Thankfulness Is The Beginning Of Happiness: Why Are People So Unhappy?

We’re all searching for happiness in life. But many of us look in the wrong places. Start with thankfulness. Thankfulness is the beginning of happiness!As a human race, people are more unhappy than ever before. I’ve discovered that there are three main reasons for this decline in our overall happiness. The three main reasons for our unhappiness are comparison, comfort, and entitlement. I’ll explain each in detail below.

#1. Comparison

Thanks to big media, TV, movies, and even social media platforms, we’re always comparing ourselves to someone else. Comparison will steal your happiness quicker than anything else. The key to overcoming the comparison game is to take these things for what they are. Remember, online, and on TV, you’re seeing someone’s best. Both their successes and their failures, you see it polished and made interesting for you. At the end of the day, each of us are human, and what you see on a screen is not reality. Stop comparing yourself!

#2. Comfort

This is the silent killer. Do you want to die faster? Live a comfortable life. I could really go on a rant about comfort, but I’ll save it for a content later. Here’s the summary, comfort is an illusion. The more comfortable you are consistently, the less happy you’ll be. The more uncomfortable you are, the more you push yourself and don’t allow yourself to relax, the happier you will be. (In moderation, of course) If you want to be happier in life, get off the couch, do something crazy that makes you really uncomfortable, stretch yourself!

#3. Entitlement

I’ve heard many people say that because Buhari is the president, they’ve felt more unhappy. GROW UP. Since when is it someone else’s responsibility to make you happy? News flash, life isn’t about you, and it never will be. Yes, I know, I’m being harsher than I usually am here. But many people need to hear this. Life isn’t about you, stop acting like it is. Take responsibility for your life and circumstances. Make the best of every season that you’re in. If there’s something you don’t like happening around you, fill the gap, be the solution instead of the complaining voice. (Remember, I love you all! I’ll stop being harsh now.)

One more thing, happiness is not circumstantial.

Happiness doesn’t come from having a great job or owning a successful business, and it doesn’t come from being debt-free or extremely wealthy. It doesn’t come from being in a stable relationship or having a lot of friends. Everything I just mentioned makes you FEEL happy, but it’s all a by product. Happiness is a mindset, not a set of circumstances.

Obviously, there are more reasons why people are so unhappy than I mentioned above. I have found these three reasons to be the root of the happiness crisis that we’re facing. If you can overcome these three things, you’ll begin being happier. But let’s not stop there! Let’s dive into ways to proactively increase your happiness.

How can I be happier?

If you want to be happier in life, you must understand that happiness is a mindset. It’s not your circumstances. And you don’t obtain happiness by avoiding the three main reasons that people are so unhappy that I mentioned above. The key to beginning to live a happier life is to get into a mindset of happiness. The best way to start shifting your mindset is by being thankful. Thankfulness is the beginning of happiness. This isn’t always easy, but if you can remember it in your daily life, you can start becoming a happier person.

In conclusion, remember to avoid comparison, comfort, and entitlement because circumstances do not lead to happiness. Instead, remember that thankfulness is the beginning of happiness. You can become happier by expressing gratitude, making life about more than yourself, and lastly, and ultimately, that each of us is free in Christ!PS: Am also working on myself on this matter. I post this to also find happiness in what I do, forgetting whatever challenges am having at the moment. We shall overcome by the Grace of God.

You Are Blessed More Than You Know

Do you know how incredible blessed you are? There are so many little things that we take for granted. The fact that you can read this means you are not one of the 774 million people in the world who can’t read or write a single world (statisticbrain.com). Can you imagine going through life without being able to read texts, emails, or a book to your children? Let alone trying to find a good paying job to support your family.

The phone or computer you are reading this on also puts you in a distinguish category 99% of the world would kill for. Did you know the median average income worldwide is $10,000 (Gallup)? There are some of us that spend that much in a month or two between our mortgage, transport, feeding, etc…. Imagine trying to feed your family on that for an entire year.

Please don’t feel bad for being blessed, that’s not what I am trying to get at. There is nothing wrong with accumulating wealth and living a comfortable life style, it’s a gift from God. Where we need to be careful is that we don’t get too comfortable and begin to feel we are entitled to a certain life style or certain things.

Luke 12:48 tells us “…From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded. And from the one trusted with much, much more will be expected.” Are you treating your possessions like they are Gods and asking him what you should do with them? The bible tells us we are stewards on Gods behalf. He has given you a house, car, a good bank account, children, a nice house, etc… Do you feel like you have done a good job managing these items for God? If there was a big board meeting with God and he asked how his portfolio was doing he put you in charge of, what would your presentation look like? Would there be pictures of you whining and crying because you didn’t get the Lariat package on your new whip? Or would there be pictures of you using your new whip to help someone at church move their mom into the nursing home?

Everyone likes nice things and wants a comfortable life style. But let me remind you that Christian living is not an easy and cushy life style. I had a hard time with this once I rededicated my life to Christ. I instantly thought that blessing would shower down upon me and life would just be gravy. When things didn’t turn out that way I became mad and frustrated that I wasn’t receiving what Iwanted. Through various avenues God showed me I was wrong for feeling and thinking this way and issued me a challenge. Every night when I would pray I was to say one thing I was thankful for no matter how big or small I thought it was. The other side of it was that I couldn’t repeat the same item I was thankful for within a 30 day time frame.

I want to issue the same challenge to you and your family. Whether you thank God during your prayers, journaling, devotions, or whenever, take time to tell God what you are thankful for that he gave you. God loves a thankful heart because not only does it show a loving devotion to him but also a faith/surrendering that he has control over your life. And I can speak from personal experience that this challenge will change your perspective on life in a huge positive way.

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