the same, the schools were the same, the clothes were the same etc. We learnt to turn inwards to find our individuality. I thoroughly loved it.

Me: Something we should all learn to admit and adapt…


3. At what age in your life did you decide you wanted to be psychiatrist?
My interest in Psychiatry goes as far back as my 18th birthday. I was curious about the human mind and finding there was a field dedicated to studying it was great news to me. However, I chose to complete my degree in Medicine and find a path to my passion from it.

Dr. Tomi

4. How do you cope running a fast growing platform on social media?
I love creating mental health awareness and social media has been a crucial vehicle in driving these efforts. Running this platform is not stressful because it’s connected to what I love. It’s almost effortless.

Me: Very true…


5. Is being a psychiatrist a burden or a blessing or a bit of both?
Helping people restore and/or maintain their mental health is not a burden at all. It’s a privilege.


6. What challenges have you had to tackle as a psychiatrist?
Stigmatization of the profession has been a challenge. It is not only mentally ill people that are stigmatized. Mental health professionals too face stigma from the society. People often act differently once they find out I’m a Psychiatrist. It’s almost predictable. That’s why we are focusing on awareness.


7. In your opinion,  what is the most difficult part in mental health and well-being?
Taking the step to get help when facing mental health challenges is the most difficult step I can think of.


8. What’s the weirdest thing a patient/ follower has ever told you?
“Are you a real doctor?”

Me: I can’t stop laughing, this is really funny…


9. Your confident is so bold, especially when you dive into sex talk, do you sometimes have the fear of people’s reaction?
My focus is creating an enabling environment for people to talk freely about these issues that are cloaked in silence. I can’t do that effectively by being vague or silent. The number of people that reach out via Direct Messages make the efforts worthwhile. So, no, I don’t fear the reactions of a few people.


10. Which other professional are you looking forward in working with or have something coming out with?
I look forward to working with Mainstream Media professionals. There are so many ways they can influence social change. It’s amazing! I do hope some of them will join us in changing the narrative about mental health.

Me: Hopefully…


11. If you had a chance to work with one person in the world,  who would it be?
Professor Abiodun Adewuya. He is a Professor of Psychiatry at Lagos State University Teaching Hospital. He is my teacher and mentor. Any opportunity to work with him will always be a delight. That’s the thing. There are already amazing people in our lives. Let’s build those relationships.


12. What are your top 3 points in your note or pad that you always reflect on?
A) Family life B) Long term career goals C) Mental Health Awareness


13. Aside the unemployment nature of the country, what drove you to become an influencer?
I see myself as a mental health Advocate. Unemployment rate of the country does not directly influence my choice. The major drive is stigma. Anything I can say or do that will lessen stigmatization of the mental ill in the world will be a worthy venture.


14. How do you manage to be a Christian and a psychiatrist?
It took me a long time to understand how my profession fits into my christian faith. I finally have my peace about that. I believe that emotional well-being is best anchored in spiritual well-being if it’s to be sustainable and holistic. We have to take care of our spirits, souls, and bodies. It’s okay if it’s not popular opinion. It works well for me.

15. What are your goals to fight emotional well-being and mental health in Nigeria?

a) reduce STIGMA b) reduce SUICIDE c) improve SEX for women.


16. Do you think the situation is increasing or decreasing?
What situation? The rate of mental illness in the country. But that is by the way, with your contribution on social media i think it is decreasing.


17. What are some things that you would like to accomplish but not in view yet in your career?
I will love to be a Professor and teach young minds about mental health but it is not in view just yet.


18. What advice would you give to unmotivated and uninspired people around the world. Please explain???
People can be transiently unmotivated and uninspired. However, if it’s persistent, please change your life. You are not too old to start over.

Dr. Tomi

19. What’s next for Dr. Tomi?
Scaling up of mental health awareness nationwide. Advocacy directed towards government, policy makers, and stakeholders. That’s just the start.


Thank you for having me.

You welcome!

In case you need her services and assistance on mental issues or a psychiatrist. Dr. Tomi Haven is open for sessions and consultation.

You can get her on Instagram: @drtomihaven

Ministry Is a Position Not a Title

Full time ministry; as soon as you read these words, what comes to mind? For most the answer would be working full time in a church or as a missionary. Working in a church or as a missionary full time seems to be the ultimate job for a believer. Think about it; 24/7 would be about God and working directly for Him. That seems ideal! I know many believers that would like to end up working at a church or as a missionary. While the intentions in this are good, is it really the right thing to end up doing?

Quick disclaimer: It is not my intention for this post to be controversial. I understand that some readers may not agree with what I am saying; but please give it some thought before disagreeing. By no means am I saying that working in a church or as a missionary is wrong or should not be a goal for some people; it just isn’t for every one of us. Many of my close friends are on staff at churches or in the mission field and I fully believe that they have all been called to that and are changing the world from that perspective. I love and respect them for who they are and what they do. Again, I am not discrediting anyone in the ministry or that truly feels called to be in the ministry. All writing about today is that some of us may be called to do full time ministry from a different angle.

Many Christians these days believe that being full time ministry is a title received by working within a church or missionary organization. However, ministry is not a title that you can obtain, it is a mindset. Ministry is a position that God has placed on the heart of every believer. Our entire lives are the reflection of our full time ministry toward God. What we do with our time determines how successful our ministry is.

Let’s look at this from a different angle, if every believer worked for a church or Christian organization, how would we impact the world? We are called to be in the world, but not part of it. What this means is that we should also be successful in the business world while being a light to unbelievers that surround us. (2 Timothy 2:15 )

I’ll use myself as an example: I work in the business world as a blogger, I feel called to be a light in the darkness around me and also to be able to make a substantial income to help others less fortunate and give to causes that I believe in. I am also a worker in my church. My full time job is dedicated to spreading the love of Jesus in my areas of influence. Yes, it is a stressful job especially as a Blogger, but that is the area of ministry that God has called me to be in right now; and I am going to do so completely for Him.

Even if we as believers feel that one day we will be involved in full time church/missionary ministry, for now, are we treating our current jobs or our current situations as our full time ministry? The word of God tells us to be faithful with little so that God can trust us with much. If we aren’t faithful in the current ministry that God has blessed us with, why would God move us into another form of ministry?

Treat the place you are in today as the position of full time ministry that it truly is. Do not wait for the title to come to start treating your life as a ministry to our Father. Let God use you now to change the world around you because only you can minister in the unique place of your life that you are in!

A Quick Reminder

I think it’s important to remember that although you’re on this walk with Christ and you’re staying prayed up and saturating yourself with the Word, you will feel down some days, you will worry some days, you will cry some days. Doesn’t mean you’ve let the enemy win or let God down. You’re human and you’re not immune to these things. Don’t beat yourself up. The enemy attacks harder when he sees us go for God harder. Don’t give up. Remain in God. When we go hard, God goes harder. God wins, always.

The Power Of Peace

Having an attitude of peace and calm is priceless. It’s an attitude that says, “I’m trusting God,” and it speaks powerfully to people. But it takes time, focus and the grace of God to be consistently peaceful.

One way to develop consistent peace is to learn to live “in the now.” We can spend a lot of time thinking about the past or wondering what the future holds…but we can’t accomplish anything unless our mind is focused on today.

The Bible tells us that God gives us grace for each day that we live. I believe that grace is the power, enablement or energy to do what we need to do—and He gives it generously, as we need it.

We need to make a decision every morning to say, “God has given me today. I will rejoice and be glad in it.”

The Real Source of Stress

Too often our stress level is tied up in our circumstances. You could be stressed because you’re always busy or you’re struggling financially or because you’re not getting along with someone you love.

It could be a number of things, but what’s interesting is that these situations are not the cause of your stress. Stress is really caused by your reaction to each situation.

We don’t have to work at trying to get rid of every stressful situation. We need to learn how to embrace peace.

See, we’re always trying to get rid of everything that bothers us. But the Bible says that in the world there will be tribulation. That’s why Jesus said, “Cheer up, I have overcome the world.”

We don’t have to work at trying to get rid of every stressful situation. We need to learn how to embrace peace.

7 Ways to Practice Peace

I believe that one of the keys to maintaining peace in your life is to take small steps toward peace every day. Here are a few tips for having a more peaceful lifestyle.

1. Be selective with how you spend your time. You may be trying to do too many things and end up doing none of them well. Hurrying is trying to do more than the Holy Spirit is leading you to do. Be led by the Spirit.

2. Be prepared to say no nicely. Sometimes we take on things we know we shouldn’t, just because we’re uncomfortable saying no. If you feel this pressure, ask God to put your spirit at rest and give you loving words to speak that will take away the unnecessary awkwardness of saying no.

3. Resist the spirit of procrastination. It’s the attitude that says I’m going to sit here and wait until I feel like doing what I need to do. But God’s Word tells us to exercise self-discipline. Do what you need to do now so you can fully enjoy your times of rest.

4. Eliminate key distractions. If you know you are easily distracted, set some guidelines for yourself. Don’t let them keep you up late at night so you oversleep the next morning and end up setting yourself up for a hurried, stressful day.

5. Set appropriate boundaries for interruptions.Life is full of interruptions, but we can learn to set boundaries that help us manage them in healthy ways. Schedule times when you are “off-limits.” Let your calls go to voicemail, turn off your email, and decide to get back to people after your “off-limits” time is over. Trust the Holy Spirit to tell you when there is a true emergency.

6. Modify your life.
Ask God to show you “out-of-the-box” ways to save time and trouble. For instance, when I don’t have time to do the dishes, I use paper plates. And if I’m having a birthday party for one of my kids and don’t have time to make a meal, we just have cake and ice cream.

7. Listen for the Holy Spirit.
If you can see that your plan is not producing peace, go back to God; pray for peace and for wisdom to make changes that will benefit your life.

If you can learn to trust God “in the now,” receive His grace as you need it, and you can become a truly peaceful person. Now that’s powerful!

Source: Joyce Meyer

Six Points To Take Charge Of Your Life

Take Charge Of Your Life

A man, as a general rule, owes very little to what he is born with- a man is what he makes of himself- Alexander Graham Bell

  • Identify your biggest problem or source of negativity in life today. In what ways are you responsible for this situation?
  • See yourself as a president of your own company. How would you act differently if you owned 100% of the shares?
  • Resolve today to stop blaming anyone else for anything and instead accept complete responsibility in every area of your life. What actions should you be taking?
  • Stop making excuses and start making progress. Imagine that your favourite excuses have no basis in fact, and act accordingly?
  • See yourself as the primary creative force in your own life. You are where you are and what you are because of your own choices and decisions. What should you change?
  • Resolve today to forgive anyone who has ever hurt you in any way. Let it go. Refuse to discuss it again. Instead, get so busy working on something that is important to you that you don’t have time to think about it again.

It is not easy abiding by these points, but it is worth the try.

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6 Ways to Unlock Your Potentials

The potential of the average person is like a huge ocean unsailed, a new continent unexplored, a world of possibilities waiting to be released and channeled toward some great good- Brian Tracy

To unlock your potentials you will need to:

  • Imagine that you have the inborn ability to achieve any goal you could ever set for yourself. What do you really want to be, have, and do?
  • What are the activities that give you your greatest sense of meaning and purpose in life?
  • Look at your personal and work life today and identify how your own thinking has created your world. What should you or could you change?
  • What do you think and talk about most of the time- what you want or what you dont want?
  • What is the price you will have to pay to achieve the goals that are most important to you?
  • What one action should you take immediately as the result of your answers to the above questions?

There is no greater guarantee of a long happy and prosperous life than for you to be continually working on being, having, and achieving more and more of the things you really want using your potentials to achieve your goals.

Goodbye To Perfection

Growing up, I have always tried to be this “perfect” embodiment of what I believed a good, morally upstanding person should be. I have come a long way from that insecure, control-freak of a person I used to be. Here’s the truth: we are not really in control, anyway.

Unfortunately, this was the start of placing heavy burdens on myself that would later lead to even more far-fetched goals and inevitable disappointments. Disappointment in myself, in others, and even in myself for other’s choices, which I had felt responsible over. There is this saying,We are not responsible for people, we are responsible to people.

Why Worry?

Fortunately, I have come a long way from that insecure, control-freak of a person I used to be. Here’s the truth: we are not really in control, anyway. So why worry about things that you cannot really control?

The English word worry actually has its roots in the word “strangle,” which is one of the most powerful descriptions of what worry does to you – it strangles the life out of you.”

Recently, I have been trying to be more invested in my blog and other business idea I have, trying harder and learning more. Yet, the other day I had a call from a client, who just found fault with a job I did. I was discouraged, and I must admit that I was disappointed in myself. Yet, after a while, I started encouraging myself and reminding myself that this is not the truth of who I am. My identity does not lie in the approval of others, it lies in the truth of who God says I am.

Once, I read an article by Andrew Wommack, that also really helped, where he said, The same is true with the heart. If we take our eyes off Jesus and focus on the evil of this world and our circumstances, then, little by little, the layers of negativity harden around our hearts, and the love for God and others waxes cold.”[i]

Our Identity Is in Him

I read a post just like this a couple of weeks ago on my Facebook, and it was a great reminder for me today, “Don’t measure your worth or value based on the things that fluctuate and are conditional. Instead, find your value in the unconditional and consistent love of God.” There is only so much pleasure your job can bring you, or your relationships, or reruns of old TV shows. The ultimate pleasure is found in the Father. Your identity is based on your knowledge of Him.

So many times I have forgotten (when the disappointment hits) that my worth is found in Christ alone. The world’s standard is a high one, yet this is what Jesus says to us,

“Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.” (Matthew 11:28-30 NKJV)

Perfect Rest in Him

So be encouraged today, no matter the burdens that the world tries to place on you or that you place on yourself, there is a rest that you can seek and find. In fact, God wants to give you rest, and He wants you to enjoy your life, every aspect of it.

Maybe we can start by letting go of the perception of a “perfect life.” Instead, we should embrace a “real life,” warts and all. As we focus on Jesus, instead of the problem/or its details, we will start walking on water and growing in our faith.

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When Do We Offer Thanksgiving? At All Times

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In every situation, in all things and by so doing we enter into the victorious life where the devil cannot control us.

How can he control us if we are going to be joyful and thankful no matter what the circumstances are? Admittedly, this kind of lifestyle sometimes requires a sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving, but i would rather sacrifice my thanksgiving to God than sacrifice my joy to satan.

Be grateful at all times, one filled with gratitude not only toward God, but also toward people. When someone does something nice to you, let him/her know that you appreciate it.

Show appreciation in your family among the various members. So often, we take for granted the things that God has blessed us with. A sure way to lose something is not to appreciate it.

Have you told your wife/girlfriend how you appreciate her each day?

Meditate daily on all the things you have to be thankful for. Rehearse them to the Lord in prayer, and as you do you will find your heart filling up with life and light.

“Through Him, therefore, let us at all times offer up to God a sacrifice of praise, which is the fruit of lips that thankfully acknowledge and confess and glorify His name”.


Hebrews 13:15

Speak Words Out loud, But Be Positive

When is the last time you thought something, and never actually did it? If you’re like most of us, it happens almost daily. There are many things we think or want to do that we never actually do. Maybe you’re single and you pass someone you are initially attracted to and you say to yourself, “I’m going to talk to that person.” But then you just keep walking past, making excuses not to. Or maybe you are in a job and say, “I’m going to quit and start my own business,” but the fear of that keeps you from taking the next step.

Say It Out Loud

Now, in either one of these scenarios, what would happen if you told a friend of yours the exact same thing. By simply bringing another person into the discussion and speaking it out loud you most likely feel obligated to do it.

There is a great power in words. Not written words, or thought about words, but SPOKEN words. I’m not saying that there isn’t power in written words or thoughts, but there is something different and powerful about speaking the words out loud.

Psalm 33:9 – “For when he spoke, the world began! It appeared at his command.”

Joshua 6:20 (Battle of Jericho) – “When the trumpets sounded, the army shouted, and at the sound of the trumpet, when the men gave a loud shout, the wall collapsed; so everyone charged straight in, and they took the city.”

Genesis 1:3 – “And God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light.”
Throughout Genesis 1, every time God put something in existence the Bible reads, “And God said,…”

Have you ever seen someone talking to themselves to get ready to do something? By simply speaking positive words to yourself, it can give you a different mentality.

Spoken Words Have Power

The scary part here is that you can just as easily have words affect you negatively. Maybe you have one of these friends: the friend who is always negative and always tells you how bad everything is when you talk to them. Wonder why things are always going poorly for them? They keep convincing themselves by speaking it out loud that things are bad. And a lot of the times it affects you as well. You have to speak positively into your own life and others.

When people say you can’t do something, you can easily combat that with YES, I CAN, or, better yet, YES, GOD CAN. It seems pretty simple, and maybe a little cheesy, but you can never have too many positive words spoken into your life.

Find those people that will speak positively to you, and make sure you are speaking positively to yourself and to anyone you speak to.