Eventually, we all reach the crossroad of moving on or trying harder. While it’s difficult to go either way, the decision is what is more perplexing. Sometimes you can’t just let things be, and other times things really do just have to work themselves out. But how do we know the difference?
Well, we often don’t, and that’s the most important part. The process of figuring out what we can’t change and when it’s time to move on is the actual process of doing so. Because while you can’t change things when they are largely the decisions of others, your actions can change the mind’s of those people. How do you know when the universe will work it out and how do you know when it’s time for you to start ironing out the kinks? You don’t until you’ve tried.
It’s time to move on when you have tried to change things, but to no avail. It’s time to let the higher being or whatever it is you do or don’t believe in figure things out– and have faith in the funny little way that life tends to bring and take what we need at just the right times. But regardless of where you are in the journey, you have to keep trying until there is no other option. And that’s what’s going to be so incredible and humbling about when you finally realize it’s time to let go. Because you’ve been down to your knees and you don’t have anything more to give. That is what is going to bring you to a place of having something to let go of. It’s only then that the universe will take over. Trust it. Do it. You will find the “wisdom to know the difference” at the end.
Most times, I tend to be lost and don’t know what to do, especially when have exhausted myself to make a difference in my life. Since I got to the UK, have been blessed and favoured to work with a popular multinational company. But it is not enough for me, because I want a better position. Since am a graduate of double degrees, I applied for a managerial position several times, I get denied each time. I told myself the net time I apply and still denied, I was going to leave. But I remembered what my dad always tell me. Be grateful for humble beginnings. If it doesn’t work there, let it go. It will work in another place and in due time.
I’m ready to pass the test. I’m ready for the final result. I’m ready to close the chapter of pain and loss. I’m ready to heal from my past heartbreak. I’m ready to close that door forever. I’m ready to put an end to the stormy days and the lonely nights. I’m ready for you to reveal to me the reasons behind my struggles. I’m ready for the blessings that you’ve kept me waiting for. I’m ready for the blessings that follow every hardship.
I’m ready to accept your blessings. I now feel like I deserve them. I now have faith in you and your plans. I will be able to cherish the blessings you bring me. I will be able to appreciate the little things and be grateful for them because I know how hard it was to get them. I know how hard it was without them. I’ve learned not to take your blessings for granted.
I’m ready for your miracle because I think I learned my lessons. I think I’m becoming the person you wanted me to become. I think I’m closer to you more than ever now. I know you’re my healer. I only run to you when I’m confused. I only talk to you when I’m sad. I’m ready for your miracle because I know you heard me and my prayers. I know you want to see me happy and I know you want what’s best for me and I’m ready for it. I’m the best version of myself these days and I am prepared to receive your best gifts.
I know this is my year. I know this is my time. I know this is the part of my story where everything changes for the better. I know this is the part of my story that takes me to a whole new universe.
Because you and I both know how hard the journey has been, how hard the past few years have been and how tired I am. We both know that I tried it all, fell down and got back up. We both know that things haven’t been easy or smooth. We both know that I almost gave up on myself and my life and we both know that I’ve used up all my energy and my strength to fight back and rise again. We both know that I only have very little left in me to fight or try again. We both know that anything more than that will be more than I can handle so this is where I leave it all up to you.
This is where I surrender to your power. This is where I sit back as you fight my battles. This is where I raise my hands and tell you that I’ve done my part and I can’t do this on my own anymore.
And I think, I believe , this is where you tell me that I’ve seen enough and dealt with enough and passed all your difficult tests so here’s my reward. Here’s my miracle. Here’s the blessings that will take all the pain away. Here’s the magic that happens when you have faith in me and allow me to finish your story. It’s always better than the one you had in mind. I’m full of beautiful surprises and I’m ready to unfold them to you one by one.
To everyone waiting and patient to recieve their breakthrough, I say to you today, your breakthrough is here already. Open your hearts and recieve it by faith!
When is the last time you thought something, and never actually did it? If you’re like most of us, it happens almost daily. There are many things we think or want to do that we never actually do. Maybe you’re single and you pass someone you are initially attracted to and you say to yourself, “I’m going to talk to that person.” But then you just keep walking past, making excuses not to. Or maybe you are in a job and say, “I’m going to quit and start my own business,” but the fear of that keeps you from taking the next step.
Say It Out Loud
Now, in either one of these scenarios, what would happen if you told a friend of yours the exact same thing. By simply bringing another person into the discussion and speaking it out loud you most likely feel obligated to do it.
There is a great power in words. Not written words, or thought about words, but SPOKEN words. I’m not saying that there isn’t power in written words or thoughts, but there is something different and powerful about speaking the words out loud.
Psalm 33:9– “For when he spoke, the world began! It appeared at his command.”
Joshua 6:20(Battle of Jericho)– “When the trumpets sounded, the army shouted, and at the sound of the trumpet, when the men gave a loud shout, the wall collapsed; so everyone charged straight in, and they took the city.”
Genesis 1:3– “And God said, “Let there be light,” and there was light.” Throughout Genesis 1, every time God put something in existence the Bible reads, “And Godsaid,…”
Have you ever seen someone talking to themselves to get ready to do something? By simply speaking positive words to yourself, it can give you a different mentality.
Spoken Words Have Power
The scary part here is that you can just as easily have words affect you negatively. Maybe you have one of these friends: the friend who is always negative and always tells you how bad everything is when you talk to them. Wonder why things are always going poorly for them? They keep convincing themselves by speaking it out loud that things are bad. And a lot of the times it affects you as well. You have to speak positively into your own life and others.
When people say you can’t do something, you can easily combat that with YES, I CAN, or, better yet, YES, GOD CAN. It seems pretty simple, and maybe a little cheesy, but you can never have too many positive words spoken into your life.
Find those people that will speak positively to you, and make sure you are speaking positively to yourself and to anyone you speak to.
Do you know what your gifts are? Better yet, do you know how to use them? Even better – are you using them? God endows us all with talents that can be used to build His kingdom. You may be wondering what yours are, or if you even have any. Let me assure you that, yes, you have gifts and the Lord wants to use them! You can use your gifts in several facets, both in and outside of the church building.
Unfortunately, there’s a few myths that float around when it comes to using our God-given gifts. Let’s combat them here.
Myth #1: Only “special” people have gifts.
The bible clearly states that each of us has a unique gift.Romans 12:6says “we have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us.” The scripture doesn’t stop there, but urges us to actively use these gifts.1 Peter 4:10-11 says “as each one has received a gift, minister it to one another, as good stewards of God’s varied grace.” The word “serve” in this text means caring for the needs of others as the Lord guides in an active, practical way – literally, “kicking up dust” because one is “on the move.”
Myth #2: Gifts are only for platforms.
1 Corinthians 12:14says “Yes, the body has many different parts, not just one part. If the foot says, “I am not a part of the body because I am not a hand,” that does not make it any less a part of the body. And if the ear says, “I am not part of the body because I am not an eye,” would that make it any less a part of the body?” In this scripture, we see firsthand how each gift – no matter what position – is equally valuable. Sometimes we think that “real” gifts are designated for a stage. How wrong that is! Your gift – no matter how visible to others – is without a doubt important to the edification of the church.
Myth #3: Our gifts are for us.
If we don’t use our gifts from a foundation of love, they mean nothing.1 Corinthians 13:1-3says “Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I have become sounding brass or a clanging symbol. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, but have not love, it profits me nothing.” The primary use for our gifts is to serve one another in love. It’s important that we never lose sight of this foundation. God does not give us gifts for us to boast, but for us to wear humility and put our brethren before us.
After reading this, I would urge you to pray to God and ask Him to reveal how he wants to use your gifts. You are called to actively serve and strengthen the body of Christ. We need you – so get moving!
I don’t really have much to say today. But very precise and straight to the point.
According to uncle Paul, he says that if you and I want the good life, then we must keep our mind on good things.
Many believers want the good life, but they are passively sitting around wishing that something good would happen to them. Often, they are jealous of others who are living in victory and are resentful that their own lives are so different.
If you desire victory over your problems, if you truly want to live the resurrection life, you must have backbone and jot just wishbone! You must be active not passive. Right action begins with right thinking. Don’t be passive in your mind.
Every human being goes through seasons of struggling in their lives; it is something that we all have in common. Difficult times will look different for each of us. We are all in 1 of these 3 categories: In a difficult season, about to be in one, or just coming out of one. Super negative, right? From the world’s perspective, it sure is! But what about God’s perspective?
In my early twenties, my tendency was to give up and go a different direction when a difficult situation would present itself. When there was a ‘struggle’ I’d search for another way. However, as I grew in my relationship with God, I learned to persevere through these times of difficulty. Once I started persevering and refusing to just give up, I realized that I experience the growth in my life during my struggles. You cannot get where you need to be without going through the trials of today.
God has taught me over the last few years that my struggles are not roadblocks, they are actually landmarks. These struggles are things that I need to face in order to become who I am supposed to be in Him. Once I really started to understand that the struggles were a necessity for growth, two things happened:
1. I found myself deciding that I had to face them head on and remain positive in doing so. 2. After the victory, I found myself saying things like this: “That was the moment when change and growth started. That is what taught me the skills I needed in order to be where I am today.”
Since this principle has become part of who I am, I have grown so much! God has started using me to help others who are going through similar situations. All of this is possible only because instead of just giving up or turning a different direction, I trusted God and stayed faithful to Him. I continued to walk the way that He has called me to walk during those seasons.R
My perspective on difficult situations has been forever changed! I can’t begin to explain the amount of growth that I have experienced because of this.
I write this post today not to boast about being able to get through difficult situations, but instead to encourage you to do the same; press on! Start viewing struggling as a landmark, not a roadblock! James 1:2-4 has been a foundational verse for me on this topic:
“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” – James 1:2-4
I encourage you today, no matter what you are struggling with, remember that it truly is a landmark, one day you will look back and say: “That was the situation that God used to grow me.” Pray for God to give you the grace to persevere through whatever it is that you may be going through. Remember that He loves and cares for you and will help you as long as you remain faithful to Him.
Struggling is a landmark, not a roadblock. Press on through the time of testing and gain the testimony that will enable you to help others in the future!
Have you ever observed people or yourself feeling taunted by social norms?
I’ve noticed the history of this for myself, spanning back to childhood, and I’ve noticed it time and time again for others I encounter in my work, where people have fallen into the hole of comparing themselves to others and comparing themselves to socially accepted norms and measures of ‘success’. Granted, it’s a pretty darn big hole, so actually, it’s not that hard to fall into! When I’ve witnessed this Comparison Conundrum as I like to call it, it’s like hearing a cry echoing from deep within the hole, which sounds a bit like this:
Everyone else is married now, and I’m not. Something’s wrong.
Everyone else is buying houses now, I guess I should too.
I’ve got this job but it’s not really a career like other people have.
They’ve found their passion, I still don’t know what mine is.
I’m falling behind.
I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.
I want to ‘switch lanes’ in life but I don’t want to go backward. It’s too risky.
They are successful and did it that way; I should do it that way too.
They are thinner/more attractive/more fashionable/more successful/braver/stronger than me. I’m not enough. I’ll never be enough.
I’m not capable like them, I guess I’m just not destined to have a life like them.
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
This hole is so easy to fall into because often we’re invited into the hole, with our mind reinforcing that we’re falling behind via negative thoughts, supported by well-meaning people telling us that we should do this and that. So, of course, we’d then end up in the hole when everything points that way. Our mind reinforces what we see and hear, telling us it is true and if only we could figure out what we need to be and do in order to be like everyone else, then everything would be fine, right?
Except, you’re not everyone else. You’re you. No one is like you. No one. You make your own decisions about what you need and want, and when it feels good to you. If you want a house right now, buy one. If you don’t, don’t. If you want to travel, travel. If you want a big career, have it. If you want to do volunteer work, do it. If you want to be single, be single. If you want kids, have them. If you don’t, don’t. Do what feels good to you, not what others tell you that you should feel good about. And when I say others, I primarily include in that all the advertising, all the propaganda and all the mass media messaging we see day to day that conditions us in a way that we don’t even consciously realize. Start listening to the one thing you can trust – your soul. Your soul is your true self, below any rampant negative thoughts that are leading you astray.
And you might say, “I can’t hear my soul. I don’t know what it’s telling me!”
To which I would suggest that you be still and quiet as often as possible. Listen without fear of what rises up from within you. You do know what you want and need. You do know what makes you feel good. And, let your signals guide you home.
Listening to the advice of others, proffered from their own paradigm, will never triumph over your inner knowing and divine guidance.
Do you compare yourself to others?
Do you compare your situation and status to that of others?
What prompts you to do that?
How does that make you feel?
If you’re feeling sad, alone, disconnected, lacking, not enough or plain old exhausted from it, then give it up. Chose to let it go and be open to exploring who you are and what is important and meaningful to the real you – that is, you below any negative thoughts, and conditioning and any fear. We all have negative thoughts, we have all been conditioned and we all have fear. If you are alive, then you have experienced all of this, it is impossible not to. But now you are awake, and you have the choice to either be defined by these things or to break free.
Being someone you are not, in an attempt to live up to social norms, means that signals will eventually intervene to help you. As Marianne Williamson says, “The universe is self-organising and self-correcting”. If you are not aligned to who you really are, your true self, the natural order of the world in which we live will eventually assist you to see this. Intervening signals are not always pleasant, but they are signposts to help us head in a new, better, healthier, more beneficial direction. When things in your life ‘turn to custard’, it could well be because you are not in your flow, you might have accidentally swum into someone else’s flow. So, get out of their river and get in your own
Here is my final word on this subject, and when I say it to you, know that whatever I write is really a message to myself as much as it is to you. For in saying it to you I am reminding us both:
NEVER compare yourself to others. EVER.
NEVER try to be someone else. EVER.
You were born extraordinary and unique.
Any time you compare yourself to others, trying to be something else or like someone else, you deny the beautiful individuality that you were gifted when your soul chose to come into this life.
Create your own norms in life. The norms of society have no bearing on you unless you choose them. At all times, be yourself. There is nothing more magical, perfect and beautiful than you being you.
I read a quote in a friends email today that you have heard, but I am going to steal and share in this post. It read, “Life is not about waiting for the storms to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain.”
As I do with most things I related this to sports. Golf and Football come to mind when I think of sports that you have to know how to play in the rain. They only stop when there is lighting and thus there needs to be practice for how to compete in these conditions. For football, I know that teams use “wet ball” drills and make it a point to practice when it is actually raining outside. In golf, it is being prepared with the right equipment (rain gear, gloves, etc).
In both cases, it is a very different way of playing the game that you may have learned in perfect or near perfect conditions. While I don’t prefer playing in the rain, understand that sometimes it just has to be done.
God calls us to “dance in the rain” through the storms of life. Being a follower of Christ is not always Sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows (random Leslie Gore reference). But just because it isn’t perfect weather, doesn’t mean that we need to run inside and not continue to play this game that we love (Following Christ). Satan wants to push you inside and have you not share the love of Jesus with others. I promise you that storms will come in your life, and there will be times that you don’t feel like being a Christ Follower. Maybe that’s right now. But in those moments, I encourage you to remember that Jesus came before us, and gave us a great road map of how to dance in the rain and make it through the storms and struggles we encounter. The more you do this the stronger you will get and you will begin to welcome the storms in your life.
James 1:2-4 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.
Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a huge crowd of witnesses to the life of faith, let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with ENDURANCE the race God has set before us. We do this by keeping our eyes on Jesus, the champion who initiates and perfects our faith. Because of the joy awaiting him, he endured the cross, disregarding its shame. Now he is seated in the place of honor beside God’s throne (Hebrews 12: 1-2 NLT).
I was going for a jog on the treadmill the other day. It was the first time that I had been running in a couple of weeks, so my stamina wasn’t quite where I would have liked it to be. Foolishly, I still tried to complete my workout as if I had been consistently training. Needless to say, this was a mistake. About halfway through the workout, I began to get tired and cramp up. Just as I was about to jump off the treadmill and give up, something rose up within me and I began to speak God’s word over myself. I began repeating over and over, “Greater is he that is within me, than he that is in the world.”
I had to slow down the treadmill a little bit and run at a slower pace, but that encouragement was enough to keep my legs moving. For the rest of the workout, I felt the Holy Spirit guiding me. He told me when to slow the treadmill down, and at what point I could speed it up again. He knew exactly how much I could take and for how long if I was going to reach my goal at the end of the workout. When it was all said and done, I experienced a little more pain that I would have hoped, but I completed my goal for distance in pretty good time. God knew exactly what pace I needed to run at in order to run with the endurance to reach the finish line. This is exactly what he promises to do in our race of faith.
Running this race of faith can be downright confusing and difficult sometimes. When we hand over our lives to Christ, we are making the commitment to trust Him no matter how we feel or what the circumstances look like. We are putting faith in His sovereignty, and believing that all things will eventually come together for good, even when it doesn’t make worldly sense. But it is so awesome that we serve a God who didn’t just come and say, “Here is the goal. I want you to run 1,000 miles over the next 40 years at a pace of 8 minutes per mile. Good luck!” Thankfully, we serve a God who says that He will not only run with us every step of the way, but He will even order our steps (Psalm 37:23 & Proverbs 16:9).
The fact of the matter is that God can see so much more than we can see in our limited understanding. His ways are so much higher than our ways (Isaiah 55:9). He knows more about our race of faith that we could ever conceive. He knows exactly where we are. He knows when it is time for us to speed up and when it is time to slow down. He knows the exact pace at which we can run if we are going to run with the endurance necessary to fulfill the plans He has laid before us.
What does that look like in our lives? Sometimes, it may take the form of a tremendous obstacle or hardship that God is using to send a message that it is time to slow down and connect with Him. It could be that He is allowing that obstacle to redirect our path in order to protect us from an even more difficult obstacle down the road. It could be the exact opposite. We could be in a season where it seems like nothing can get in our way. He may be blessing us with a mighty capacity to run far and fast because He knows that we are currently in a place where we can sustain that pace and not lose sight of Him.
No matter what your present situation is, God knows exactly where you are and exactly what you need. He knows if it is time to speed up or slow down. Your only job is to relinquish control of the process and trust Him. Not only can He see your finish line, but He ordained it. He designed you to run at a certain pace for a specified period of time. The more we submit to that design, the less painful the process and the greater our endurance. Lean into God today, ask Him if it is time to speed up or slow down. Give Him control, and let Him establish your pace of endurance.