Don’t Say Something You Regret Out of Anger

“There once was a little boy who had a very bad temper. His father decided to hand him a bag of nails and said that every time the boy lost his temper, he had to hammer a nail into the fence.

On the first day, the boy hammered 37 nails into that fence.

The boy gradually began to control his temper over the next few weeks, and the number of nails he was hammering into the fence slowly decreased. He discovered it was easier to control his temper than to hammer those nails into the fence.

Finally, the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He told his father the news and the father suggested that the boy should now pull out a nail every day he kept his temper under control.

The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.

‘You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same.

Lesson

When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.’”

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This Week’s Top Stories About 7 Small Habits That Will Steal Your Happiness

“Simply put, you believe that things or people make you unhappy, but this is not accurate. You make yourself unhappy.”
Wayne Dyer

“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
Marcus Aurelius

It is usually pretty easy to become a happier person.

It is also quite easy to rob yourself of your own happiness.

To make yourself more miserable and add a big bowl of suffering to your day. It is a common thing, people do it every day all over the world.

So this week I’d like to combine these two things. I want to share 7 happiness stealing habits that I have had quite a bit of trouble with in my own daily life (and I know from the emails I get that many of you do too).

But I’d also like to add what you can do instead if you find yourself being stuck in one of these destructive habits.

1. Going for a daily swim in a sea of negative voices.

This one can be quite subtle.

You just go around in your daily life like you usually do. Hang out with the same people. Listen to the same podcasts or radio shows, watch the same old TV-shows and read the usual blogs, books and magazines.

But what influence do these things have over your thinking and the limits you set for yourself and what you feel you deserve in life?

What to do instead:

Make a list of the 5 people you hang out with the most and the 5 media sources you spend most time on during your week.

Then ask yourself this for each of these 10 things/people: is this one dragging me down or lifting me up in life?

Consider spending less time with the ones that drag you down (or cut them out completely) and to spend more of your time with the people and sources that lift you up and make you feel good, motivated etc.

If you have trouble getting started with this one, then go smaller.

Take a few minutes to think about what one person or source that has the biggest negative impact on you. And how you can start to spend less time with it/him/her this week.

2. Waiting for just the right time.

When you have a dream then it is so easy to get lost in planning how you will accomplish it. To drift away in daydreams about how it will be. But also to get stuck in fears about failing with it.

So you make a common choice and wait – and wait and wait for maybe years – for just the right time to take action and get started with making that dream into something real.

What to do instead:

Sure, not every dream is something you can get started with right now.

But there are many that you can get going with. Dreams that only fear is holding you back from.

So make things easy on yourself. You don’t have to do it in a big and extremely courageous jump.

If that was the case then only the bravest people in the world would do and achieve what they want.

Instead, take a small step forward. Take one small action.

That is it.

Then tomorrow you can take another small step forward.

The important thing is that you get started and get going instead spending so much time on just waiting and feeling more and more frustrated and unhappy about the state of your dreams.

3. Letting criticism get under your skin time and time again.

When someone criticizes or verbally attacks you then it may just roll off you like water of the back of a duck.

But if it on the other hand gets under your skin pretty much every time and drags you down into hours or days of self-doubt or self-beatings then you have a problem.

What to do instead:

  • Let it out. Talk it over with someone close to you to let the inner tensions out. And to find a healthier perspective on what happened together.
  • Remember: it is not always about you. If your self-esteem is low them it is easy to start thinking that all the negative things people tell you are your fault in some way. That is however often not the case. People will attack or harshly criticize to let their own steam out. Because they have had an awful day, week or simply do not like their lives that much. So don’t think it is all about you. There are two of you in this situation.

4. Focusing on the wrong people and getting lost in envy and powerlessness

When you spend much time in your day thinking about what other people have and do and you compare your life to theirs then you have a good recipe for unhappiness.

Because you spend the attention and energy in the wrong place.

What to do instead:

Focus on you. Compare yourself to yourself.

See how far you have come. The obstacles you have overcome. How you have improved in small or sometimes bigger ways. Appreciate that and yourself.

Focus not on what others have but on what YOU deep down want in your life.

And ask yourself: what is one small step I can take today to get the ball rolling with this goal/dream?

Keep your focus on yourself and what you can actually do to raise your self-confidence, to start walking on your own path and to spend your limited daily time and energy on something that will actually pay off.

5. Not allowing yourself times of peace and rest during your day.

When you are busy, busy, busy all the time and give yourself no time to recharge then you soon become fatigued.

And so each step and each thing you do starts to feel heavier and you do not get much enjoyment at all out of pushing and pulling yourself through it.

What to do instead:

  • Take a break every hour. Try setting the timer on your cell phone for 45 minutes. During that time-period just focus on doing your most important task at the moment. Then, as the bell rings, set the timer for 15 minutes and step away from your workspace. Have a snack, talk a walk or stretch a bit. By cycling rest and fully focused work like this you’ll get more things done, do a better job and it will be easier to keep the optimism and motivation up.
  • Be 10 minutes early. Transform those traveling times during your day into relaxing breaks instead of passages of time and space that only increase your stress levels and other negative feelings.

6. Never trying anything new.

This one can be sneaky.

It can make you think that things are pretty OK. You have your safe and comfortable routine.

I know, I have been there for long stretches of time.

But during those times there was also denial of feeling dissatisfied. A vague feeling of standing still that sometimes bloomed up into a big burst of undefined, negative feelings directed towards the world or myself.

What to do instead:

  • Remind yourself of the past times when you tried something new. And how you most often did not regret it one bit but had an exciting, interesting or fun time.
  • Go small. You don’t have to try skydiving. Just take one small step and try some new and different music, a movie or book you would normally not go for or the vegetarian dish if you usually have the beef or sausage for lunch.
  • Say yes just once this week when your mind says no. If a friend invites you to go out running, doing yoga or to go fishing or to a party and your mind goes “let’s say no, that is not what I usually do” then stop yourself for a second. And reconsider. You don’t have to say yes to every suggestion you get this week to try something new, but give it a shot and say yes to just one of those things.

7. Taking things too seriously.

When you take life too seriously then it is easy to become so afraid of making a mistake and of stumbling a bit that you get paralyzed in analysis.

When you take yourself too seriously then, in my experience, it becomes difficult to fully enjoy the moment and what is happening, to let go of the past and to laugh about yourself and life when you need it the most.

What to instead:

  • Put up a reminder. When I wanted to develop a lighter mindset quite a few years ago one thing that helped me was a simple note on fridge that said: Lighten Up! This reminder helped me to snap out of overly serious thoughts several times a day until this way of finding a lighter perspective became more and more of an automatic thought habit.
  • Surround yourself with lighter mindsets. As mentioned in the section about habit #1, what and who you surround yourself with will have a big effect on how you think. No matter if it is a positive or negative aspect they add. So one powerful thing to do is to add lighter mindsets via people, books, the internet etc. to your daily life.
  • Raise your self-esteem. I have found that as my self-esteem has gone up I can laugh about myself more because I am less defensive. I have more trust in myself and so I fear a temporary failure less. And I like myself more and so I am less concerned about getting everyone else to like me all the time.

You can use this article as a manual for your everyday growth and improvement.

I Can’t Do It Alone

I have a couple of quotes in my notes that I put up to remind me of things in my life that I sometimes forget. One of the quotes that comes up each day is “I can’t do it alone”. This didn’t come from some famous author, its just a simple statement that anyone can say that holds a lot of truth.

One of my favorite songs as a kid in church and youth group was “Lean on Me.” It came along with lots of hand motions and fun ways to sing it, so as a kid its perfect. But I thought back this morning to the words of the song and again…they carry a lot of truth.

“Lean on me, when you’re not strong, and Ill be your friend, Ill help you carry on. For, it won’t be long till I’m going to need somebody to lean on.”

So I can talk about these “truths” in these quotes and songs all day, but lets turn to the real TRUTH and see what God has to say about it. God put a few stories on my heart this morning reminding me of the importance of not being able to do it alone. Here are a few examples…

Adam & Eve (Genesis 2)
Genesis 2:18 – “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Think about it, this is God’s first attempt and creating a human being. The very first thing God realized about humans was that they shouldn’t be alone. If God thinks that, well I know He’s a lot smarter than I am, so I’ll believe Him!

Noah and the Ark (Genesis 6 & 7)
Genesis 6:19 – “You are to bring into the ark two of all living creatures, male and female, to keep them alive with you.”
Genesis 7:1 – “The Lord then said to Noah, ‘Go into the ark, you and your whole family, because I have found you righteous in this generation.’”
God doesn’t forget about how Adam needed a helper. God’s heart is such that in all His creation he tends to create things in pairs. Its a testament to how His heart is, and how He is giving us the ability to show love to others and demonstrate His love for us through other people on this earth. God could have very easily just started over after the flood or just brought one animal a piece to save room on the ark and then just made more after the flood. But he didn’t. He didn’t just have two of every animal come, he had Noah’s entire family. God knows that the way He created this earth that we can’t do it alone.

Moses in Battle (Exodus 17)
Exodus 17:11-13 – “As long as Moses held up his hands, the Israelites were winning, but whenever he lowered his hands, the Amalekites were winning. 12 When Moses’ hands grew tired, they took a stone and put it under him and he sat on it. Aaron and Hur held his hands up—one on one side, one on the other—so that his hands remained steady till sunset. 13 So Joshua overcame the Amalekite army with the sword.”
This may be my favorite model of friendship in all of the bible. Moses hears from God and understands His power by simply holding his hands up. His friends (Aaron and Hur) notice Moses’s faith and when he grows tired they immediately come to his aid and raise his hands for him. The Israelites would have been defeated had it not been for Moses’s friends who were beside him throughout the entire battle.

Jesus and the Disciples (Luke 6)
Luke 6:12-13 – “One of those days Jesus went out to a mountainside to pray, and spent the night praying to God. When morning came, he called his disciples to him and chose twelve of them, whom he also designated apostles”
So lets get this straight…Jesus (who is God) was praying and after he was finished praying it was made clear to him to call out these 12 guys to walk alongside Him to fulfill His ministry. This is the perfect example of how Jesus is proving to us how to live our lives. If its good enough for Jesus its good enough for me. He didn’t do it alone either!

I could go on and on with the bible showing groups of people that did it together (David and Jonathan is another great story you should read in 1 Samuel 18). But in short, regardless of how much power we have, ultimately we need someone else to lean on, someone else to lift our hands up, someone else to encourage us throughout our lives. This is the entire concept of “spotting” when you are at the gym. While you can do the first reps no problem, its those last few that you may need help with, and the spotter should be encouraging you the entire time.

So my question is this. Who is your spotter in your life? Do you have someone like Moses did in Aaron and Hur that will lift you up when you are down and tired? If not, even Jesus saw that this was important, so what are you waiting for? Find that person (or people) in your life that can do it. If you don’t have any, make it a point to go meet new people and find someone you can count on. Thats what church family is all about, so that would be a great place to start!

Just remember, and keep telling yourself…”I can’t do it alone”

Ecclesiastes 4:12 – “Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

We Are All Thirsty

I don’t know who sings that song or who came up with that word or term or whatever you want to call it. It is often used to label people who are desperately seeking someone else. The truth is, we are all thirsty. We all have a longing desire in our heart for something greater. Before coming to know Christ in a personal way, I always tried to satisfy myself with the next greatest thing; the next trip to the bar, the next joint, the next personal achievement, etc. When faced with countless worldly options, it is pretty easy to satisfy that longing in the heart for a moment. It is all about getting caught up in the next moment until one day, it just runs out.

Just like the woman at the well, who was coming to the well to draw water to fulfill her physical need, and Jesus was waiting to satisfy her every need. This woman had five husbands. She was seemingly trying to satisfy her needs with different men. And the unexpected arrival of Jesus (who was a Jew encountering a Samaritan woman) was waiting to share Himself and the gift of eternal life with her. He is waiting on us to make a move. He is jealously for us all and wants to establish personal relationship with us.

Everyone has a thirsting desire and longing in their hearts. The people we see everyday that don’t know Jesus have a longing in their hearts. When I stray from seeking Jesus there is still a desire in my heart. I think back to when I didn’t have a personal relationship with Christ. Back to when I said I knew Christ but only because it was the appropriate thing to say. It was a front only to put out a certain image to the people closest to me. However, I got sick of chasing something that never existed. Ultimately with all that mindless chasing, I finally paused long enough to hear God speaking to me and calling me to follow Him. The day came where I was thirsty and nothing could fulfill me anymore. I was dehydrated; both from the over indulgent of alcohol the next morning and the need for Jesus.

Challenge: For those that have accepted Jesus, God wants to shine His light through you to help a thirsty generation. Share the love with someone. We can share our past hurts because we know the love of Christ and how He has resurrected our once dead life.

Psalm 20:4 – May He give you the desire of your heart and make all your plans succeed.

John 4:13-14 – Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.”

15 Things That I Let Go to Get Massive Success and Happiness in Life

If you met me 10 years ago, you’d think me ambitious, singled-minded, opinionated, self-righteous and very adamant about living life my way because that was the one and only path to success , quite obviously!

If we became really good friends though, you would see that I am forever searching for something else, an answer, a discovery, a shortcut to the end to make sure this is indeed the way. You would see that I am not half as confident despite my great level of success, which I so proudly defended.

You may even surmise that I am not happy and on many levels, you would not be far from the truth.

It took me a long time and a lot of courage to swallow my pride and shove my ego over the edge of a cliff so I could admit the truth to myself that I was not happy because that meant one thing: I am also not successful.

How can one exist without the other? Success has got to include the happiness element or what good is it and happiness in and of itself is pure success, no matter what your “accomplishments in life”.

The turning point in life happens when pain and misery become too heavy a burden to carry. That is when you begin your journey home. Sure, it would be nice if we were all proactively planning our careers five years in advance of ever becoming miserable, but we are human beings, not perfectly programmed little robots.

We falter, we err, we fall short, we hurt (ourselves and others), we make mistakes, we take the wrong path, we say the stupid thing, we choose the wrong partner, we miss out on love, we pick the unsuitable career, and we even lose the will to keep going at times. We also learn and turn it around and bring miracles to life.

But do not ever identify WHO you are entirely with WHAT you accomplish. That keeps your ego in check on both fronts, massive success and massive failure.

Failure is an event, not a person. ~Zig Ziglar

Here are 15 things that I let go to get massive success and happiness in life and business:

1. I let go of the obsession to be right all the time:

I don’t want to be right all the time Iwant to be wrong so I can learn. I want to not know the answers so I can grow, and I am okay with saying, “I don’t know but I can find out!”

2. I let go of the reluctance to apologize with sincerity:

It is no fun to apologize for being wrong but it’s pure hell to apologize when the other person is wrong. Sometimes it needs to be done and you even need to continue the relationship onward nonetheless. What did Nike say? Just Do It!

3. I let go of the obligation to read stuff that doesn’t light me up:

I couldn’t stand reading presentations, engineering magazines, and corporate-lingo-filled business books. Enough! Now I read whatever my heart desires. My lust is with the classics, memoirs and epic fantasy fiction ( A Song of Ice & Fire is my chosen obsession now). Ironic side-effect: Fiction fuels my creativity and helps my business.

4. I let go of the pursuit of friendship for the sake of friendship:

The idea that I did not have a lot of friends bothered me ever since the first day I stepped into an American high school and it only left just a few years ago. Friendship needs to fill your heart with love and joy. If you are not getting that, ditch your friends and get new ones.
5. I let go of the permission to pursue my radical crazy dream:
It’s not that crazy and you are not that radical. Stop the drama and get on with the dream. Over-analysis kills even more dreams than the need for permission.

6. I let go of the guilty feeling for living well and doing what I love:

Ah the guilty! Stop feeling guilty for living well , for being happy, for doing what you love, for making a lot of money, or travel the world every year. Feel joy instead.

7. I let go of the expectation of family and friends to “understand” me:

Do you understand them? Do you have empathy for their situations and viewpoints? Do you know their dreams? Stop putting this enormous and outrageous expectation on others if you ever want to be happy.

8.I let go of the expectation that my spouse needed be perfect:

Perfection is the disease that rots an otherwise happy relationship. Instead, cultivate the desire to improve yourself first and become a role model, not a nag, to your spouse or life partner in return.

9. I let go of the delusion that someone or something will show me the way:

Help is not on the way because you are the help you need in your life, and once you come to terms with that beautiful truth, you shock yourself with your own resourcefulness. It gets that good!

10. I let go of the need to control or fix my family, friends, partner:

Want to teach your brother how to argue better? Dying to show your sister-in-law how to treat you better? Well, stop. it’s their problem and their choice to be as they are. Focus on you and let go of control.

11. I let go of the idea that my first career has to be right for a lifetime:

How can you make such a perfect call at 16 or 18 years of age? Let the first one – or the first five – be giant mistakes. Just keep pushing until you find the right career.

12. I let go of the lie that it’s too late to re-invent myself:

It is never too late to start over or toreinvent who you are and to become the person you have always wanted to be. Never.

13. I let go of the excuses that get in the way of my goals:

Stop lathering yourself with excuses. You are not fooling anyone especially yourself. The weight of excuses is heavy. Drop them. Just do what needs to be done!

14. I let go of the envy and jealousy of successful people:

The comparison game has a sad ending and you lose that game every time. Be inspired by the success of others and then mold it into your own path.

15. I let go of the victim mindset that says “pity me!”:

Sure, people will pity and feel bad for you but what does that get you? Let it go. Take on the abundance mindset that promises you the world’s riches starting with your thoughts. Adopt the right thoughts.

Get To Know Yourself: 20 Questions to Discover the Real You

At the core of our desires is living a life of purpose and meaning.

At the core of a life of purpose and meaning is being of service to others.

At the core of being of service to others is finding peace and happiness.

At the core of finding peace and happiness, we discover who we are.

And to do that, we must get over a little irony, that most of us hardly know – much less, know well – the single person we have spent every second of our existence with, our own selves.

Think you’re the exception? Let me ask you then: how well do you know yourself ?

We are not talking about taking a personality test or learning about your family history. Neither are we talking about your favorite colors, your best childhood friend or your high school prom experience (thank goodness about the last one ;)).

We are talking about something much greater and of higher consequence.

We are talking about who you are at your core, what most matters to you, what makes you come alive, what feeds your soul and what drains your spirit, and how to know the difference so you choose well as you move forward in life.

If you don’t know yourself all that well, you may still live a life in alignment with who you are but only by accident or some sheer stroke of luck.

And that, my darling, is too big a risk to take, so shall we eliminate the risk altogether?

Make it a certainty that you live in alignment with who you are not by accident or luck, but rather on purpose, by intention, by design.

How? By getting to know yourself really really well. One way to do that is to learn your values, passions and goals . Another is to ask the right questions.

Here are just 29 questions that open the door to having a real conversation with yourself. I want to ask you to answer these questions honestly for yourself.

1. What activity in your life lights you up with joy?
2. What is something you always love doing, even when you are tired or rushed? Why?
3. If a relationship or job makes you unhappy, do you choose to stay or leave?
4. What do you fear about leaving a
bad job or a bad relationship?
5. What do you believe is possible for you?
6. What have you done in your life that you are most proud of?
7. What is the thing that you are second most proud of?
8. What kind of legacy do you want to leave behind?
9. How does your being here in the universe change humanity for the better?
10. If you could have one single wish granted, what would it be?
11. How comfortable are you with your own mortality?
12. What is your highest core value?
13. To your best knowledge, how do other people perceive you?
14. How would you like others to perceive you?
15. How confident are you in your abilities to make decisions for yourself?
16. What is your biggest self-limiting belief ?
17. Who is the most important person in your life?
18. Who is your greatest role model?
19. Who is a person that you don’t like yet you spend time with?
20. What is something that is true for you no matter what?

A Quick Way To Bounce Back From Disappointment

The work by Abraham Zaleznik at Harvard proved that the way you respond to disappointment is usually an accurate predictor of how likely you are to achieve great success. If you respond to disappointment by learning the very most from it and then by putting it behind and processing forward, you are very likely to accomplish great things in the course of life.

N:B: Everyone faces difficulties every step of the way. The difference between high achievers and low achievers is simply that high achievers utilize adversity and struggles for growth, while low achievers allow difficulties and adversity to overwhelm them and leave them discouraged and dejected.

So today, choose to face difficulties with a positive attitude and bounce back from disappointment.

A Short Testimony By Rick Warren (Inspirational Speaker And Author)

This testimony has blown me apart. May I live for Him alone not for the things of this world. Patiently read through….

RICK WARREN’S (BEST selling Author, Inspirational Speaker) Interview…..

Pls Read this:

This is an absolutely incredible short interview with Rick Warren,
‘Purpose Driven Life’ author and
Pastor of Saddleback Church in California.

–In the interview by Paul Bradshaw with Rick Warren,

Rick said:
–People ask me, What is the purpose of life?

–And I respond:
In a nutshell, life is preparation for eternity. We were not made to last forever, and God wants us to be with Him in Heaven.

–One day my heart is going to stop, and that will be the end of my body– but not the end of me.*

–I may live 60 to 100 years on earth, but I am going to spend trillions of years in eternity.
This is the warm-up act –the dress rehearsal. God wants us to practice on earth what we will do forever in eternity..

–We were made by God and for God, and until you figure that out, life isn’t going to make sense.

–Life is a series of problems:
Either you are in one now, OR you’re just coming out of one, OR you’re getting ready to go into another one.

–The reason for this is that God is more interested in your character than your comfort; God is more interested in making your life holy than He is in making your life happy.

–We can be reasonably happy here on earth, but that’s not the goal of life. The goal is to grow in character, in Christ likeness.

–No matter how good things are in your life, there is always something bad that needs to be worked on.

–And no matter how bad things are in your life, there is always something good you can thank God for.

–You can focus on your purposes, or you can focus on *your problems:

–If you focus on your problems, you’re going into self-centeredness, which is my problem, my issues, my pain. But one of the easiest ways to get rid of pain is to get your focus off yourself and onto God and others.

–We need to ask ourselves: Am I going to live for possessions? Popularity?

–Am I going to be driven by pressures? Guilt? Bitterness? Materialism? Or am I going to be driven by God’s purposes (for my life)?

–When I get up in the morning, I sit on the side of my bed and say, God, if I don’t get anything else done today, I want to know You more and love You better.

God didn’t put me on earth just to fulfill a to-do list. He’s more interested in what I am than what I do.

–That’s why we’re called human beings, not human doings.

–Happy moments, PRAISE GOD.
–Difficult moments, SEEK GOD.
–Quiet moments, WORSHIP GOD.
–Painful moments, TRUST GOD.
–Every moment, THANK GOD.

–If you do not pass it on, nothing will happen.

But it will just be nice to pass it on to friends…

Just like I have done now.

How To Love People More And Judge Less

Recently I read a book called “Driven by Eternity” by John Bevere. This book has had an amazing impact in my life and has forever changed the way I love and view the people around me. This revelation could not have come at a more perfect time…

Shortly after reading this book, I saw a girl at a store making fun of a friend of mine for going to church. She went on about how Jesus was his only friend, she then began to mock Jesus. This astounded me!

I grew up in a tough Christian home, or what is known as the Bible Belt so I’ve never experienced someone being so blatantly disrespectful to God! At first I was fired up and wanted to say something to her, but thankfully no words came to mind.

I began to release my anger on ordering what I don’treally need. During my shopping, I began to reflect on the book I just read and I started to pray for her. I realized that she may not have anyone who can speak love and grace into her life and she needed it!

I began to pray that she would encounter God and would serve and glorify Him for the rest of her days on earth, and that she would get to spend eternity with Him.

In Luke 9:51-56 we have a Biblical example of this…

51 As the time approached for him to be taken up to heaven, Jesus resolutely set out for Jerusalem. 52 And he sent messengers on ahead, who went into a Samaritan village to get things ready for him; 53 but the people there did not welcome him, because he was heading for Jerusalem. 54 When the disciples James and John saw this, they asked, “Lord, do you want us to call fire down from heaven to destroy them?” 55 But Jesus turned and rebuked them. 56 Then he and his disciples went to another village.

In verse 54 James and John are so upset by these people’s behavior toward Jesus that they want to have this village and all its people killed and consumed in a fire from Heaven.

How condemning, how harsh, how final. Eternity is a long time.

I know we’ve all had times when we see family, friends or strangers sinning. Whether it be sexual immorality, drunkenness, idolatry, drugs or any other sin issue; our first reaction is judgment. We may say things like;

“I can’t believe they…”
“How could they…”

These statements are the exact opposite of how we should respond. As followers of Christ our only response should be love.

God’s desire is for us to pray for His mercy, the Holy Spirits conviction and for that person’s repentance and salvation. God is the ultimate judge, He needs no help from us. After all it is only a blood-stained cross that separates us from the lost.

Love People More and Judge Them Less

I challenge you to change your thought process. Next time you begin to judge someone or think negatively about them, pray for them instead! Pray for their salvation and for the Holy Spirit to do a work in them. This will change your life and the way you view all of God’s people!

Don’t Do the Devil’s Job for Him

Do you find yourself making it your job to control things? Do you stress out about things that you can’t control? If you’re anything like me, it’s more often than you would like to admit. God reminds me ALL THE TIME that He is the one in control, not me. Can we control everything that goes on in our lives? No. Letting go is something I still work on daily.

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When we take control of our own lives, things are never as good as when we let God have control. If we are controlling our lives, then we are the ones making decisions about our lives instead of aligning ourselves with the will and the word of God.

We can not do the devil’s job for him. The devil wants to come in, cause division in all areas of our lives, in the lives of those around us, and in the Kingdom. If the devil can get us to do his job for him, he can sit back and watch us crumble.

The need for control does the devil’s job for him because:

  1. It causes us stress.
  2. Makes us anxious.
  3. Creates division between us and others.
  4. It delays our obedience to God’s plan.

If we are under stress  and anxious, we are not trusting God. When we trust God and focus on His plan, we will be overwhelmed with a supernatural sense of security and comfort.

At the center of division is the problem of control. Division between people happens when both sides are fighting for control and neither is willing to fight for unity. When we fight for control at the expense of unity, we are doing the devil’s job for him.

“Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and a house divided against itself will fall.” Luke 11:17 NIV

Christine Caine says “delayed obedience is still disobedience“. When we take things into our own hands, we are telling God that we think our plan is better. We eventually always come back around to His plan because His plan for us is always better. There is not a better example of this than when I avoided serving in the kids ministry at my church. I used to work as an Assistant Director of a preschool in town. At church I did everything I could to avoid serving in kids since I worked with kids every day during the week. Guess what? I now serve on staff with the cKids team at Celebration Church. By delaying my obedience because I was trying to control things and do things my way. I spent two years avoiding the exact place God wanted to place me.

Here are 4 ways conquer your need for control:

  1. Align yourself with God’s word and His will.
  2. Take your issues to God first. When you do take it to another person, seek to tell them what God did in your life instead of seeking validation in your need to control things.
  3. Pray. Ask God to help you give full control over to Him in all areas of your life.
  4. Give grace to yourself and others.

What have you tried to have control over that didn’t turn out well? The good news is, it is never to late to hand it all over to God! Do not take on things you were never meant to carry. God is waiting and willing to take it back.

Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life

The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often merely the will to try it and the faith to believe that it is possible.

Richard M. Devos

You do not believe what you don’t see; you see what you already believe. You actually view your world through a lens of beliefs, attitudes, prejudices, and pre- conceived notions. You are not what you think you are, but what you think, you are.

Proverbs 23:7 says that as a man “thinketh in his heart, so is he.” This means that you always act on the outside based on your innermost beliefs and convictions about yourself.

In Mathew 9:29, Jesus says ” According to your faith, {it will be done} unto you.” This is another way of saying that your intense beliefs become your realities. They determine what happens to you.

All improvement in your life comes from changing your beliefs about yourself and your possibilities. Personal growth comes from changing your beliefs about what you can do and about what is possible for you. Would you like to double your income? Of course you would! Here is the question: Do you believe that is possible? How would you like to triple your income? Do you believe that is possible as well?

Whatever your level of skepticism, let me ask you a question. Since you started your first job, haven’t you already doubled or tripled your income? Aren’t you earning vastly more than you earned when you started? Haven’t you already proven to yourself that it is possible to double and triple your income? And what you have done before, you can do again probably over and over if you just learn how. You simply have to believe that it is possible.

According to Napoleon Hill, he said “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

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Let perseverance finish its work.

Every day holds a series of conflicts between the right way and the easy way. On a daily basis, in almost everything you do, you will be presented with the right way, and the easy way. Rarely do these two options have the same result. Every day your strength will be tested through your choices. Your strength is a byproduct of struggle; you must do what others don’t to achieve what others won’t; meaning, you must decide to take the right way, instead of the easy way.

The strength you have at this point in your life is a product of your willingness to struggle in the past. Your strength can be expanded and further developed through perseverance. Perseverance means to be steadfastness in doing something despite difficulty or delay in achieving success. No matter how difficult the conflicts that you face may become, in order to continue to grow in strength you must preserver by making the right choice, not the easy choice! James 1:4 says, “Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

In order to grow and become stronger; you must never allow yourself to reach a point where you feel you have ‘arrived’ or a place where you feel that you have everything together. Don’t allow yourself to get to place where you feel that the easy choice has become acceptable for your life. You must continue to push yourself. Be okay with allowing conflict and difficulties in your life. In every season of life and in every day you must always hold the desire to grow and become stronger than the person you are right now. Always be persevering regardless of the comfort you may have to give up during the process.

Making the right choice is hardly ever the same as taking the easy way to get through a situation. Sometimes the right choice can even be draining. When I am having a difficult time pressing on and moving in the right direction, this scripture always helps to motivate me, so I wanted to share it in this post:

1 Corinthians 9:24-27
Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. Therefore I do not run like someone running aimlessly; I do not fight like a boxer beating the air. No, I strike a blow to my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.

Today I encourage you to persevere through whatever it is that you may be going through. Allow yourself to struggle to do the right thing; don’t just take the easy way out. In the end, you will be rewarded and you will grow stronger. Never underestimate the important of little victories in doing the right thing. No matter how big or small something may seem to be, make the right choice; it will encourage you when something big comes around to make the same right choice. I encourage you today; no matter what season of life you are in, remember to press on. Make the right choices in your life today, weigh everything you are deciding on against the Word of God. Let perseverance finish its work in you!